Tuesday, July 16, 2019

Unfortunately The U.S. Now Falls In This Category

The United Nations passed a resolution chastising homophobic nations…
Homophobic nations suffer a major loss at the United Nations
Countries overwhelmingly voted to hold nations to account on LGBTI issues
Gay Star News
By Joe Morgan
12 July 2019

Homophobic nations attempted to sabotage a LGBTI rights resolution at the United Nations today (12 July).

Nations like Egypt and Pakistan attempted to derail the vote on the Independent Expert for Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity.

The role is intended to hold nations to account on LGBTI issues. Created in 2016, it will now continue for the next three years.

Distracting amendments included removing all mentions of sexual orientation and gender identity from the role.
‘Today’s vote ensures… countries will be held accountable to protect their LGBTQ citizens,’ Jean Freedberg, HRC Director of Global Partnerships, said.

‘Yet even as we celebrate this victory, there is so much more to be done to truly protect even the most vulnerable among us, including transgender and intersex people — and to advance our path towards full equality.’
I hope that they turn their focus on the U.S. and our “Fearless Leader.”

While we are on the subject of homophobia,
New Republic magazine pulls down homophobic op-ed about Pete Buttigieg by an openly gay literary critic
The author argued that because Buttigieg waited until his early 30s to come out as gay, he would be too preoccupied with sex and drugs to be an effective president.
NBC News
By Josh Lederman
July 13, 2019

The New Republic has retracted a vulgar and homophobic op-ed about Pete Buttigieg by openly gay literary critic Dale Peck.

The magazine had published the piece, titled “My Mayor Pete Problem,” on its website on Friday.

In the piece, Peck described Buttigieg as “the gay equivalent of Uncle Tom,” and he referred to the presidential candidate as “Mary Pete” throughout the column.

Peck argued that because Buttigieg waited until his early 30s to come out as gay, he would be too preoccupied with sex and drugs to be an effective president. The piece also crudely speculated about intimate details of Buttigieg’s personal life.

Almost immediately, social media erupted in widespread condemnation.
I do not understand how anyone who is LGBTQ+ could be Republican and vote against their human rights. There are only two things that I can think of; one they’re racist or greedy.

Monday, July 15, 2019

Fun & Games

I don’t know about you but having your car serviced is not my favorite pastime but this morning that is where I will be sitting with my ice coffee and a book.

When I first transitioned I dreaded going to places with a high testosterone levels like car dealers and building supple places. However once you transition you have no choice.

I have to admit that as usual my worries were for naught. I haven’t had any problems, the only problem that I have is mansplaining. I know what a Kellems® grip is “I don’t need no lecture.”

I personally know 4 trans people who works or used to work for Home Depot and one of them was a night store manager.

It is the little stores that I have problems with, a local hardware store I will not go back to ever. When I walked in to the store to have a propane tank filled a store employees noticed me and when I left the store there were a five employees lined up by the door giggling. But the same chain of local hardware stores up in New Hampshire (the only hardware store for 20 miles) was fine with me.

When I had to have my car repaired after an accident, I could tell the moment when the owner realized I was trans. His eyes got wider and he stepped back a step, but by the time we finished talking he was back to normal talking distance.

So when this is published I should be sitting in the waiting room with my book and coffee waiting for them to do the 30,000 mile checkup.

When I made the appointment the counter person asked what the mileage is on the car, I said that I don't know, the idiot light just for routine maintenance,

Sunday, July 14, 2019

In The News… Women’s Soccer Team Captain Megan Rapinoe

Everywhere you looked the last couple of weeks Megan Rapinoe was in the news, this old article surfaced about her stand to trans rights.
Megan Rapinoe, Alex Morgan, Swin Cash and others speak out in support of transgender youth
By Katie Barnes
February 23, 2017

On Wednesday night the Trump administration rescinded Obama-era guidance directing schools to allow transgender students to use bathrooms that match their gender identity as part of Title IX policy.
Some have interpreted the move as an attack on transgender youth, and several athletes have spoken out in support of transgender students.
Megan Rapinoe
.@realDonaldTrump: no young person, no kid should wake up in the morning fearful of the school day ahead. We must #ProtectTransKids @HRC
Trans athletes has become a hot button issue, those who are trying to get us ban point out to trans athletes who win but totally ignore all those that lose which far outnumber those who are winning.

In a Guardian article they write,
Sports stars weigh in on row over transgender athletes
Campaigners divided over whether trans women have an unfair advantage in sport
By Sean Ingle
3 Mar 2019

First it was Martina Navratilova. Then Paula Radcliffe and Kelly Holmes. Now, almost with every passing day, there are more voices wading into the issue of whether transgender competitors should be allowed to take part in women’s sport.
As things stand, the International Olympic Committee allows trans women to compete as long as they have been reducing their testosterone levels for 12 months. However, Fair Play for Women believes there is little science behind the IOC’s policy and says there is a “legacy effect of testosterone” that gives an unfair strength advantage even after the current level of the hormone is reduced.

Governing bodies are clearly undecided about how best to deal with the questions of gender, biology and identity that arise from the issue. Last year Hannah Mouncey, a former member of the Australian men’s handball team, was blocked from playing in Aussie rules football’s professional women’s league on the grounds of strength and physique.
On Sunday, Navratilova, who had a trans coach, apologised for saying a fortnight ago that trans athletes were cheating. “I’m sorry for that because I certainly was not suggesting that transgender athletes in general are cheats,” she said. “I attached the label to a notional case in which someone cynically changes gender, perhaps temporarily, to gain a competitive advantage. We should not be blind to the possibility and some of these rules are making that possible and legal.”
It is always  these hypothetical  questions of “what if” cases the opposition always brings up… “What if a boy dresses as a girl so they can get on a girls team?” Which by the way has never happened, what boy is going to dress and live as girl just to get an athletic scholarship.

If they pass a rule that you have to play in the league of your birth gender they will be allowing trans men to play on women’s teams. It is just like when they try to force us to use the bathroom of our gender assigned at birth then you will be seeing men in the women’s bathroom because these conservatives totally ignore trans men.

So why don’t they just allow us to play on the team of our gender identity as long as we have been on Cross Gender Hormones or blocker for at least 2 years after Tanner Stage 2.

Saturday, July 13, 2019

The Perfect Trifecta

What could be better than having lobster three times in one day?

