Wednesday, June 15, 2022

The Rabble Is Stirred Up.


New York Magazine has an article about “Grooming” is the 2022 take on the 1950s and 1960s Lavender Scare of the Sen. McCarthy and Anita Bryant era. It worked for the Republicans back then and now they are at it again stirring up their hate. There were over 300 comments on their Facebook page and growing most of the comments are coming from very angry conservatives spreading their hate.

The Long, Sordid History of the Gay Conspiracy Theory Today’s right-wing campaign against “groomers” is America’s latest moral panic.
New York Magizine
By James Kirchick
May 31, 2022


A specter is haunting America — the specter of sexual degeneracy.

Across the country, Republican state legislators are proposing bills to prohibit discussion of sexual orientation and gender identity in classrooms, purportedly to “protect” students from the perverted designs of predatory gay teachers. Prominent right-wing activists bandy about groomer as a term of opprobrium, accusing their political adversaries of trying to sexually exploit children while invoking hoary stereotypes of gay men being pedophiles. According to PEN America, a third of the books banned in public schools over the past academic year contain LGBTQ+ characters and themes. And in a troubling sign that a movement once confined to the fringes of American politics may be shaping its contours for years to come, some 30 candidates pledging fealty to QAnon, the far-right conspiracy theory envisioning a ring of cannibalistic child-sex traffickers at the heart of the American republic, are running for Congress.

Sensing political opportunity, some Republicans in Washington have exploited the passions brewing in the provinces. During last month’s confirmation hearings for Ketanji Brown Jackson, Senators Ted Cruz and Josh Hawley attempted to outdo each other in flinging accusations that the newest addition to the Supreme Court had betrayed a soft spot for child-sex predators during her tenure as a federal district court judge. Outgoing representative Madison Cawthorn raised eyebrows with his tales of “the sexual perversion” — specifically, cocaine-fueled orgies — “that goes on in Washington.” Responding to news of an infant-formula shortage, Elise Stefanik, the third-ranking House Republican, blamed “pedo grifters.”

Moral panics are nothing new in America. “We ought to learn by our mistakes,” President Harry Truman bitterly complained in 1950 as Senator Joseph McCarthy accused him and his administration of knowingly harboring communist subversives. “We’ve repeated this sort of hysteria over and over in our history,” Truman continued, reeling off a series of dates referring to the Salem witch trials, the Alien and Sedition Acts, an Anti-Masonic Party presidential campaign, the cresting of the anti-Catholic Know Nothing movement, the founding of the Ku Klux Klan, and the first Red Scare.

While McCarthyism would exhaust itself several years before the death of its namesake in 1957, a concurrent mass frenzy, chillingly resonant with the present-day fixation over sexual degenerates atop the commanding heights of American politics, would continue for decades. In December 1950, just a few weeks after Truman issued his gripe about the perennial susceptibility of his countrymen to moral panics, a Senate investigative subcommittee released the bipartisan report “Employment of Homosexuals and Other Sex Perverts in Government.” Commissioned in response to the shocking revelation, uttered in passing by an undersecretary of State at a congressional hearing earlier that year, that the State Department had dismissed 91 employees on the grounds of homosexuality, the report stated, “One homosexual can pollute a Government office.”

And it is starting up again the Republicans know that it worked once demonizing a whole population of people to get votes and campaign donation so they are try it again.

What is different from back then is that now violence has been added to mix of fear and hate. Look what happened in Idaho…

Idaho officers getting death threats after arresting 31 Patriot Front white nationalists near Pride event
The majority of the threats being made appear to be from groups outside of the local community, the Coeur d’Alene police chief said.
NBC News
By Doha Madani
June 13, 2022


Idaho police said they've received death threats since arresting 31 men affiliated with white nationalist group Patriot Front near an annual LGBTQ+ event over the weekend.

Coeur d'Alene Police Chief Lee White spoke to reporters Monday, saying that his department has fielded about 149 calls in the aftermath of the arrests. He said about 50 percent of the calls have been praise from the community, who offer their names and express pride in the department.

"And the other 50 percent — who are completely anonymous, who want nothing more than to scream and yell at us and use some really choice words — offer death threats against myself and other members of the police department merely for doing our jobs," White said. "Those people obviously remain anonymous."

Officers have also received threats of doxxing, a practice in which someone publishes personal information such as phone numbers or addresses online, White said. The majority of the threats being made appear to be from outside the Coeur d’Alene community, according to the chief.

It all started with a 911 phone call of men loading into the back of a U-Haul truck…

"This one concerned citizen rather than pulling out their phone and recording this for their 15 minutes on YouTube — or Snapchatting it or something like that — took the time to call 911 to report some suspicious activity," White said.

"And as a result, we likely stopped a riot from happening downtown."

That is what is different, social media, guns, and hate it is a deadly mixture.

PBS also had an article on the hate.

Online right-wing extremists amp up anti-LGBTQ rhetoric during Pride Month
By Rebecca Boone, Associated Press
June 13, 2022


[…]

Around the same time, a lawmaker from the northernmost region of the state, Republican Rep. Heather Scott, told an audience that drag queens and other LGBTQ supporters are waging “a war of perversion against our children.”

A toxic brew of hateful rhetoric has been percolating in Idaho and elsewhere around the U.S., well ahead of the arrests of the Patriot Front members at the pride event Saturday in Coeur d’Alene.

[…]

In the same way that it mobilized against Black Lives Matter in the nation’s capital in December, the Patriot Front harnesses what’s in the news cycle — in this case, drag queen story hours, disputes about transgender people in schools, and LGBTQ visibility more broadly.

A “massive right-wing media ecosystem” has been promoting the notion that “there are people who are trying to take your kids to drag shows, there are trans people trying to ‘groom’ your children,” Lewis said.

The rhetoric has been amplified by right-wing social media accounts that use photos and videos of LGBTQ individuals to drive outrage among their followers.

Several posts have falsely sought to label teachers and librarians who accept the LGBTQ community as abusers or groomers of children. Others have lambasted pride events or drag performances as “depraved.”

One photo shared widely on social media this week falsely claimed a “Drag Queen Story Hour” performer flashed their genitals to children while reading aloud. But the photograph, from a suburban Minneapolis library in 2019, clearly shows the performer was wearing tan undergarments.

They are generating hate, just look at Board of Education meetings, those peaceful commission meeting have turned combative. Reuters reported that…

Local school officials across the United States are being inundated with threats of violence and other hostile messages from anonymous harassers nationwide, fueled by anger over culture-war issues. Reuters found 220 examples of such intimidation in a sampling of districts

People are taking there anger out on anyone who opposes them, the intimidation preventing good people from speaking out.

The NY Magazine goes on...

As the long tail of the “Lavender Scare” demonstrates, and what the current spate of bills stigmatizing gay people as sexual predators lamentably still shows, fear of homosexuality has played a large, yet largely unappreciated, role in American politics and society. It has impacted not just gay people but the country itself, poisoning perceptions of reality and dividing us unnecessarily. Thousands of qualified people lost their jobs, and untold numbers more refrained from entering public service because of the irrational terror homosexuality once inspired in the hearts of most Americans.

Center to all this hate and violence is the right-wing belief that sexual orientation and gender identity is a choice. Even after all these decades people still believe that we choose to be gay and that people can be converted to be LGBTQ+ that is where the term “grooming” comes from the belief that it is a “lifestyle.” They still believe that “Gay” people (I use “Gay” people because the haters don’t see any difference between gay, trans, and queer.) are like rabbits having sex with anything that moves… or doesn’t move. They don’t not believe that “Gay” people are in long term relationships. They still see us as “mental illness” and since many of them are evangelical Christians as immoral.

Much in the way QAnon has emboldened a new generation of far-right media outlets dedicated to exposing the depraved sexual peccadilloes of America’s corrupt ruling class, so did the Eulenburg affair mark a major moment in the ability of the mass media to instigate and shape populist passions. By leveraging public anger over an elite circle of “pederasts,” the German popular press exerted unprecedented influence over traditional institutions of authority such as the monarchy, the aristocracy, and the military. In 1914, five years after the furor subsided, the Berlin correspondent for the New York Times observed that “the upheaval caused by Harden’s revelations was the most stirring victory wrought in the name of public opinion which Modern Germany has yet witnessed.” Some faulted the attitudes inflamed by the scandal for the policies that plunged the Continent into war. In 1933, the year another authoritarian and militaristic political movement took power in Germany, the pioneering gay-sex researcher Magnus Hirschfeld reflected that the Eulenburg affair was “no more and no less than a victory for the tendency that ultimately issued in the events of the World War.”

As fascism spreads once again it need hate to grow on, it worked in the 1930s and it is working again; liberals are morally corrupt and conservatives carry the sword of Damocles to strike down the unmoral.