  • Lobster Cake Benedict… homemade lobster cakes, roasted red pepper hollandaise at the Van Rensselaers
  • Lazy Man's Lobster Roll… 5 oz native lobster meat sautéed in butter and served on a toasted roll at Mac’s on the Pier
  • Lobster Newburg… fresh lobster meat in a sherry cream sauce at the Lobster Pot

Saturday 9: Bonanza

Sam's Saturday 9: Bonanza (1959)

On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun…
I’m sorry about not commenting last, it’s a long story*

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here or the more common one here.

1) Bonanza ran on NBC for 14 seasons. Today it's rerun on Me-TV and TVLand. Were/are you a fan?
Oh yes, I loved the show

2) The show centers on The Cartwrights, who lived on a massive ranch in Nevada. License plates in Nevada read, "The Silver State." What's on your license plate?
The Constitution State

3) Ben Cartwright made his fortune as a cattle rancher. What's the last beef dish you ate?
Last night a big thick medium rare steak, corn and potatoes.

4) Patriarch Ben had his eldest son, Adam, with his refined, bookish first wife, Elizabeth. Unfortunately, Elizabeth died in childbirth. Still Adam inherited her love of the written word. What's the last book you finished?
I am on an audio book craze right now so the last book I listen to was Two to Conquer by Marion Zimmer Bradley. It an excellent series written back from the mid-sixties. If you want to read the Darkover series I suggest starting with these books…
The Shattered Chain (1976)
Thendara House (1983)
City of Sorcery (1984)

5) Ben's second son, Hoss, was born to his second wife, Inger, who was killed as the family traveled West by wagon train. Hoss inherited her open, friendly manner and her way with animals. Are there pets in your home?
No, I like pets but they are too much of a responsibility, it is hard to go anyplace when you have pets.

6) Ben's youngest, Joe, arrived after Ben married a third time to the passionate Marie, who died in a riding accident when her son was only five years old. Little Joe inherited her impetuosity. Do you consider yourself more spontaneous or predictable?
More predictable… I hate spontaneity.

7) Samuel Clemons was a reporter in Virginia City at the time when the Cartwrights would have been there, and a fictionalized version of Mr. Clemons appeared in an episode of Bonanza. Without looking it up, do you know Samuel Clemons' famous pen name?
Oh yes it is 24 feet.
Did you know that he lived in Hartford? I have visited his house a couple of times. His next-door neighbor was Harriet Beecher Stowe.

8) Hair was a big deal in the Bonanza dressing room. Three of the original four stars -- Lorne Greene, Pernell Roberts and Dan Blocker -- all wore hairpieces. (The fourth, Michael Landon, began dying his hair while still in his 20s because he was going prematurely gray.) Have you ever worn a wig or a hairpiece?
I wear a wig all times when I go out.

9) Random question -- Tell us the story behind one of your scars.
Well you see I have this scar over my right eye, it is in the shape of a “C.”

That’s a funny shape for a scare… Well you see I was fencing with my brother with curtain rods, he lunged and I got stabbed just about the eye. We couldn’t sit for a week.

Thanks so much for joining us again at Saturday: 9. As always, feel free to come back, see who has participated and comment on their posts. In fact sometimes, if you want to read & comment on everyone's responses, you might want to check back again tomorrow. But it is not a rule. We haven’t any rules here. Join us on next Saturday for another version of Saturday: 9, "Just A Silly Meme on a Saturday!" Enjoy your weekend.

*Last week I strained my back on Monday the 1st and it was very hard to move around without pain. Since I could rest my back at home just as much as at the cottage and at home I have A/C while at the cottage it was 80 and the humidity was 90% I decided to come home on Saturday… Big mistake!

I knew I was going to hit a lot of traffic and I did. It was backed up all the way until around the Orleans rotary to the Sagamore Bridge. A normal 30 – 45 minute drive turned in to two hour drive moving along at around 15 mph but at times it was stop and go for about 40 miles!

So I left the cottage at 11 and expected to get home around 3 but instead I got home around 5, completely beat, as the song say “Strung out from the road.”

Friday, July 12, 2019

What Seems To Be Overlooked In The Jeffrey Epstein Plea Deal

Two things that I don’t see being discussed in Jeffrey Epstein plea deal.

First because of the secret plea deal other girls got raped! Epstein is pedophile! If he had served more prison time maybe we would not be talking about this because he would have been behind bars.

Second, as a federal prosecutor Alex Acosta was bound by federal law to keep the victim notified about any plea deal before it is heard by a judge and the victim has a right to comment on the deal.

This from Wikipedia (yeah I know Wikipedia is a lousy source but I looked up other sites and it was all legal jargon)
The Crime Victims' Rights Act, 18 U.S.C. § 3771, is part of the United States Justice for All Act of 2004, Pub. L. No. 108-405, 118 Stat. 2260 (effective Oct. 30, 2004). The CVRA enumerates the rights afforded to victims in federal criminal cases.

The Act grants victims the following eight rights:

  1. The right to be reasonably protected from the accused.
  2. The right to reasonable, accurate, and timely notice of any public court proceeding, or any parole proceeding, involving the crime or of any release or escape of the accused.,
  3. The right not to be excluded from any such public court proceeding, unless the court, after receiving clear and convincing evidence, determines that testimony by the victim would be materially altered if the victim heard other testimony at that proceeding.
  4. The right to be reasonably heard at any public proceeding in the district court involving release, plea, sentencing, or any parole proceeding.
  5. The reasonable right to confer with the attorney for the Government in the case.
  6. The right to full and timely restitution as provided in law.
  7. The right to proceedings free from unreasonable delay.
  8. The right to be treated with fairness and with respect for the victim’s dignity and privacy.

The Crime Victims' Rights Act was named for Scott Campbell, Stephanie Roper, Wendy Preston, Louarna Gillis, and Nila Lynn, murder victims whose families were denied some or all of the rights granted by the Act in the course of their cases.
The case in question was from 2008 so the Crime Victims' Rights Act was in effect at the time of the case.

So let’s start focusing also on the victims and the fact that laws were broken on the case along with the sleaze bag backroom deals of the politicians.

This Is BS

Trump’s nominee for the Joint Chiefs of Staff supports Trump’s trans ban and his reasons are loaded in knee deep BS.
Joint chiefs nominee: Trump's transgender policy about 'standards'
The Hill
By Ellen Mitchell
July 11, 2019

The nominee to be the U.S. military’s top uniformed official on Thursday said that President Trump’s policy banning most transgender people from serving in the military is a matter of "standards.”