What is different from the 1950s is that we are now on the verge of being a one party country, over half of the states are controlled by one party dominating the state legislatures by a super majority. And they are solidifying their control by gerrymandering, and controlling who can vote.

For those engaged in it, the moral panic over “grooming” accomplishes what earlier iterations of the Homintern, like any conspiracy theory, did: offer soothingly simple explanations for perplexing phenomena. If the latest anti-gay hysteria could be attributed to a single statistic, it would be the one reported by Gallup last year that the percent of adults identifying as other than heterosexual has doubled over the past decade from 3.5 percent in 2012 to 7.1 percent. Much of this increase owes to the 21 percent of Gen Z that identifies as LGBTQ+. While it’s certainly possible the LGBTQ+ proportion of Americans born between 1997 and 2003 is twice that of millennials and nine times that of baby-boomers, a more likely explanation is that as societal acceptance of nonnormative sexual orientations and gender identities has increased, so has the propensity of young people to claim those orientations and identities for themselves — or at the least experiment with them.

Many of the comments on the Facebook page commented on the rise of the LGBTQ population as proof that we are grooming children. And totally ignore the fact that many LGBTQ+ people feel safer to come out because it goes against their narrative of grooming. They see all the Pride events as “grooming” and drag queens reading at libraries as recruitment.

One of the driving forces is that conservatives fear change, they are stuck in the 1950 image of the “Father Knows Best” where Blacks knew “their place” and LGBTQ people were tightly closeted and anything other than the lilly-white Christian imagine of their dreams they fear.


I don't like writing about hate and violence, I much rather write about the good times. However, I feel it is important to know what we are facing out there, all this anger is directed at forcing us back into the closet and I feel that we have to stand up to the violence.

We can do that by getting out the vote.

I never was a member of a political party but I realized that we can only bring change about in the ballot box and as an activist I realized that I had to join a political party. I also realized that it took more  than being a party member, you also had to take an active part.

I worked for the US Senate campaign of Lamont against Lieberman and I again when he ran for governor. I have gone to Washington DC twice to lobby for the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA) once in 2008 and again in 2014.

You cannot and sit on your butts, we need everyone to take an active part in the upcoming elections… stuff envelopes, drive people to the voting places on election days, on the phone banks, going door-to-door and wherever they needs you.

Lives depend on winning the national elections! Can you imagine what the Republicans can do with control of the federal government, you thought Trump was bad, in today’s climate it will be even worst with the anti-trans and anti-LGB legislation they could pass.

I am worried about the future of our country.

Tuesday, June 14, 2022

Anything But Us

Everyone know that Fox News is conservative but this is how they avoid covering anything positive about us.

Fox Sports doesn't show 'Jeopardy' champ Amy Schneider throwing out first pitch
Instead of carrying her toss during Saturday's Dodgers-Giants telecast, NASCAR driver Kurt Busch was shown in a pregame ceremony — from Thursday.
NBC News
By David K. Li
June 13, 2022


Fox Sports opted against airing "Jeopardy" champion Amy Schneider throwing out a first pitch during the network’s coverage of a baseball game from San Francisco this weekend, instead showing footage of NASCAR driver Kurt Busch making a ceremonial toss.

Schneider, an Oakland resident who triumphed in 40 consecutive "Jeopardy" contests and is the show's greatest female player, took the mound ahead of the Giants-Los Angeles Dodgers game on Saturday.

The unexplained snub took on even greater weight since Schneider, the first transgender woman to qualify for "Jeopardy's" Tournament of Champions, had appeared Saturday as part of Pride Day at Oracle Park.

[…]

The Dodgers and Giants put aside their ancient rivalry and both donned caps with rainbow colors instead of L.A.'s distinctive white and San Francisco's orange.

How petty was that?

New Kid On The Block

At least that is what it looks like. Middlesex hospital has their gender clinic, then came Yale-New Haven and now it looks like Hartford Hospital group wants to join the two.

Study: Transgender Youth Unlikely to Retransition

Unlike many things for youth – questionable fashion choices, outlandish hairstyles or the withering stare - gender identity is not a phase, an assertion reinforced by a recent study published by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

In its journal, Pediatrics, the Academy examined the gender identity of teens five years after they socially transitioned to the gender opposite of their birth gender to address concerns that youth making early childhood social transitions might later change their gender identification, or retransition.

The examination of almost 400 transgender youth showed that at the end of the five-year period, 94 percent still identified as transgender.

Kind of put holes in the Republican mantra that it is only a phase that children go through.

He [Derek Fenwick, PsyD] stressed that it’s important to understand that every person’s gender journey is unique. Some youth may choose social transition only while others opt for such medical-affirming treatments as puberty blockers, gender-affirming hormones and/or surgery.

We are on our own journey in life, to paraphrase Smokey the Bear, only you know when you are ready. Not the doctor, not the therapist, not your friend online, only you know.

Back when I was first testing the waters I was at a trans conference and a speaker was telling us how to plan our transition. The speaker had a whole time line for us to lay out, and the whole thing was bull! I found that the whole plan needed to be thrown out, that this is seat-of-pants flying. You do what is right for you when you feel it is right to do.

“I strongly believe that we as human beings are constantly evolving, changing, learning about ourselves. As such, we need to also view gender identity and sexual orientation in this way,” Dr. Fenwick said. “We should allow people to feel comfortable and open in exploring and understanding the various dynamics and nuances of identity.”

I think that for the parents it is worst, they love their child and want best for them but don’t know where to turn, clinics like the three in Connecticut not only help their child but also the whole family.

“Parental thoughts that the child may transition and then later feel comfortable identifying with the gender originally assigned at birth may come about from different factors. It may be lack of education around gender, fear about how society will perceive the child, fear for the child’s safety or their own anxiety related to the transition,” Dr. Fenwick explained. “I always find it important to say that this period of change is also new for parents and they are also going through a transition that needs to be discussed and addressed.”

Remember you do not want a healthcare provider who says, “I think that you are ready.” you want a provider who asks you what you think and then discusses why you think that. They are a guide not a leader.

Monday, June 13, 2022

Making Us The Scapegoats.

AIDS was called the “Gay Disease” the conservatives pinned that on the LGBTQ community, Trump tried to pin Covid on Asians and now the conservatives are trying to demonize Monkeypox on us again.

Canadian TV News wrote,

A theory that the recent outbreak of monkeypox may be tied to sexual activity has put the gay community in an unfortunate position, having fought back against previous and continued stigma around HIV and AIDS, an LGBTQ2S+ centre director says.

David Hawkins, executive director of the West Island LGBTQ2+ Centre in Beaconsfield, Que., told CTV News Channel on Saturday that the situation is frustrating, and he worries the conversation around monkeypox will indirectly impact and stigmatize the LGBTQ2S+ — lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, two-spirit and other — community yet again.

And a newspaper in California wrote,

Conservatives target LGBTQ+ over monkeypox
Beverly Press
By Rance Collins
May 26, 2022


On May 24, the Sacramento Public Health Department said there is a likely case of monkeypox in the county, which would be the first reported case in California following international concerns regarding an outbreak.

[…]

“What we know about monkeypox is that while it is affecting the LGBTQ+ community globally, it is not a sexually transmitted disease and anyone can contract monkeypox through close personal contact regardless of sexual orientation,” Stonewall Democratic Club president Alex Mohajer said. “Attempts to make queer people the boogeyman by conservative politicians and politicizing the virus is dangerous and unacceptable, and an age-old tactic used to justify stripping rights away from minorities.”

Duffy said that when a contagious virus is falsely pinned on a single population, “we close off recognition of potential cases in other communities.”

The problem besides the obvious one that it stigmatize the LGBTQ community is that non-LGBTQ community do not take proper precautions because they think that the disease doesn’t affect them. Here is a flier from Fenway Health...


As they say the problem with stigmatizing a community is that the disease goes underground and people are less likely to report it and delay in going for treatment. Monkeypox is not a STD but rather more like Tuberculosis where it is spread by close prolonged proximity to an infected person.

So why are the conservatives spreading the lies?

For the same reason that they tried to spread the lies about COVID calling it the “Asian Flu” to demonize foreigners and generate hate against them. After Trump started to call COVID after that moniker hate crimes against Asian rose by 339 percent!

Sunday, June 12, 2022

Low Hanging Fruit

LGBTQ people are the low hanging fruit that is easily picked but what about the other fruit, where do they stand once we are gone?

Cruz, Lee lead over 50 lawmakers urging Supreme Court to reaffirm religious liberty in artistic freedom case
A Colorado-based web designer says her religious beliefs do not allow her to create a website for same-sex couples
Fox News
By Kelly Laco
June 8, 2022


Over 50 Republicans in Congress are filing an amicus brief at the Supreme Court calling on the high court to reaffirm constitutionally protected free speech and religious liberty in a closely-watched case pitting religious freedom and artistic expression against LGBTQ rights.

Sen. Ted Cruz, R-Texas, and Sen. Mike Lee, R-Utah, are leading the Supreme Court filing, which includes 20 Senate and 38 House of Representatives co-signers.

The case, 303 Creative LLC v. Elenis, involves Colorado-based web designer Lorie Smith, who says her religious beliefs would not allow her to create a custom wedding website for same-sex couples.

The Court will decide whether applying a public-accommodation law to compel an artist to speak or stay silent violates the Free Speech Clause of the First Amendment.

"A victory in favor of 303 Creative would mean a victory for religious freedom everywhere. Compelled speech against anyone’s religious beliefs is an egregious infringement on the most fundamental liberties our Constitution protects. Every American should have the freedom to pursue their professions without being forced to sacrifice their religious beliefs," Cruz told Fox News Digital.

Okay lets stop for a moment and think this through.

What they are saying is that it would be okay to discriminate against people because your religion tenets says it is okay.

What else in the past have they used their beliefs to discriminate?

An article in the Washington Post said,

Yet while the issues confronting the court are fresh, the larger tension between religious freedom and civil rights actually stretches far back in American history. In battles over slavery and racial segregation, religion and scripture were often cited as justification for maintaining inequality. Until the civil rights era, refusals to serve African Americans were often cloaked under the guise of religious freedom. As social norms changed, the religious justifications for this bigotry became legally untenable.

Religious freedom has been weaponized so frequently in civil liberties debates because of the cultural and constitutional weight it carries. Such appeals have the potential to reshape cultural and religious worlds: to make a group’s political convictions and cultural practices appear more “religious,” or more central to their religion, than they otherwise might have been. For this reason, the scope and meaning of religious freedom have been constantly contested throughout American history — for every group would like to use this powerful value to protect its other beliefs. Which is why religious freedom must always be balanced against other American ideals, lest we allow it to trample on other deeply held values.

In the 19th century, slaveholders and their sympathizers defended slavery by pointing to its presence in the Bible as evidence that it fit within God’s plan for social order. They also interpreted biblical stories like those about Cain and Abel and the supposed “curse of Ham” as proof that God had made “Negroes” to be slaves.

What about renting a room to an unmarried couple?

From an article in the LA Times,

In a pivotal test of religious rights versus fair-housing laws, the state Supreme Court agreed Thursday to decide whether landlords can cite their religious beliefs to refuse rentals to unmarried couples.

The high court, in a brief order signed by all seven justices, set aside a widely debated appellate court ruling that held that the constitutional right of a Downey couple to free exercise of religion would be violated by forcing them to rent to a woman and her boyfriend.

And interracial marriage?

From an article in VOX

An event venue in Mississippi has issued an apology after its owner was shown on video saying that her “Christian belief” led her to decline hosting a wedding ceremony for an interracial couple.

“The owner took a look at my brother’s fiancée’s page and wrote her back to say they won’t be able to get married there because of her beliefs,” Welch told Deep South Voice on Sunday. “He told my mom and she contacted the owner through messenger to only get a ‘seen’ with no reply. That’s when I took it upon myself to go get clarification on her beliefs.”

It seems to me that just about any discrimination can be justified by claiming that it is a person’s religious beliefs.

In the past the courts have issued guidelines to determine if a law violates “religious freedom” the guidelines are called the “Lemon Test.” According to the Legal Dictionary,

The Lemon Test is a test courts use to determine whether governmental action violates the Establishment Clause of the First Amendment of the Constitution. For example, the Lemon Test is a court’s tool used to rule on whether the government tried to prohibit the freedom of religious expression.

[...]

This Test is a test the courts use to determine whether the government violated the First Amendment of the Constitution. For example, the Lemon Test decides whether the government either prohibited the freedom to express one’s religion, or promoted religion where it does not belong, like in a public school.

There are three prongs to this test; specifically, the government has violated the Constitution unless its actions meet the following examples of Lemon Test criteria:

  • Have a secular, or non-religious, purpose
  • Do not advance or inhibit a religion
  • Do not promote an extreme entanglement with religion on the government’s part

We shall see if the Supreme Court will uphold the Lemon Test, if not all non-discriminations become null and void.


On Thursday I wrote about Texas banning children from Drag shows well since Texas did it Florida had to follow that and lower the bar.

Bringing kids to drag shows could become felony in Florida
WFLA
By Jeff Patterson
June 9, 2022


Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis says we should let children be children. The governor says a recent drag show in Texas was not appropriate for kids.

“You had these very young kids, I think 9 [or] 10 years old, go this ‘drag show’ and put money in the underwear of this — that is totally inappropriate,” DeSantis said. “That is not something that children should be exposed to.”

State Rep. Anthony Sabatini now wants to make it a felony for any parent to bring a child to a drag show.

The Republican from Howey-in-the-Hills said in a tweet, “I will be proposing legislation to charge with a felony and terminate parental rights of any adult who brings a child to these perverted sex shows.”

Sabatini did not respond to an email asking for a comment on the proposed bill.

The Paperback Book Exchange in Port Richey has hosted Drag Queen Story Hour for children in the past. The owner says anyone was allowed to attend.

I will make this prediction, when the courts strike down the laws the conservatives will call the courts “activist court” even though the judges were appointed by Trump.

A Test Case For Same-Sex Marriage?

It looks like both sides of this nasty divorce is going to the Supreme Court.

In Oklahoma a lesbian couple divorced and an Oklahoma judge ordered the child’s birth certificate changed making the sperm donor the father on the birth certificate.

Lesbian Mom Removed From Child's Birth Certificate Fights Ruling
The Advocate
By Rachel Shatto
May 23, 2022


A lesbian mother in Oklahoma, amid a contentious divorce, is fighting to reverse a judge’s ruling that removed her name from her child’s birth certificate — a decision that could create a chilling precedent for same-sex parents ending their marriages.

Kris Williams and Rebekah Wilson were married in the summer of 2019, reports local news outlet KFOR. Shortly thereafter, the couple had a son via artificial insemination. While Wilson carried the child, Williams was there for the birth, cut the umbilical cord, and was listed on the birth certificate. The couple’s son was even named after a family member on Williams’s side.

The couple has since filed for divorce and Wilson petitioned the court to remove Williams’s name from the birth certificate. Judge Lynne McGuire subsequently ruled that Williams “failed to pursue a legal remedy to establish parental rights.” According to Judge McGuire, being on the birth certificate wasn’t enough; she should have also adopted her child.

First problem with the case.

“According to Judge McGuire, being on the birth certificate wasn’t enough; she should have also adopted her child.” Well married heterosexual couples of a child born when they used a sperm donor do not have to “adopt” the child. Under the law any child born of a legal married couples is not considered to be an adoption. But it is complicated by what state the court is in and also this does not affect their divorce, but only the custody of the child.

“I’ve never seen anything like this,” William’s attorney, Robyn Hopkins, told KFOR. “It’s not a question about what the divorce is. This isn’t about the divorce case at all. We’re not talking about assets. We’re not talking about marital property, separate property. We’re talking about the custody of a child that was born of that marriage.”

Accord to the IRMS’ LGBTQ+ Reproductive Medicine in New Jersey…

The recent United States Supreme Court case of Pavan v. Smith, 582 U.S. – (2017) did not enhance the value of a birth certificate. In Pavan, two married same-sex female couples in Arkansas sued because the state refused to put both spouses’ names on the birth certificate. Arkansas alleged that its birth certificates are for collection of biological data, although it offered no proof that opposite-sex couples were required to submit proof of biology. The United States Supreme Court ruled that Arkansas was unconstitutionally discriminating against same-sex couples by denying them the same rights, responsibilities and benefits that married opposite-sex couples have pursuant to Obergefell v. Hodges, 576 U.S. 644 (2105). 

The holding of Pavan means that every state is required to treat same-sex couples the same as they do different-sex couples and list both spouses in a marriage on the birth certificate at the time of birth. However, this decision did not elevate the value of a birth certificate to make it a confirmation of parental rights. 

Hmm… so it looks like the Oklahoma judge may have overstepped his bounds and ignore the Supreme Court’s ruling. But hold on there is a monkey wrench in the ruling; “required to treat same-sex couples the same as they do different-sex couples” because some states require that the non-biological parent to adopt the child. I do not know if Oklahoma is one of those states and if it is the other parent must adopt the child which didn’t happen.

Some of the law sites that I looked up the question says it is suggested to also adopt the child as a safety precaution, the National Center for Lesbian Rights says,

Regardless of whether you are married or in a civil union or comprehensive domestic partnership, NCLR always encourages non-biological and non-adoptive parents to get an adoption or parentage judgment, even if you are named on your child’s birth certificate. 