“In my view, we’re a standards-based military,” Army Chief of Staff Gen. Mark Milley told the Senate Armed Services Committee during his confirmation hearing. “We’re concerned about the deployability and effectiveness of any of the service members.”
Okay first off “military is a matter of ‘standards.’” All the other nations in the NATO allow trans people to serve and their standards are just as tough as our and they have no problems with us.

Second to write off all trans people because we possibly be “sub-standard” is also wrong, it should be based on individual performance.
Sen. Mazie Hirono (D-Hawaii) asked Milley, who is nominated to be the next Joint Chiefs of Staff chairman, whether he would still impose the controversial ban if the president hadn’t already done so.

“If you meet the medical, the behavior health, the conduct standards and the physical standards, etc., then it’s my view that you should be welcomed in and allowed,” Milley replied.
The administration’s policy took effect in April and bans most transgender people from serving in the military unless they serve as their biological sex. Currently serving transgender service members or anyone who had already signed an enlistment contract was grandfathered in under the Obama administration's 2016 open service policy and can continue to serve openly and receive medical care.
Welcome to Trump’s version of 1984's “Newspeak”
Don’t you see that the whole aim of Newspeak is to narrow the range of thought? In the end we shall make thoughtcrime literally impossible, because there will be no words in which to express it.
The nominee said that if we met the military “standard” we can serve… but here is where newspeak comes in… “bans most transgender people from serving in the military unless they serve as their biological sex” so what he is saying that you can join the military if you detransition or in other words trans people can join the military as long as you are not trans.

Thursday, July 11, 2019


There are a lot of people in the LGBTQ+ community that think we should be separate from LGBQ and a lot of them are also trans. But I say not so fast, yes LGBQ is about sexual orientation and we are gender identity and expression, however we have a lot in common… namely discrimination and the fact that the general population doesn’t see a difference between us. This article looks at one of the thing we have in common.
There’s a clear link between homophobia and transphobia, data confirms
The Pink News
By Nick Duffy
July 10, 2019

Researchers have found a clear link between people who hold anti-gay views and people who hold anti-transgender views.

The National Centre for Social Research analysed data from the long-running British Social Attitudes survey, which includes questions about both same-sex relationships and transgender people.

In a report published on Thursday (July 11), researchers identified a clear link between those who are likely to hold negative views about transgender people, and those who believe that same-sex relationships are unacceptable.
Is anyone surprised by this? The bigots do not see any difference from between us and gays and lesbians.
Stonewall’s Executive Director of Campaigns and Strategy Paul Twocock said previously: “We will only make progress if we stand together.

“We are a diverse community made up of lesbian, gay, bi and trans people, who come from different faiths, who live in different neighbourhoods and do different jobs. But we are united in our desire to create a world where we can be free to be ourselves.

“At such a vital time for trans equality, we strongly encourage everyone from across the LGBT community and beyond to be fierce, visible allies. We are strongest when we stand united. Together we will win this fight.”
I remember one time when I went up to Fantasia Fair early and at the B&B there was a group of lesbians staying there for Women’s Week, the B&B put out wine and cheese at 5. On one side of the living room sat the lesbians and on the other side sat the trans people, I forget how it started but somehow the topic of “coming out” came up and we began telling our stories. A couple of bottles of wine later we were one group not two.

We share a lot between gays and lesbians besides coming out, we share oppression and discrimination, we share the high suicide rates, we share high drug and alcohol abuse, and we share the violence.

I sometimes refer to it as the baseball bat test… when someone is beating up on a trans person they don’t [see] us as trans or gays but rather in their eyes they see us as the same.

We are one untied by bigotry and violence.

Wednesday, July 10, 2019

We Lead In Stats

Sadly it is all the negative statistics and one of them is in youth homelessness, LGBTQ+ youth lead in the number of them looking for homeless shelters. But sadly there are no beds for them in shelters.
Homelessness is high on the list of LGBTQ issues
By Kent Pierce
July 9, 2019

NEW HAVEN, Conn. (WTNH) — As new state laws seek to make Connecticut safer and healthier for the LGBTQ community, there is a hardship you might not think about.

Gay and trans youths are much more likely to be homeless than straight young people. Some think more than 40 percent of the young homeless people out there identify as queer or trans. So if the state is looking to improve things for the LGBTQ community, it has to look at the homeless community, too.

“Currently we only have 12 youth specific beds to serve the greater New Haven region,” said outreach case manager Elizabeth Larkin.

Only 12 beds for roughly 800 homeless youth in the greater New Haven area. Larkin deals directly with homeless youth, and says, in New Haven, at least a quarter of the homeless youth identifies as LGBTQ.
Why so few beds for homeless youth?

One of the reasons is safety; mixing adults and youth is a bad idea. Also all those working at youth shelters have to have a background check so that creates staffing issues.

One of my concerns is the root cause of youth homelessness… parents who throw out their LGBTQ+ sons and daughters. I don’t think sending the children back home is the answer, the parents don’t love them and it also might be returning the children to a hostile environment. Maybe assessing the parents a child support fee that can be used to support the children, another answer might be more LGBTQ+ foster homes.
“LGBTQ youth are much likelier to experience depression, to attempt suicide, to try to self-medicate with drugs and alcohol and they need better supports,” said Larkin.

That is exactly what lawmakers hope happens with the new laws Governor Lamont signed Tuesday.

Yesterday I had the privilege of attending the signing of the LGBTQ+ legislation; it was a last minute invitation for the bills that CTAC submitted testimony. I went to a signing once before but it was a much smaller group that were invited back then, this time it was a large group… a very large group and I was the only out trans person there (there might have a trans man attending the signing but I think it was more likely he was a gay man).
Taken from Gretchen's FB page
Two of the three laws were…
Three New Laws Bolster Lgbt Community
The Hartford Courant
By Tess Vrbin
July 10, 2019

Hartford – This year’s legislative session was one of the most successful for the LGBTQ community in Connecticut, state Rep. Jeff Currey said Tuesday at a ceremonial bill signing for three provisions he helped champion.
Ban on ‘gay panic’ defense
Connecticut is one of six states to ban the use of someone’s sexual orientation or gender identity as justification for a defendant’s violent reaction in criminal cases. California, Rhode Island and Illinois already had a ban on the so-called gay panic defense before this year, Nevada banned it in May and New York banned it June 30.

“No person is justified in using force upon another person which would otherwise constitute an offense based solely on the discovery of, knowledge about or potential disclosure of the victim’s actual or perceived sex, sexual orientation or gender identity or expression,” the bill states.

Senate President Pro Tempore Martin Looney, D-New Haven, said in testimony to the judiciary committee in March that the gay or transgender panic defense has lessened charges and sentences for some perpetrators of violent crimes. “Carried to its logical extreme, a defendant could seek to use irrational bigotry as a defense against charges of violence directed at any racial, ethnic or religious group,” he said.

LGBTQ health network
Connecticut is the first state to statutorily create an LGBTQ Health and Human Services Network, Currey said. The $43 billion state budget, which Lamont signed last month, includes $250,000 a year for the next two years to fund the network within the state Department of Public Health.

The network and the DPH will conduct an analysis to identify and meet areas of need for LGBTQ citizens throughout the state, and the DPH will award grants to organizations that help meet those needs, according to the budget.
The third bill the governor signed was for allowing minors to get PrEP without parents’ permission.

Tuesday, July 09, 2019

A Surprising Ally

We are numb by now of all the restaurant chains that their founders are right-wingers but one chain has stood up for us in the face of bigotry. Or sometimes we have to know when to quit especially when we are ahead.
Transgender woman charged in argument over using ladies’ restroom, NC police say
The Herald Sun
By Simone Jasper
July 3, 2019

A customer at a Denny’s restaurant in North Carolina wasn’t happy when a transgender woman entered the ladies’ restroom while his wife was in there, police say.

Police in Shelby responded to a call about a disturbance at the restaurant on Sunday, when tensions escalated between the customer and the 22-year-old woman, according to a police report.

The woman ended up being arrested after police say she spit at the customer who complained and cursed at him.

According to police, the customer said “he did not feel that was right” when the woman entered the ladies’ restroom while his wife was also using it.

Officers tried to “explain the law” to the customer, “who was not satisfied, but did proceed to calm down,” according to the police report.

There is no law in North Carolina that prohibits transgender people from using certain restrooms in private businesses.
Okay she won… the police told the bigot that she wasn’t breaking any laws but she didn’t shut up and let the police handle it and she was the one that ended up being arrested.

So what did Denny’s do?
Denny’s, which has restaurants across the United States and in other countries, says it doesn’t “tolerate discrimination” and expects its customers to treat people equally.

“Our bathrooms policies across the country allow guests to use the bathroom of their gender identity,” company spokesperson Hannah Rand wrote in an email to McClatchy.
Yeah Denny’s!

This afternoon I will be at the governor’s office for the signing of a couple of bills favorable to the LGBTQ+ community including the bill banning trans/gay panic defense and the first ever state advisory committee on LGBTQ+ healthcare and policy.

Monday, July 08, 2019

Crossdressing & LTC Facilities

You are a crossdresser and you have reached that stage in life where you need a Long Term Care facility what are your options?

So I am researching a presentation for a Department of Corrections facility on best practices for incarcerated trans people and one of the articles that I found also addresses LTCs (you have to admit prison is a “LTC” facility).
Social and Medical Transgender Case Advocacy
International Journal of Transgenderism
By Catherine White Holman & Joshua M. Goldberg
October 17, 2008

Long-Term Residential Care
Long-term residential care, sometimes described as continuing care, refers to long-term medically supervised housing for people unable to live independently, or with loved ones. As in hospitals and hospices, trans-specific protocols should be implemented to ensure respectful and sensitive personal care, particularly in bathing, physical examination, or any other procedure involving the chest or genitals of transgender patients. Privacy and confidentiality are also key concerns for many people in long-term care, as information can spread very quickly throughout a facility. As the majority of long-term care residents are elderly, advocacy relating to long-term care includes advocacy specific to transgender seniors (discussed in more detail in the section on work with specific populations).

Crossdressing or other gender-variant behaviour is seen by some residential care providers as “acting out” and is often actively discouraged. In our experience there is particular confusion within long-term care about crossdressing being an “inappropriate” expression of sexuality, as crossdressing is stereotypically considered a type of sexual fetish. We have found it useful to educate staff about the diversity of reasons people crossdress, and also to encourage frank discussion of the sexual needs of long-term care residents. Advocacy may include the filing of formal complaints if transgender residents are being punished for crossgender expression.

Transgender people in residential care often experience severe isolation, complicated by barriers to accessing peer support. Community social workers may be able to assist by coordinating transportation planning and caregiver assistance to make it possible to access transspecific community peer support groups and events, or to facilitate inpatient visits. Other clinicians in long-term care facilities can also proactively educate colleagues to help ensure that transgender visitors who are providing peer support to a resident are treated respectfully by all staff.
Connecticut law states (I am not a lawyer and these are my own interpretation of the laws)…
PA11-55 An Act Concerning Discrimination
(21) "Gender identity or expression" means a person's gender-related identity, appearance or behavior, whether or not that gender-related identity, appearance or behavior is different from that traditionally associated with the person's physiology or assigned sex at birth, which gender-related identity can be shown by providing evidence including, but not limited to, medical history, care or treatment of the gender-related identity, consistent and uniform assertion of the gender-related identity or any other evidence that the gender-related identity is sincerely held, part of a person's core identity or not being asserted for an improper purpose.
Okay first thing to note: there is nothing about transitioning, full time, or anything else that limits the scope of the law. In other words the law applies to those who have transitioned, those who crossdress, those who are drag queens or kings, those who are gender queer, those who are non-binary, and it even applies to straight people.

So what happens if you want to crossdress in a LTC facility?

It seems clear to me that they have to let you crossdress.

I am also on the State Department on Aging: Long-Term Care Ombudsman Program (LTCOP) committee on inclusion and I want to make sure that all trans people are included in any policies or training that the committee develops.

Sunday, July 07, 2019

Self-Driving Cars.

Would you travel in them?

Yesterday I drove home for my cottage in Wellfleet, I don’t know what I did but I threw out my back on Monday. I still is very sore but at least I can get around. I knew I was going to hit a lot of traffic and I did. It was backed up all the way until around the Orleans rotary to the Sagamore Bridge. A normal 30 – 45 minute drive turned in to two hour drive moving along at around 15 mph but at times it was stop and go.

So what does that have to do with self-driving cars?

My car has what Toyota calls “Full-Speed Dynamic Radar Cruise Control (DRCC)” and it turns out that it is great in a traffic jam.

I set it for 55 and it will keep me a safe distance behind the car in front of me up until 55. If the car ahead slows down to 5 mph the cruise control will adjust the speed to match the car in front. And what is neat the distance between cars decrease accordingly.