The Advocate goes on to say,

“The concern is if [Williams] loses, that’s going to set some pretty bad precedent in the state of Oklahoma, and possibly beyond,” Hanna Roberts, an attorney with the American Civil Liberties Union of Oklahoma, told The 19th. “I think that this is just the first time that there has been such an adverse ruling that is so contrary to equal protection. It’s gotten the attention because same-sex couples get divorced all the time.”

The organization intends to get involved if the case moves forward to the appellate court because of the possible wider implications of the ruling.

Once again, this case centers around parental rights and not the legitimacy of their marriage, and I do see this is going all the way to the Supreme Court.

Saturday, June 11, 2022

Saturday 9: Let Me Love You Tonight

Saturday 9: Let Me Love You Tonight (1980)

On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun…


Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

Pure Prairie League is one of the groups that I like, I have all their vinyl records.

1) Pure Prairie League was a country rock band signed by Casablanca Records in 1980. The label, known for disco hits, wanted to expand their client roster in case disco died. (Which it did, and Casablanca ultimately went bankrupt.) Disco can be a polarizing topic among music fans. Do you love it or loathe it?

Okay, I grew up with the hard rock, then along came disco movement, you couldn’t ignore disco because everyone was into it so if you wanted to go out on weekends you had to go to a disco bar. So I had a canary-yellow polyester leisure suit complete with high heel shoes. I looked like someone from Saturday Night Fever.

So to answer your question, no I didn’t like disco. It was too “plastic” pun intended.

However, some good music came out of the disco era.

2) In this song, lead singer Vince Gill encourages his girl to hold him tight. Who did you most recently hug?

When I had lunch with my brother and sister-in-law.

3) Vince Gill left The Pure Prairie League in 1982 and went on to be a solo success. Tell us about a job you were glad you left.

Well my first job the company went bankrupt, my second job I followed my boss when he went to another company, and my third and final job I had when they were bought out the new owners closed down factory. So by default my second job was the one I left was my best move it resulted in a job of 28 years.

4) He says his favorite song is the country classic, "He Stopped Loving Her Today." Do you often listen to country?

Very rarely.

I like the old joke about what do you get when you play a country song backwards? You get your house back, your wife comes back, your dog comes back, and you get your truck back.

5) Vince joined The Eagles on tour after the 2016 death of Glenn Frey, taking over Frey's guitar solos. Do you have a favorite Eagles song?

Oh… Oh… they are my favorite band. Look at the top of my blog and you will see a quote from one of their songs. I can’t pick out one sing, how can you pick a favorite from these songs? Peaceful Easy Feeling, Tequila Sunrise, Take it Easy, Desperado, One of These Nights, and Lyin' Eyes.

6) Vince met future wife, singer Amy Grant, when she performed on his Christmas TV special. Have you ever had a workplace romance?

No, I saw what happens when you break up with the person that you see at work every day… sparks fly and it ends up in HR.

7) In 1980, when this song was popular, The Love Boat was a hit. Have you ever taken a cruise? If yes, where did you go?

Nope. I have no interest in going on one.

However, I would like to take a windjammer cruise along the Maine coast.

8) 1980 also gave us the Post-It Note. What did you most recently write on a Post-It?

Don’t forget your meds!

I have them stuck around the house to remember to bring my meds with me tot he Cape.

9) Random question: You find yourself one of three strangers trapped in an elevator. Would you rather the other two people be a man and a woman, two men, or two women?

I never really thought about it. I don’t think that it really matters, just as long as it is not packed.

My neighbor who was the same age as me when I was a teenager got trapped in an elevator in Hartford for several hours developed a phobia about elevators. There was a blackout from a snow storm and it took a long time for her to be rescued by the fire department. 

Friday, June 10, 2022

My Story Part 195: Allies

We get allies from strange places like at an accident.

Well three of Septembers ago I got in a car accident at the Bourne Rotary South, I know that it is the south rotary because that is what the police report said. So I ended up giving her my business card when she saw that I was an executive director of a trans and she says that she supports trans rights, that she voted for “Massachusetts Question 3.” You never know where we are going to find allies, so I give her my elevator speech thanking her for her support.

I went to the deli at the local market, when my number was called I walked up to the counter to order and lady at the counter looked at me and said, “Oh I saw you on the news last night, you are so right we need to pass that law. You never know where we are going to find allies, so I give her my elevator speech thanking her for her support and told her to tell her legislator to vote for the bill.

I was giving a workshop at a conference and the location was in an armory and because it was a “military base” I had to submit my presentation a week in advance and they would show the presentation. Well after it was over the solider said to me that she learned a lot from watching the workshop.  You never know where we are going to find allies.

Many of you know that I do a meme on Saturdays well one time I mentioned that I needed someone to proofread my term papers and a person who also plays the meme said she would do it. Now she was from the Bible Belt and was a person of faith. I said that I would be honored for her to proofread my papers, she also read my blog and was asking questions. She wanted to learn and understand. Well one comment she made raised the hackles of a trans person and she let her have it, she didn’t any thing back calling her a bigot and used foul language (It is one reason why the comments need to be approved.). she told me to find someone else to proofread and she stopped playing the meme each week.  You never know when we turn away a potential ally by our words or actions.

One of the things that I always try to do is present a good image for the trans community, we always need more allies.

Boomers

I hate that word and I hate all the other words to describe the generations; Gen-X, Millennials, Gen-Z, and of course Boomers. Why do I not like those words is because they try to fit everyone into a box, it you were born during these years you are suppose to have these common traits… Bull!

Why do so many Gen Zers identify as LGBTQ? Because of the sacrifices of prior generations, experts say
USA Today via Yahoo News
By Amanda Pérez Pintado
June 8, 2022


For baby boomers, it was Stonewall. For many in Generation X, it was the AIDS crisis and for millennials, it was the legalization of gay marriage.

Those battles over whether all Americans have equal rights, regardless of their sexual orientation, helped shape each of those generations and experts say Generation Z, where more than 20% of Americans identify as LGBTQ, are reaping the benefits of those fights.

"I think we've done a really good job collectively of understanding that you are who you are, like, there's no one right way to be in the community," said 19-year-old Olivia Julianna, a Houston-based activist who identifies as queer.

"It's just accepting people for who they are," Julianna said.

But the struggle is not over, states all around the country are passing anti-trans legislation, some Republicans states have started pushing the envelope on marriage equality and want to criminalize again same-sex relationships.

Overall, a record 7.1% of adults in the U.S. identify as LGBTQ, according a Gallup poll released this year. But about 21% of adults in Julianna's generation – those born between 1997 and 2003 – identified as LBTQ in the poll, compared to 10.5% of millennials, 4.2% of Gen Xers and 2.6% of baby boomers.

Our numbers are increasing but… we are only 7% of the population and we count on the other 93% to do the right thing. However, hate is growing against us generated by the Republican party and evangelical Christians.

Unlike previous generations, Gen Z is coming of age online, with access to LGBTQ content and communities without the need of physical proximity.

"LGBTQ communities have thrived in certain ways since the advent of internet because it's allowed people to connect with each other and seek out information from the privacy of their home and maybe, you know, clear their browser history and no one has to know about it," Westengard said.

And that is bring a cultural change.

Gone are the gay bars.

Going are the support groups.

If you visit peer support groups you will see members in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and even int heir seventies but no one in their twenties or thirties.

Even trans conferences have an older clientele.

"LGBTQ-plus rights are completely tied to reproductive health care and abortion rights," Julianna said. "The number one thing we can do is...to have support systems in place for ourselves as a community, meaning we can be there for each other emotionally or financially if or when Obergefell v. Hodges or Roe v. Wade is struck down."

If you read the news you can see the Republicans already trying to whittle away the rights that many senior citizens fought for.

First it was Florida but according to NPR in the article Not just Florida. More than a dozen states propose so-called 'Don't Say Gay' bills says,

"Florida may be the first in this wave, but there have been other laws in the past that were called 'no promo homo' laws, which forbid saying positive things about lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer people in classrooms," Simmons told NPR. "With the increased visibility of transgender and non-binary people, we have seen these bills expand to also prohibit educating students about gender diversity and gender identity.

First Florida. Then Alabama. Now, lawmakers in Ohio and Louisiana are considering legislation that mimics the Florida law. And Texas Gov. Greg Abbott says he'll make a similar bill a top priority at the next session.

Chop, chop, chop.

NPR lists these states as having anti-LGBTQ bills introduced in the legislatures this year; Alabama, Arizona, Georgia, Indiana, Iowa, Kentucky, Louisana, Missouri, Ohio,  Oklahoma, South Carolina, and Tennessee.

Chop, chop, chop.

"The institutionalization of these bills is an overt form of structural transphobia and homophobia, and it goes against all public health evidence in creating a safe and supportive environment for transgender, nonbinary, queer, gay and lesbian youths and teachers to thrive," Arjee Restar, assistant professor of epidemiology at the University of Washington, told NPR.

We cannot bring about change alone we need allies!

We have to stand with the women right’s groups and the other minorities who are struggling for their rights. We have to reach out across the generations.

We cannot let the Pastor Martin Niemöller poem come true we have to…

Speak out for all the other marginalized peoples, united we stand divided we fall.

Thursday, June 09, 2022

In The You Can’t Make This Stuff Up Category

A Republican once again out did themselves… banning drag shows.

Texas lawmaker proposes banning drag shows in presence of minors
The Hill
By Will Dupree and Nexstar Media Wire
June 6, 2022


A Republican lawmaker in Texas said he would like to enact a statewide ban that would prevent minors from attending drag performances.

Texas Rep. Bryan Slaton, R-Mineola, posted on social media Monday that he plans to introduce legislation during next year’s legislative session aimed at “protecting kids from drag shows and other inappropriate displays.” This announcement apparently came after videos surfaced online showing children attending a drag showcase in Dallas this past weekend.

“I promised my voters that I would stand up for their values and fight to protect Texas kids,” Slaton said in a statement. “I was re-elected on that promise and I intend to keep it by authoring legislation to defend kids from being subjected to drag shows and other inappropriate events. I look forward to working with my colleagues to pass this important legislation.”

It’s unclear what kind of enforcement this potential legislation would include or what the exact language of the proposal would be. Lawmakers, however, would not be able to consider this proposal until they return to the State Capitol for another legislative session, which is scheduled to begin Jan. 10 next year.

Dallas Voice had this to say about the bill and a comment by Rep. Slaton,

“Drag shows are no place for a child. I would never take my children to a drag show and I know Speaker Dade Phelan and my Republican colleagues wouldn’t either,” said Slaton, a republican whose official House of Representatives website describes him as “an American businessman, pastor and politician.

Well the simple answer is don't take your children to the shows, but don't block the rights of others who would.

The article went on to say...

The press release quotes Slaton as saying, “The events of this past weekend were horrifying and show a disturbing trend in which perverted adults are obsessed with sexualizing young children.”

What initiated the bill was,

We assume he is referring to a “family-friendly drag show” held early Saturday at Mr. Misster on Cedar Springs Road before the bar opened for its normal business day. A crowd of protesters gathered outside the bar and began harassing those who were going inside for the show. Dallas police officers arrived on scene and moved the protesters across Reagan Street to the sidewalk in front of the fire station.

At some point, one of the protesters asked police to conduct “a welfare check” on the children inside the bar. Protesters have claimed that officers then went in forced those with children to leave the event. But an account by a witness at scene said the officers went inside but did not make anyone leave — a claim backed up by information from the DPD Public Information Office:

“Officers responded to ensure a peaceful protest and to prevent any physical altercation. Officers did go inside the club to ensure that all the kids were out and shielded them from the protestors as they made their exits on their own accounts.”

Meanwhile in Texas the 22 students were murdered in school, teachers are fleeing the state, and the power grid is about to collapse but the Republicans think the most pressing issues in the state are drag queens.

Aren’t we all so glad to know that brave Rep. Slaton and the other Texas Republicans are willing to forge ahead and pledge to spend however much time necessary and do whatever it takes to keep drag queens away from minors. Too bad that can’t put all that time and energy toward something important, like keeping children and teachers from being massacred in our classrooms, or keeping elderly people from being murdered in the grocery store.

Of course this is against the First Amendment but that little thing they wouldn’t let get in their way and when the courts overturn the law the Republicans will blame the “liberal” courts.

This Is What I Have Been Saying

I have no problems with religion unless they try to force their beliefs on me.

Religious freedom, and freedom from religion, is under threat from evangelicals
SC Times
By Mike Aurelius
June 5, 2022


The Reverends Dr. Judy Cummings and Dr. Kevin Riggs write in the Tennessee Lookout, "What does it mean to be a Christian?"

[...]

In the 1920s, an Indian philosopher named Bara Dada said: “Jesus is ideal and wonderful, but you Christians, you are not like him.”

I have warned that the Supreme Court is opening a can-of-worms with their possible over turn of Roe v Wade.

But there is a problem. People who practice Judaism do not believe that abortion is against God’s law and is a requirement if the mother’s life is at risk. By banning abortions, states are setting themselves up for a First Amendment challenge by not allowing the free exercise of citizens’ religion.

Rabbi Rachael Pass writes: “If anyone tries to argue that abortion restrictions are justified under the prerogative of religious freedom, we can explain that our religious freedom demands that we have access to abortion care when it is needed and wanted.” (Times of Israel, May 4, 2022)

What if your sincerely held belief that life begins at birth will that be good enough to allow a woman to have an abortion? Our will you have to be a member of an established religion to qualify for “religious freedom?” And wouldn’t that violate the First Amendment, “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion…” that you need to be a member of an established religion?

The anti-trans laws are also being pushed by Christian extremists, could those laws violate the First Amendment because they are against my sincerely held belief that gender dysphoria is a natural phenomena and isn't wrong. 

In May 1939, a letter writer named Ivan Bussart, published in The Kingsport Times of Kingsport, Tennessee, wrote this:

“The contention of my articles will be that, if and when fascism comes over America, it will be…[an] iron hand encased in a silk glove:

For God and Country!

Freedom and democracy!

Pure Anglo-Saxonism!

Liberty and the Constitution!

—catchwords which will thwart the actual and real rights of the citizenry...”

Sound familiar?


Wednesday, June 08, 2022

Again.

The Republicans are at it again, this time it is in Arizona.

Bills affecting transgender youth wind through Arizona Legislature
Arizona Daily Sun
By Eryka Forquer Cronkite News
June 5, 2022


fter an unprecedented number of bills targeting transgender youth became law across the country last year, advocates in Arizona are pushing back against a new wave of bills introduced in this session.

Arizona lawmakers have proposed bills that prohibit transgender youth from recieving gender-affirming health care and limit their ability to express their gender identity in school bathrooms, school classrooms and school sports. The Human Rights Campaign and the Equality Federation, which are national LGBTQ advocacy organizations, warned that the measures would put the well-being of transgender youth at risk.

“Transgender students don’t want or need to have a culture war built on their backs for the political expediecy of adults; they simply want to be kids,” the two organizations said in their combined annual state comprehensive report, released this year.

[…]

Cathryn Oakley, the state legislative director and senior counsel at the Human Rights Campaign, said SB 1165 and similar bills are predicated on a misunderstanding of what it means to be transgender.

“Proponents of these kinds of bills really work to create the idea that there is somebody who is essentially a boy pretending to be a girl in order to gain some kind of athletic advantage in women’s sports and use that to get themselves a college scholarship,” Oakley said.

The Republicans are evil, they don’t care the harm they are causing, they only see votes and campaign donations.

I Can’t Make This Up

This is so wrong! Their hate for us clouds their judgement.

GOP passes bill aiming to root out ‘suspected’ transgender female athletes with genital inspection
By: Morgan Trua
June 3, 2022


House Republican lawmakers in Ohio passed a bill at 11:15 p.m. Wednesday night that would ban transgender girls and women from participating in high school and college athletics. It also comes with a “verification process” of checking the genitals of those “accused” of being trans.

The ‘Save Women’s Sports Act,’ or House Bill 61, wasn’t supposed to be on the schedule for legislators originally. However, at the last minute, Republican representatives added the language to a completely different bill.

H.B. 151 would revise Ohio’s Teacher Residency Program, trying to reduce state control in schools. The bill, sponsored by Republican state Rep. Don Jones, from Freeport, got a surprise addition.

News 5’s Statehouse reporter Morgan Trau tried to get the substitute bill numerous times during the session, but Democrats told her they didn’t have it and had also been looking for it. Some Republicans said the same, some didn’t respond. It was finally sent to her the next afternoon, while still not being posted online for the public to read as of 8 p.m. EST.

“Having this third bill now slipped into an unrelated bill at the last moment is just such an additional slap in the face to our entire community,” Maria Bruno, legislative policy director for Equality Ohio, said. “I know that there are a lot of folks in the LGBTQ community who are sitting there asking themselves, ‘What did I do to them? because they keep coming after me’ and I can’t blame them for having that perspective.

“But the answer is nothing, just existing.”

In Connecticut there are around 50,000 female student athletes and only about a dozen trans female athletes and I imagine that there are similar numbers for the other states. So this whole hubbub on our rights is because of a handful of trans athletes.