Just about all the way from the Orleans rotary to the bridge my car was on cruise control (I had my right foot just inches from the brake, about the same distance if it was on the gas pedal). There were times where I had to override it.

When a car was taking an exit you knew did have to put the brakes on because he would be off the right travel lane in time you got near him, but the cruise control would start slowing down when it wasn’t needed. I also had to go manual when cars were coming on at an entrance to allow them to merge.

I was concerned when a motorcycle pulled in front of me, would the radar spot the motorcyclist? It did! The car slowed down and increased the gap again.

When the car came to a complete stop I had to tap the gas pedal to get the car going again, but  if it was going 1 mph and the car ahead accelerated to 55 my car would follow and keep increasing the distance between us. Then decelerate again to 5 mph if the traffic slowed way down (That is scary! When I had to slow like that I had my foot hovering over the brake pedal.).

They was a white BMW convertible behind me most of the way, it must have had dynamic cruise control also because it kept a fixed distance behind me.

The other safety features it has is collision avoiding braking and lane change warning. I would have liked to get blind spot warning.

I would like to get a simple self-driving car with the “Full-Speed Dynamic Radar Cruise Control” and if it kept you in the lane.
What about you?

It Was The Worst Of Times…

Brooklyn Lindsey was the 11th murder of a black trans woman in 2019.

We are on the way of setting a new record for the number of trans women murdered this year.

As we demand and get more of our rights, the right wing fanatics feel they are being forced back in the swamp. Like all cornered animals they fight back.
As Trans Visibility Increases, Is the Far Right Ramping Up Hate Speech?
An SPLC report indicates that transphobic hate speech is rapidly climbing
The Rolling Stone
By Ej Dickson
June 27, 2019

As Pride Month draws to a close, a troubling report from the Southern Poverty Law Center blog HateWatch sheds light on a possible uptick in threats against transgender people.

According to the post, the SPLC has witnessed a significant uptick in threats against transgender people during Pride Month. Although it did not release any hard data or figures to this effect, the SPLC said it had observed leaders of white nationalist groups increasingly making threats against transgender people, including calls for transgender people to be murdered or to take their own lives.

On the encrypted messaging app Telegram earlier this month, for example, white supremacist Christopher Cantwell wrote “assisted suicide is the only help you can give,” trans people, while a columnist for the neo-Nazi site the Daily Stormer wrote on June 20th that transgender people should “wear some kind of symbol on their clothing so that people can tell them apart,” akin to the yellow star or pink triangle Jews and LGBTQ people were required to wear during the Third Reich.
Hate now has a forum… hate has a place to recruit other haters.

Harvey Milk said,
“…you must come out. Come out to your parents. I know that it is hard and will hurt them, but think about how they will hurt you in the voting booth! Come out to your relatives. Come out to your friends, if indeed they are your friends. Come out to your neighbors, to your fellow workers, to the people who work where you eat and shop. Come out only to the people you know, and who know you, not to anyone else. But once and for all, break down the myths. Destroy the lies and distortions. For your sake. For their sake.
But those that hate us see this as an attack on them and they are fighting back. Last week I wrote about a Tennessee man who broke into a Milford church and damaged an office door because he believed the church and its pastor “were supporting and pushing the LGBT agenda.”

We see hate groups coming out into the open and marching and somehow “free speech” got twisted, at one time it “Solicitation to commit a crime of violence” that was when you called for violence against people.  Cornell Law School says,
(a) Whoever, with intent that another person engage in conduct constituting a felony that has as an element the use, attempted use, or threatened use of physical force against property or against the person of another in violation of the laws of the United States, and under circumstances strongly corroborative of that intent, solicits, commands, induces, or otherwise endeavors to persuade such other person to engage in such conduct, shall be imprisoned not more than one-half the maximum term of imprisonment or (notwithstanding section 3571) fined not more than one-half of the maximum fine prescribed for the punishment of the crime solicited, or both; or if the crime solicited is punishable by life imprisonment or death, shall be imprisoned for not more than twenty years.
Somehow that has gotten twisted to being protected “First Amendment” speech.

The Stone’s article goes on to say,
 … The American Medical Association has made a public statement referring to violence against transgender people an “epidemic…”
Being an “Out” trans woman I am concerned that some bigot will b egged on to attacking a trans people by his other bigots.

Saturday, July 06, 2019

Saturday's 9 "America, the Beautiful"

Sam’s Saturday's 9 "America, the Beautiful"

On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun…
I am heading home today two days early, on Monday I did something to my back and I been hurting since then.

Unfamiliar with Frank Sinatra's 1945 version of this song? Hear it here.

1) In 2016, a group recommended that this week's song replace "The Star Spangled Banner" as our national anthem. They maintain it's just as beautiful but easier to sing. How do you feel about this?
Nope. The Star Spangled Banner has history behind it, but the third verse some people call it racist and could be dropped since most people usually sing only the first two verses.

2) Katharine L. Bates said her lyrics were inspired by a trip to Pike's Peak. What's the most beautiful American spot you've ever visited?
Wow! How to pick just one?
I been to so many great places like Maine’s Acadia National Park, the Green and White Mountains, the Pharaoh Lake wilderness area in the Adirondack State Park, the Blue Ridge Parkway, the Great Smoky National Park, Rocky Mountain National Park, Mt Rainer National Park, the Pacific coast, and so many more great places.

3) The music was written by organist Samuel Augustus Ward. Both Bates and Ward were very formal when signing their names professionally -- she including her middle initial and he with his full middle name. How about you? When you sign checks or documents, do you use your middle name or initial?

4) In 1945, when this version of the song was recorded, America lost Franklin Delano Roosevelt and Frank Sinatra said, "I lost a hero." What late, great American hero from our past would you like to honor today?
Ethan Allen.
Most people remember him for leading the Green Mountain Boys and the taking Fort Ticonderoga and bring the cannon to Boston. He was born in Litchfield, Connecticut.

5) Also in 1945, a 19-year-old "hoofer" waited outside the Los Angeles radio station where Sinatra was being interviewed. That was the beginning of the friendship between Sammy Davis, Jr., and Frank Sinatra. Tell us about your oldest friend.
We met in second grade and both liked science. The last time we got together was at our high school 50th reunion.

6) The Fourth of July means we're in the middle of summer. Are you careful about applying sunscreen?
Not too careful but then again I don’t go out in the sun that much.