“I was told ‘in the last seven years the OSHAA transgender policy has been in place, we have never had more than one transgender female participating on a girl’s team at the high school level in any given year'” state Rep. Dr. Beth Liston, a Democrat from Dublin, said.

Her stats are backed up by Equality Ohio and OSHAA. Once again, there was only one trans girl participating in athletics during the 2021-22 school year.

“There are not scores of girls’ dreams being crushed, there is one child trying to play on their high school sports team,” Liston said. “This is a made-up controversy and this amendment is state-sanctioned bullying against one child.”

[…]

“I struggle to understand why we keep discussing bills focusing on children’s genitals,” she said.

The proposed rules would prohibit any trans athlete from competing with cisgender girls or women. It also has a verification requirement, if someone is “accused” or “suspected” of being trans.

If someone is suspected to be transgender, she must go through evaluations of her external and internal genitalia, testosterone levels and genetic makeup.

Can you imagine the humiliation the athletes will have to go through?

What would a cis-gender women athlete feel if she had to prove that she is female.

What happens when an intersex athlete is questioned, how are they going to define male and female?

Also the whole process is discriminatory, treating someone differently because the way they look violates the Fourteenth Amendment!

Tuesday, June 07, 2022

Don’t Look Behind The Curtain.

[RANT]

Do you remember the Wizard of Oz where Toto pulls back the curtain and the Wizard of Oz says his favorite line "Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain!"

What does that mean?

It means that a magician uses distraction to keep you from finding out how the magician is really doing the trick, the sleight-of- hand.

The Republicans have attacked the trans community without mercy, they attack the immigrant, they attack race, and they attack public education… Why?

They have learned that by rallying up their base that can distract the public from what they are really doing that they have their own curtain to hide behind. Their constant attacks on us has been changing public opinion against, many have no knowledge about us so they believe the rhetoric coming out of conservative organizations.

They use these distractions to misdirect the public from the real issues, as children are dying in schools the Supreme Court is on the verge of invalidating permits for conceal weapon licenses.

The gerrymandering, the voter restrictions, and closing voting places in minority districts, their consolidation of power and making states into a one party systems. They are ignoring the voters because they can, they know that with their gerrymandering and denial of voting right that they have quashed the opposition and instead they focus on their lies of voting fraud. 

They know that roughly half of Americans (53%) favor stricter gun laws, they know that two-thirds of Americans say they do not support overturning Roe v. Wade but they don’t care because with their voter manipulation they know that they can ignore the people as long as the can rely on their evangelical white supremacists base to vote for them. They know that these “militia” are nothing but white supremacists conservatives but they vote Republicans when the Republicans attack their boogeyman "great replacement theory" and “critical race theory” and the trans community the Republicans get their votes.

The Republicans’ goal is a one party system here in the United States, they dream of an authoritarian government with them in charge like Hungary or Russia, run by a dictator and of course the oligarchs appoint the dictator because the voters can’t be trusted to do the right thing.

[/RANT]

Monday, June 06, 2022

Just How Do They Plan On Doing It?

Once again Republicans are cranking out conservative “feel good” legislation without thinking the ramifications them through or how they are going to enforce them.

Case in point…

Louisiana House passes bill criminalizing sale 'abortion by mail' pills
Included in the amendments that passed were exceptions to the criminal penalties for abortion providers in circumstances involving the life or health of the mother.
4WWL
By Piper Hutchinson | LSU Manship School News Service
June 2, 2022


The House gave final passage Thursday to bills that would enhance criminal penalties for abortion providers and make it a crime for out-of-state companies to supply abortion pills to Louisiana residents by mail.

Senate Bill 342, sponsored by Sen. Katrina Jackson, D-Monroe, would increase criminal penalties for abortion providers under Louisiana’s trigger laws.

The bill passed 72-25, with Democratic Reps. Robby Carter of Amite, Chad Brown of Plaquemine, Mack Cormier of Belle Chasse, Travis Johnson of Vidalia, Jeremy LaCombe of Livonia and Francis Thompson of Delhi supporting the bill.

Rep. Mary DuBuisson of Slidell was the only Republican to vote against the bill.

The House also voted 72-24 vote to give final passage to Senate Bill 388, which would criminalize providing abortion-inducing medication by mail.

[…]

The House also gave final passage to the bill that would criminalize abortion aids from mail providers.

Senate Bill 388, sponsored by Sen. Sharon Hewitt, R-Slidell, prohibits the sale of abortion-inducing medication by prescribers outside of the state.

Okay how are they going to be able to identify what is in the mail?

Are they going to search every piece of mail? Will they need a search warrant?

Will they need the cooperation of the USPS?

When I mail order my hormones they came in a plain white box, the return address only contained the address not the company name.

What about drugs coming in from Canada or overseas?

The Republicans want to control your body.

The Republicans wants to get between your doctor and you.

The Republicans wants to inspect your mail.

The Republicans wants your neighbors to be an informant.

Valedictorian v. Graduation Speaker

You assignment is to compare and contracts these two graduation speakers…

The first speaker is from Florida.

A Florida class president couldn’t discuss being gay in high school graduation speech – so he talked about his curly hair
CNN
By David Williams
May 25, 2022


The class president at a Florida high school says he wasn’t allowed to share his experience as a gay student in his graduation speech or how the state’s so-called “Don’t Say Gay” law will affect students like him, so he talked about something else that makes him a little different from his classmates – his curly hair.

Zander Moricz, 18, has been active in social justice causes as a student at Pine View School in Osprey, Florida, and led a student walkout in March to protest the controversial measure that bans certain teachings about sexual orientation and gender identity in schools and goes into effect in July. He’s also one of the plaintiffs in a lawsuit challenging the law.

Moricz told CNN that a few weeks before graduation, the school’s principal met with him and told him he couldn’t talk about that issue.

“He’d always been very supportive of me and my identity and I was really hurt,” he said.

~~~~~~~~~

Now this speech in Ohio.

'Hateful' anti-LGBTQ graduation speech at Ohio high school sparks outrage
"When he made the comment that marriage should only be between a man and a woman, my jaw dropped to the floor,” one alumna said.
NBC News
By Jay Valle
June 4, 2022


A high school graduation speech telling students to “choose a spouse” based on “biblical principles”  is sparking outrage online.

“Choose a spouse, I suggest,” alumnus Jim McGuire said in a commencement address at River Valley High School in Caledonia, Ohio. “I also strongly suggest to make sure to choose biblical principles, you know a male with a female and female with a male.”

Caledonia, about an hour north of Columbus, had a population of 560 in the 2020 census.

Since the speech last week, McGuire’s remarks have been called “hateful” and “inappropriate.”

Alexis Osipow, a 2018 River Valley graduate who was at the ceremony to support her younger sister, told the local newspaper, the Marion Star, “When he made the comment that marriage should only be between a man and a woman, my jaw dropped to the floor, and I honestly thought I was hearing it wrong.” 

“I had to look around and see if other people were having the same reaction that I was, and they were,” she continued. “I felt like crying when I heard some people in the crowd clapping. But I was absolutely outraged and so were my parents and brother. I heard people behind me whispering about how inappropriate the comment was as well.”

~~~~~~~~~

What do you think?

Do you think that the “Don’t Say Gay” violates the First Amendment?

Do you think that if the business man was told not to talk about marriage equality would  violates the First Amendment?

Do you think that it is appropriate to talk about LGBTQ+ issues during graduation ceremonies?

I think there is a time and place for everything including at graduation speeches, I think it is the wrong place to bring it up. Call me old fashion but I think graduation speeches should be about looking forward. About hope.

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Sunday, June 05, 2022

Let’s Go To The Movie.

This week is the week of the Out Film Festival, it is the thirty-fifth year of the festival and they have a number of trans movies.

Today’s movies trans movies (Note: Some of the films are foreign language with sub-titles),

Finlandia (98 minutes)

A devastating earthquake hits Oaxaca, and after that, nothing will be the same for the Muxes, the so-called third gender. The Muxes are actively engaged in community life. They take care of the elderly and educate the young. They are fun and creative people who make their own clothing designs and flaunt them like true queens on magazine covers. This is their story, their highs and lows, the joy of their velas co-mingled with their grief, all revealed in the beautiful setting of rural Mexico.

Butterflies In Berlin (30 minutes)

Stunning art deco-style animation illustrates a transgender person’s brave journey of self-acceptance in 1930s Berlin, just as the capital city is beset by repressive sociopolitical forces.

Shedding Skin (17 minutes)

A seamstress who hides behind fabrics to guard the secret of her mastectomy meets her new transsexual neighbor. By dawn, both women will find healing and freedom in the middle of the sea.