7) Mosquito bites can be a major summer annoyance. Are you scratching any itches right now?
Of course after reading the question I’m itching again.

8) Emergency rooms report an increase in wrist injuries in summer, with people falling off bikes and skateboards and jamming their wrists catching hard-hit softballs. Have you  been to the ER or Urgent Care during 2019?
Knock on wood, not so far this year.

9) New York is home to Nathan's Hot Dog Eating Contest every year on the 4th. Will hot dogs be consumed in your household this weekend?
On the menu for tonight is a hamburger with all the sides and tomorrow night shish kabab with rice pilaf.

Thanks so much for joining us again at Saturday: 9. As always, feel free to come back, see who has participated and comment on their posts. In fact sometimes, if you want to read & comment on everyone's responses, you might want to check back again tomorrow. But it is not a rule. We haven’t any rules here. Join us on next Saturday for another version of Saturday: 9, "Just A Silly Meme on a Saturday!" Enjoy your weekend.

Friday, July 05, 2019

Hate Hits Connecticut

A Tennessee man broke in to a Connecticut affirming LGBTQ+ church with an box cutter.
Milford cops: Tennessee man broke into church for ‘pushing the LGBT agenda’
CT Post
By Jill Dion
July 2, 2019

MILFORD - Police said a Tennessee man broke into a Milford church and damaged an office door because he believed the church and its pastor “were supporting and pushing the LGBT agenda.”

Charles Yarbrough, 30, of Nashville, was charged with a hate crime, burglary and criminal mischief.
Since February, a colorful sign in front of the church has announced, “To be clear if you are queer LGBTQIA+ you are affirmed here!”
The church was vandalized twice in the past week, though police have not said if Yarbrough is a suspect in the first incident. During the first attack on the church on Thursday, June 27, the perpetrator targeted what Hansen [Rev. Kristina Hansen] described as church symbols, gouging a huge hole in an antique wooden kneeling rail inside the church, as well as slicing chairs on the church altar.
Hate crimes are very hard to prove, you have to show that the intent and motive was directed at a protective class. The perpetrator has to be stupid enough to come out and say that it was because of bigotry.
While being interviewed, Yarbrough stated he entered the building and damaged the office door because he felt the pastor, and the church as a whole, were supporting and pushing the LGBT agenda,” police said.
Just like he did.

What is the difference between a regular crime and a hate crime?

Somebody hit a person over the head saying “You F***ing Bastard!”
Somebody hit a person over the head saying “You F***ing Gay Bastard!”

In the first sentence the perpetrator attacked just the person and in the second sentence the person attacked the the person and the fact that the person was LGBTQ+, in other words he was attacking a whole community to create fear in the community.

So the attack on the church might even be considered a double hate crime, an attack against the LGBTQ+ community and an attack against an affirming religion.

Thursday, July 04, 2019

Happy Fourth of July!

I hope you are all enjoying the 4th of July.

I’m up at the cottage today, off in the distance I can hear fireworks going off and tonight I think I am going to watch the Provincetown fireworks tonight from Duck Harbor Beach one of the town beaches or take the bus up to P’town and watch them there. But I am leaning toward Duck Harbor because I want to take pictures from their of the fireworks, I have an image in mind and I want to see if I can do it the way I imagine it.

When I was little (in elementary school) I use to go down to a
This was taken from
 my old NH lake cottage
friend’s house and camp out in his yard so we could shot off fireworks from morning to night. We use to wait until his parents got up and then we could start shooting off the fireworks. Just after sunrise one fourth when we were in our late teens we set off a military purple smoke bomb to the music of Jim Hendrix “Purple Haze” as the smoke drifted out over the pond next to his house and formed a low cloud over the pond. We had waited all year to do that, it was so neat.

When he got older he became a professional pyrotechnician and does private shows. Once I helped him set up a show and we got to lie down next to where he was running the show, we had ringside seats. Big 6 inch mortars were going off just feet away with a chest pressing THUMP.

Every year he used to have a 4th at his house once he was married, seven or eight years back I went to party for the first time as Diana, it felt a little bit strange being with friends that I had known all my life as Diana but everyone was okay with me, he hasn’t parties in years.

Wednesday, July 03, 2019

We Are Out There

I didn’t watch the debates but in the news afterward there talk about us being mentioned in the debate so I did some research.
Democratic Debate Spotlights Transgender Rights in Historic Moment
After the debate, trans rights advocates said candidates need to “move beyond sound bites."
Rewire News
By Sony Salzman
June 28, 2019

In a historic moment, Democratic presidential hopeful Julián Castro used the televised debate stage Wednesday night to support civil rights for transgender people.

His comments were echoed later by Sen. Cory Booker (D-NJ), who called for justice for Black trans women. Of the 20 candidates invited to the debate stage across two nights, Castro and Booker were the only two to specifically mention transgender rights.

It is not the first time the trans community has been mentioned in a primary debate—former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee asserted in a 2015 Republican debate that allowing transgender people in the military would be akin to a “social experiment.”

However, a spokesperson for liberal media watchdog group Media Matters for America noted that Castro and Booker’s comments are likely “the first time that trans rights were mentioned in an affirming way.”
We have come a long way baby… Well at least in the Democratic party, the Republican party continue to villainize us.

The Washington Post in an article by Samantha Schmidt said this about us.
Sure, Julián Castro mixed up transgender women with transgender men in the first Democratic presidential debate.

But to many in the transgender community, the moment was monumental: Here, on a national debate stage, a candidate for president brought up the transgender community in a conversation about reproductive health care.
“I’m going to continue to use this platform to uplift the needs of the trans community—not just when talking about reproductive justice—but in many conversations where their needs aren’t always included," Castro added in a tweet. "More importantly, I’m going to listen.”

And to transgender advocates, Castro’s mistake was beside the point. The mere fact that he mentioned transgender people in response to a question that did not directly refer to them was striking.
Later in the debate, Sen. Cory Booker (N.J.) quickly responded to remarks from Rep. Tulsi Gabbard (Hawaii), regarding her support for the LGBTQ community, saying “it’s not enough.”

“We do not talk enough about trans Americans, especially African American trans Americans . . . and the incredibly high rates of murder right now,” Booker said.
It is not just in the national debates that we made advances… New York state joined Connecticut to pass laws banning trans/gay panic defenses and in Connecticut they legislature passed and the governor signed into law the first LGBTQ+ legislature advisory committee and they funded it for two years. 

Tuesday, July 02, 2019

The Doctor Will See You Now

Most people don’t like going to the doctor’s office and even more so if you are trans.
New guidelines aim to enlist primary care physicians in transgender care
By Lauren Joseph
July 1, 2019

In a move that reflects a growing acceptance of transgender individuals in the U.S., the American College of Physicians on Monday issued its first guidelines on caring for transgender patients.

This isn’t the first set of such guidelines. They go back at least 10 years, initially aimed at endocrinologists, the medical specialty to which transgender individuals were often referred. What is newsworthy about the new guidelines is the audience, “your critical mass of general internal medicine people who are primary care providers and also people who are family medicine doctors,” said Dr. Joshua Safer, professor of endocrinology and executive director of the Mount Sinai Center for Transgender Medicine and Surgery in New York City.

According to the new guidelines, transgender medical care has been historically siloed to endocrinologists. “The biggest barrier to care reported by transgender people is lack of knowledgeable providers,” said Safer. Internal medicine and family physicians can provide this care, and it is in the scope of their practices, he added.
The American College of Physicians’ guidelines include sections on terminology, evaluation, medical management, transgender-specific surgeries, medicolegal and societal issues, suggestions for practice improvement, a handout for patients, and additional resources.
Maybe there’s hope for better healthcare for us. Instead of only a handful of doctors who will treat us we might have two handfuls of doctors.

I just had to break in a primary care physician and he didn’t  even blink an eyelash when he walked in to the examination room.

It's Just Another Day

There are so many blogs out there talking about going out en femme, well every day I go out en femme.

Yesterday I went to get the season’s beach pass. I drove down to the town pier where the office is located and I thought that I beat the crowd, well I kind of did, and the line only had about five people out the door.

I was in line with a couple of women we chatted about the town, one woman was there the day before and the computer system went down after she was in line for about an hour, the other woman was worried that she only had the dealer’s paperwork.

Inside they had three lines so we each picked one and the race was on!

My line had some touristy flyers and I picked up one on the winery and distiller in North Truro, there was also a collection of shellfish that I studied as I was moving along in the line.

Then it was my turn. Driver license… check. Registration… check. Credit card… check and I was out of there in about  forty-five minutes. As I was walking out the door I waved the car beach pass and the two other women laughed they still had several more people in front of them.

The thing is that once you transition every day you interact with strangers and ninety-nine point ninety-nine nine of the people don’t care if you are trans.

The guy who remodeled my cottage bathroom was taking aback for about a second or two and then I was just another costumer. In the supermarket nobody cared and it is not just the P’town grocery store but all the stores (However, the P’town Stop & Shop probably has a dozen lesbian and gay couples shopping at any given time. When I was wandering around the store looking for BBQ sauce an elderly gay man saw and asked if he could help. He said oh that is over in isle 5 and he lead me there and described the BBQ sauce he liked.). I even think that there was a trans woman and her partner were shopping.

Yeah there are bad times, in town I ordered a pizza, when I went to pick it up everyone had to come out and look at the “trannie,” I could hear them laughing in the kitchen. A lesbian friend who has a place in Eastham told me about the “Red Barn” and I have been getting my pizza there since. They welcome the color of my money.

Tomorrow or Friday I am going to the Massachusetts Audubon Society’s Wellfleet Bay Wildlife Sanctuary and see if the two nice ladies are still at the front desk and I hope to posts some of the photos from the visit. I also going to visit a local nursery to buy some flowers for my window boxes.

Last week I was at the Connecticut Legislative Office Building and the Capitol; all the guards know me, maybe not my name but the six foot trans woman they know.

The thing is every day I interact with cisgender people and it becomes nothing special…
Every day she takes a morning bath she wets her hair
Wraps a towel around her as she's heading for the bedroom chair
It's just another day
Slipping into stockings, stepping into shoes
Dipping in the pocket of her raincoat
It's just another day
Beatles’ Another Day

Monday, July 01, 2019


Connecticut requires insurance to cover us! …Well not quit, there is one glowing exception. I fell in to that gap when I was working; the company was self-insurance under a federal policy called ERISA. Hun?

What is ERISA?

It is the “Employee Retirement Income Security Act of 1974” what it does is allow company to pay directly (they usually hire an insurance company to administer the claims) and the company that I worked for did not cover my medical expenses for my transition. I had to pay for my Cross Hormone Therapy out of my own pockets.
Deemed ineligible for surgery, transgender man files discriminationcomplaint
The Boston Globe
By Alison Kuznitz
June 29, 2019,

A transgender man from Western Massachusetts who says he was repeatedly denied insurance coverage for a gender-affirming surgery filed a complaint last week with the state’s commission against discrimination, according to his lawyer.

Alexander Pangborn, 41, said he had previously been approved for blood work to monitor his testosterone levels. So when Pangborn, a nurse at Ascend Hospice, learned in January that he wasn’t eligible for the gender dysphoria-related surgery, he said, he appealed the decision to the Aetna Life Insurance Co. — twice.

That’s when Pangborn found out Ascend’s parent company, New Jersey-based CareOne Management, lists “sex change” as a general exclusion under its self-funded employee health benefits plan, he said.

According to CareOne’s plan, any treatment that changes “sex or sexual characteristics” — including surgical procedures, hormone therapies, and prosthetic devices — isn’t covered.
Now here is where the monkey wrench is thrown into the mix…
Self-funded plans are customizable across companies, meaning employers can decide which health services to cover and exclude. According to an Aetna clinical policy bulletin dated Jan. 11, 2019, the insurance provider generally does consider “gender reassignment surgery medically necessary,” as long as certain criteria – such as a mental health referral letter and documentation of gender dysphoria – are established.

But when an organization, like CareOne – and a third-party health administrator, like Aetna in this instance – delineates benefits based on sex, the policy is considered discriminatory, said Chris Erchull*, the lawyer who is representing Pangborn.

“It is unlawful to single out transgender employees and to essentially give them a lesser employee benefit package than all other employees,” said Erchull, of GLBTQ Legal Advocates and Defenders.
This is going to be a very hard case to win because the Trump administration is opposed to any coverage for us and my guess is that the Department of Justice will write a legal brief supporting the exclusions. Trump et al have intervened against cases that grant us protections under Title VII and Title IX.

This is a case that needs close watch to see how it goes because I think it will go all the way to the Supreme Court.

*I have known Chris for five months we sit on several committees together including the Department on Aging: Long Term Care Ombudsman Program workgroup for inclusion.