Between Us (17 minutes)

Kei is a transgender man. After Kei helps the elderly owner of a hot spring, she invites Kei to enter the men’s side of the spa. The healing waters soon grow troubled when an unexpected guest arrives.

Thomas (4 minutes)

Thomas is determined to embrace his authentic self, despite being scorned by his peers and misunderstood by his family. Expressing himself through dance, he pushes his intolerant neighborhood toward acceptance.

Trans (4 minutes)

Two elderly women discuss a transgender grandchild.

Illustrating Sam Newton (28 minutes)

An outgoing New York City art student falls for an introverted, non-binary photographer who happens to be deaf and lives on the other side of the world.

Beautiful They (11 minutes)

Blue and Violet meet over a spontaneous toke. A connection forms and their day becomes unexpectedly intimate.

Everyman (11 minutes)

In this personal, visual essay about gender transition, Jack explores the difference between living as female and being perceived as male, using imagery from popular culture, mythology, history and art.

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I first started going to the Film Festival in 2001 way before I transitioned, back then it was an excuse to go out as Diana. Many times I went to the opening party that was after the movies and was held at the student union on the Trinity College campus and over the years it became “Old Home Week” where I met many people I knew but now for me it is too late for me, way past my bedtime.

One year the closing party for the Out Film Festival and the closing party was at the Science Center and as I was leaving I saw that I had to walk by a sports bar’s outside patio and it was all men outside on the patio. I stopped in the doorway of the Science Center as four lesbians walked by, one saw me there starring at the bar. She stopped and came back to me and asked what was wrong. I said that I wasn’t looking forward to walking by them. She took her arm in mine and said come on.

The five of us walked by the bar and sure enough the cat calls started and then some realized that we were lesbians and then the calls began of making them “real women.” The woman who took my arm stopped after we passed by the bar and asked if I was alright now. When I said said yes, she hugged me and walked off. I never knew who my guardian angels were

Another time I got to meet Kristin Beck who was a guest of the film festival and I got invited to lunch with her, that night her movie “Lady Valor: The Kristin Beck Story” was shown.

For this festival I might volunteer to table for the Hartford Gay and Lesbian Health Collective one night.

Saturday, June 04, 2022

Saturday 9: Cinderella Rockefella

Saturday 9: Cinderella Rockefella (1968)

On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun…

A couple of weeks ago I mentioned a book that a friend wrote the title is The Enemy Within by William Brett, I gave it to my brother and he has started to read it.


Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) This record and video were inspired by popular tunes of the 1920s. Looking over your lifetime, which decade produced more of your favorite songs?

Well I’m from the classic rock generation, the late sixties to the early seventies.

2) "Cinderella Rockefella" topped the charts in England, yet barely broke into the Billboard Hot 100 here in the States. Still, the number was known to American audiences, performed as a duet on variety shows like The Smothers Brothers Comedy Hour (Tommy and Kate Smith), This Is Tom Jones (Cher and Tom) and The Dean Martin Show (Nancy Ames and Dean). Do you remember watching musical-comedy programs? Did you have a favorite?

I liked them all The Smothers Brothers Comedy Hour,  The Dean Martin Show, Rowan and Martin Laugh-In, and The Carol Burnett Show were also from my generation.

3) It was written by Mason Williams, a prolific composer and comedy writer, as well as a talented guitarist. He is best known for "Classical Gas," his 1968 instrumental. Do you enjoy instrumentals? Or does a piece of music need lyrics to become one of your favorites?

Yes.

I like both.

4) This week's featured artists, Esther & Abi Ofarim, were considered the Sonny & Cher of Europe. A married couple, they had hits in the 1960s in both the UK and Germany and were depicted in magazines as the perfect young husband and wife. Fans were disappointed when, in 1969, they quit performing together and divorced in 1970 after 12 years of marriage. Can you think of a couple you knew in real life whose split shocked you? Or can you usually see it coming?

Well almost all of the couples that I know haven’t been divorced.

5) Comparisons to Sonny & Cher are apt because, as with the Bonos, the wife's show business career fared better than the husband's, post-divorce. Esther's BBC specials were "appointment TV" in the UK during the 1970s. Today, with the advent of streaming and DVRs, viewers don't have to make sure they're in front of the screen when their favorite show airs. Tell us about the last show you watched. Was it live, streamed, on DVR or DVD/Blueray?

Live PBS's Death In Paradise.

6) She had a solo hit with Esther in Kinderland, a collection of children's songs. Can you recall the lyrics of a favorite song from childhood?  Where did you learn it (home, church, Scouts ...)?

No, that was a very long time ago and I don’t remember any of them.

But…

Saturday on the ferry over to Orient Point on Long Island, there was a toddler on the ferry as soon as the ferry pulled away form the dock the baby started waling with all the strange noise and rocking. Well the parents started playing “If You’re Happy And You Know It” for the entire hour and a half voyage but the baby stropped crying. I don’t know what was worst the endless song or if the baby kept crying.

Another but...

My cousin's recorded children CDs Snow Day...


7) Abi continued performing after the split, but more often worked behind the scenes as a record producer and music publisher. Would you say you have a good head for business?

A fair head for business but mainly as an engineer I didn’t need any business skills.

8) After they finished school, both Abi and Esther served in the Israeli Army, and Abi saw combat. Have you served in our military? Did you ever consider enlisting?

Are you kidding? It was the peak of the Vietnam war.

9) Random question: How many keys are on your key ring, and do you know what each one is for?

My brother’s house key, my house key, my cottage key, and my car FOB.

Thanks so much for joining us again at Saturday: 9. As always, feel free to come back, see who has participated and comment on their posts. In fact sometimes, if you want to read & comment on everyone's responses, you might want to check back again tomorrow. But it is not a rule. We haven’t any rules here. Join us on next Saturday for another version of Saturday: 9, "Just A Silly Meme on a Saturday!" Enjoy your weekend!

Friday, June 03, 2022

My Story Part 194: Diana’s Excellent Adventure [New]

[New from Memorial Day Weekend]

DAY 1

For the holiday weekend I got in my car and headed south to Long Island but you run into a small problem, Long Island Sound, it is 150 miles to drive their house and requires driving through New York City, but there is a shortcut that cuts it down to 120 miles and it allows you to sit back and have breakfast or a cocktail.

So at 7 AM Saturday morning I headed down to New London to catch the New London to Orient Point ferry.

I decided to take the car and not park it because the fare for me and the car was only about $20 dollars more for a walk-on if you figure in the parking fee for four days.

The trip over was boring! You couldn’t see more than a couple of hundred feet because of the thick fog, and every few minutes the ship’s fog horn blew. Pulling into Orient Point I hoped that the captain knew where he was because you couldn’t see the dock until it was right in front of us.

As soon as I got a couple hundred feet from the water the sun was out but I had to pull over to the side of the road because my GPS showed me in the middle of Long Island Sound and was telling me to make the next legal U-turn. Then blink, it was updated and I headed to my friend’s house on the South Shore. There I met their other house guess who I had met before, we then all headed out for dinner at “The Pines” on Fire Island at the Bistro there. We took the ferry over there from Sayville.

These are not your car ferries but are greyhounds zipping back and forth across Great South Bay.

I have been over to Fire Island a couple of times but that was to Fair Harbor, there they cottages are more middle class cottages but the Pines well there is money there, the yachts moored there were in the six figures and there was an open house and it was going for a measly $1.6 million.

We were early for the out reservations, there were a few showers as we waited for the restaurant to open, my friend’s husband took a tour of the open house to see how the other half live.

The restaurant was nice, it was nothing special other then being a Gay Heaven with scantly clad men walking around.

DAY 2

During the morning and early afternoon we got ready for an afternoon backyard party and in the late afternoon and early evening they had guests over for the picnic.

DAY 3

We went to a pool party at one of their friends that I had met before at a picnic at Fair Harbor on Fire Island, their I met a woman who we are friends together on Facebook for the first time. We were all fascinated over an “owl” they have next to their pool.

DAY 4

The party’s over and it was time to head home, after some discussion on the easiest way (Coming to their house my GPS took me through all these small towns and villages… (Go a half mile and take a left, in 300 feet turn right, then left…) and the way back I went on divided highways and was much more direct but slightly longer.) to get to the ferry I headed off. I had planned on an hour drive and be at the ferry about an hour/forty-five minutes before the 3 o’clock ferry that I had the reservations for but I was early and the 2 PM ferry was just leaving, so I was the first inline for my ferry. Which resulted in me being right at the stern of the ship.


As I left the ferry I pulled over to let my GPS updates my location (Once again the GPS showed that I was in the middle of Long Island Sound.) and the drive home was bad, there was no residual Memorial Day traffic.

It was a very good weekend, with good friends.

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One of the things that was very nice was that everyone was cisgender and nobody had any problems with me being trans, everyone was warm and friendly.

“The Pines”

I would recommend to anyone who is gay to go there, it is actually gayer than Provincetown! I didn’t see that many lesbians but as my straight friends said there is a lot of “eye candy” there to watch. I always wondered what the Pines were like and now I know.

Thursday, June 02, 2022

My Story Part 150 – Trans Conferences [Reprint from January 31, 2013]

[Reprint from January 31, 2013]

Last Saturday I headed up to Peabody MA for the “First Event” conference to attend some workshops and to catch-up with some old friends (We want to give a workshop at the Massachusetts NASW conference next year.).

I first went to “First Event” back in 2001 and I went up with a couple of friends, in my diary I wrote,
I came down with a cold on Thursday and was out of work for Friday. When I went up to the Tiffany Club's "First Event" on Saturday I was still feeling the effects of the cold. I went up with T and G, we had light snow all the way and the driving was slow. But, we made it all right. At the Banquet we all had a good time with good food, old friends and some new friends. We had a good turnout for the COS {Connecticut Outreach Society] crew with nine members.
Back then it was a very special occasion to go to the conference because I hadn’t transitioned yet and I was just started to poke my toe out the door. I had only been to Fantasia Fair that fall for a couple of days and other than that I had never been out of my house as Diana except to attend the support group meetings.

The following year I went up to First Event for the conference, Thursday through Sunday. In my diary I wrote,
I had a great time up Tiffany’s Club “First Event”.
The only down side was on the way up we had a flat tire on the Mass. Pike, we were three old ladies (I went up with T and R) changing the flat and the truck drives passing us by were honking their horns at us. Luckily the weather was good and we were able to safely pull off the road.
[…]
That evening I went to their Banquet where they hand out their awards and their guest speaker was Jennifer Levi who is a staff attorney for GLAD and she talked about the gains that we have made throughout the year.
Little did I know then that four years later I would be working with Jennifer here in Connecticut on the Anti-Discrimination Coalition to pass Connecticut’s gender inclusive Anti-Discrimination law.

I go on to write…
On Monday morning at work everyone asked you, “How was your vacation?” and you have to answer, “Ok, I guess.” When what you really want is stand on your desk and yell, “It was fantastic!” But, you know they would never really understand. Oh, well.
That was one thing that I hated, having to tell white lies and not being able to share my weekend with others. I even had to lie to my family, so I told them a white lie that I was going to a Linux computer convention for the weekend. But that lead to another problem…
I also learned that [my brother] was in Burlington, MA on Friday and was thinking about stopping by for a drink. Boy, would he have had a surprise (Can you imagine him walking in to the hotel and asking for the computer convention and learning that they only had a transgender conference there?). That’s another reason to tell him, but I still feel that I would place an unreasonable burden on him and that it would also be selfish of me. That was one of the reasons I went to some of the seminars, to learn how to come out to [my brother]. It’s no simple matter, some of the ones that came out to siblings were rebuffed and others had no problems with their brothers or sisters. You just don’t know which way it will go.
I came out to him the following month.

I attended First Events until 2005, by then I was just about living fulltime as Diana and there was really no need to go to a conference like Frist Event again. I didn’t need a “Safe Space” anymore and that what conferences like First Event provide, a place where you can be yourself without having to worry who will see you. It is also one of the reasons why attendance at these conferences is declining; there is less of a need to go to conferences like First Event because the world has become a little more accepting of trans-people. The “Be All” conference in Chicago was canceled because of low attendance and even the COS Banquet will not happen this year also because of low turnout.

When I was writing this I was going over a number of old photos taking at conferences, not just First Event but also Fantasia Fair; it is something that I have a lot of, photos of me at the conferences. It seems like a “rite of passage”… everywhere you look at these conferences there are people having their photo taking. This photo is from the 2004 conference and you can see how much I have changed over the years. In the fall of 2004 I started taking hormones and electrolysis and my face started looking my feminine.

Wednesday, June 01, 2022

My Story Part 173 – Is This Yours Or Is It Some Strange Seaweed? [Reprint from July 01, 2021

[Reprint from July 01, 2021
[This time when I went to Fire Island I brought a spare wig.]

Ever get rolled around in the surf?

Rolled up on to a the beach and deposited like some “flotsam” from a shipwreck?

Well I have on Fire Island in New York.

The day began bright and early at a couples house on Long Island, we had a long day ahead of us and I didn’t know the adventure that I had ahead of me that day. We were going to a picnic out on Fire Island in the town of Fair Harbor and here is My Story Part 127 from 2012…



But first, I had great time out on the island and I think I fell in love with Fair Harbor.

On Friday morning I drove down to a friend's place down in New London to leave my car with her and she drove me to the Orient Point ferry terminal. I had a nice trip across the sound over to Long Island on board the New London; the trip took an hour and twenty minutes to cross the sound. On the way we went by the Plum Island (Plum Gut) lighthouse and the Orient Point (Coffee Pot) Lighthouse. (click on image for a full size picture)


It was a very humid day where the ocean and the sky kind of blended together and you couldn’t tell where one ended and the other began. At the ferry slip at Orient Point, there was the car ferry and the high speed ferry that were heading back to New London.

When we docked, I was met by the wife of a couple that I know who live on Long Island and she drove me back to their house.

Saturday we drove out to the ferry to Fair Harbor on Fire Island, we were going to party at the island’s doctor's house. The house is used for a visiting doctor, the island residents invite a doctor to come out for two weeks free in return he is the on call doctor for the town (As I understand it). The couple that I was visiting, the wife sings with a group of people who sing traditional music on Long Island and the doctor’s wife is a member of the group. This is the ferry that we came over to Fair Harbor on… And the ferry slip. What surprised me was the speed that the ferry traveled, my inexperienced guess was 25 knots (compared to the Orient Point/New London ferry which I would guess traveled at 10 knots), we were passing out pleasure boats like they were standing still. I sat on the top deck with my friends and I was sheltered from the wind by the wheelhouse.

On the island there are no cars so the only way to get around is by walking or bicycling. The center of Fair Harbor is a the doctor’s office, the fire station, a general type store and a restaurant, all within about a hundred yards Around the corner is the food store and the walkway to the ocean (that is the ocean in the distance, about a quarter mile) and as you can see, bicycles are the main form a transportation. All the “street” are only four or five feet wide and all along the streets are summer cottages on lots that are around 90’ by 100’, some of them are nicely landscapes will others are hidden away behind hedges.


                          








The streets are crowded with foot and bicycle traffic and if you have to carry something, you can always use a wagon. The doctor's wife met us at the ferry with a wagon and we piled the bags that we were carrying on it. They even had a place by the ferry to store your wagons...
In the afternoon I headed over to the ocean side to cool off in the ocean and the water temperature was just right, I could have stayed in it all day.
I was out in the water up to my waist, out pass where the waves were breaking and when a wave came in it usually rose up to my chest and when a big wave came in I jumped up to let it pass. I was enjoying myself with the group when… I looked up and there was a wave about two feet taller than me and it was starting to break… right on top of ME!

When I stopped being tumbled in the surf, I felt to the top of my head and my wig was gone!!!!! I frantically looked around for it, but I didn’t have my glasses on and I couldn’t see it anywhere. PANIC! Panic, panic… what do I do? How can I go back to the party? How can I go back on the ferry? PANIC!

What seemed like a life time went by (in reality it was only 4 or 5 minutes), this woman came up to me and said, “Is this yours or is it some type of seaweed?” Whew! Thank you, thank you, thank you! She was holding my wig down in the water. I was so embarrassed, I was it total panic mode. I don’t know what I would have done if she didn’t find it or if someone found it.

So the rest of the day was uneventful. We took the 9:30 ferry back to the main island after watching a beautiful sunset.










On Sunday it was another extremely humid day, we drove over to the north shore to Northport and walked along the walkway in the park. The bay was a forest of masts from all the sail boats.





Afterwards, we drove around the north shore and down a number of winding roads, past big estates nestled along the shore to we got to Huntington Harbor Lighthouse.


Today I came home on the 8:00AM ferry to New London, my friend came picked me up and brought me to my car. I was home by 10:30. It was a beautiful weekend and I enjoyed it immensely. As usual all my worrying before hand was for nothing. I survived the temporary lose of my wig and quickly got over it. 



To this day she thinks that I was a cancer patient who had chemo.

Lesson learned:
#1 Bring a spare wig!
#2 Keep a spare set glasses in the car.
#3 When you thinks everything is going your way natural throws you a giant wave to knock you over.
#4 Some things in life are bad
They can really make you mad
Other things just make you swear and curse
When you're chewing on life's gristle
Don't grumble, give a whistle
And this'll help things turn out for the best
And
Always look on the bright side of life
Always look on the light side of life

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life
Monty Python