Sunday, June 30, 2019

Today’s The Big Day!

Today is the 50th Anniversary of the Stonewall Uprising and it is going to be streamed live!

You can watch the New York City parade live from 1 to 3 EDT here.

You can watch the Chicago parade live from 1 to 3 CDT here.

You can watch the San Francisco parade live from 10:30 PDT here.

There is a big debate on whether or not to allow LGBTQ+ police officers to march in uniform. Where do I stand on it?

At the Middletown Pride last weekend had heavy police coverage including a MRAP, some said that they didn’t like all the police presence.

I see headlines lie these and like the police presence at Pride.
White Nationalist Threats Against Transgender People Are Escalating
By Cassie Miller
June 26, 2019

Transphobic rhetoric, some of it violent, appears to be increasing among white nationalists and neo-Nazis as the fight for transgender rights gains visibility and public support.
A Hatewatch review of internet chatter, social media posts and recent news events shows hate groups ramping up their efforts to demonize the transgender community, going as far as calling for the deaths of trans people.
The harassment of transgender people and their allies has been especially pronounced during Pride month, celebrated in June. For example, at Detroit’s Motor City Pride event June 8, about a dozen members of the National Socialist Movement raised a swastika flag, tore apart a rainbow flag and yelled, “fuck you faggots” and “Jews will not replace us.” And in Orlando, the New Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement held a “Make America Straight Again” conference with some speakers calling for the government to kill members of the LGBTQ community, which includes transgender people.

White nationalist group interrupts Detroit pride event, members appear to urinate on Israeli flag
Fox News
By Anna Hopkins
June 9, 2019

A group of white nationalists marched on an LGBTQ event in Detroit on Saturday, demonstrating Nazi salutes and carrying weapons.

Members of the National Socialist Movement (NSM) caused outrage at the event meant to celebrate gay pride, and one member was photographed appearing to urinate on an Israeli flag.

The Motor City Pride is described on its Facebook event page as the largest pride month event in Michigan, with 40,000 people marked as attending. On Saturday, some individuals tried unsuccessfully to stop the NSM group from entering the streets, which were blocked off by police and lined with rainbow flags.

DC Pride parade ends in chaos after false report of gunshots, causes 'widespread fear'
ABC News
By Amamda Maile
June 9, 2019

A brief commotion broke out during Washington, D.C.'s "Capital Pride" parade after revelers heard what they took to be gunshots, but city officials said it was a false alarm.

There were minor injuries "due to reports of a shooting," Mayor Muriel Bowser said in a post on Twitter. "There were no shots fired, and there is no active threat."

Kevin Donahue, the deputy mayor for public safety, tweeted: "There are injuries from people running from what they thought were gunshots. But there is NO ACTIVE SHOOTER at Dupont Circle."

Seven people were transported to area hospitals with non-life threatening injuries sustained while running from the scene, authorities said. Others were treated on scene for minor injuries.
There is evil out there.

And that evil has us in their sights and I for one liked the police presence at the Middletown Pride, I think the MRAP was overboard, but looking at one of the moderate “right” emails about the Pride said “Main Street in Middletown earlier this month looked like an occupied country, all those giant rainbow flags on the buildings, like a message from a conquering army.” Even though they didn’t say violent nor do I think that organization would condone any violence it shows that not everyone is a fan of Pride.

As for police marching in Pride, they are LGBTQ+ and I am not in favor of censorship. Those opposed to their march can protest and let their feelings known. I feel if we want their protection we need to let them march.

Saturday, June 29, 2019

Saturday 9: Ooh La La

Sam's Saturday 9: Ooh La La (2013)

On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun…

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.*

1) "Ooh la la" is defined as an interjection said when you think someone or something is "surprising, unusual or attractive." Looking back over this week, did you come across anything that deserves an "ooh la la?"
The lobster roll I had last night for dinner

2) In this song, Britney Spears sings that she's eager to accompany you, even if you're not a millionaire. But let's say you suddenly become really rich. What's the first leisure trip you would take with your new funds? Who would you bring along?
A RV trip out west to the national parks… who wants to come with me?

3) Britney is eager to dance with you, even if you don't wear designer clothes. Let's say you need to add a blouse (or shirt) to your wardrobe. Where's your go-to for clothes shopping?
Dress Barn (Now Roz and Ali but they are closing so I have to find a new place to shop) for professional clothes Kohl’s and Target for causal clothes.

4) The video begins with Britney at the movies with her two young sons. Will you be seeing any family members this weekend?

5) This is a theme from the movie Smurfs 2. A Smurf is a little blue creature who lives in a mushroom-shaped house in the forest. Assuming that your home is not shaped like a mushroom and isn't in the forest, how would you describe your abode? (Mansion, ranch house, farm house, high-rise, igloo ...)
A modified Cape.

From 4 or 5 winters ago

6) Britney admits to smoking and biting her nails. What bad habit do you wish you could break?
Eating midnight snacks

7) In 2013, when this song was popular, Pope Benedict resigned. Thinking over your working life, have you been more nervous on your first day of a job, or the last one?
The last day I couldn’t wait to get out the door.

8) Also in 2013, golfer Phil Mickelson won the British Open. When did you most recently golf?
The last time I golfed was miniature golf two years ago.

9) Random question -- On what part of your body was the last itch you scratched?
All over… I sat out on the deck last night and the “No-See-Ums” and I got like bites all over but mainly on my ankles.

Thanks so much for joining us again at Saturday: 9. As always, feel free to come back, see who has participated and comment on their posts. In fact sometimes, if you want to read & comment on everyone's responses, you might want to check back again tomorrow. But it is not a rule. We haven’t any rules here. Join us on next Saturday for another version of Saturday: 9, "Just A Silly Meme on a Saturday!" Enjoy your weekend!

*My generation when we hear "Ooh La La" many of us think of the Faces version.

Friday, June 28, 2019

Some Thoughts On Life

Today is the anniversary of my transition in 2007 and after all these years there is one thing that stand out… you are you.

I would have to say that I am still the same person in a different wrapper, the imagine of “self” is still the same.

History Is Written By The Victors...

...Or by those who have the PR firm.

And Stonewall is the same way, minorities, lesbian, and trans started the revolution but now you will think it was all be white gay men. (I use rebellion or uprising instead of riot, for me the word riot denotes criminal activity while rebellion or uprising denotes throwing off the yoke of oppression.)
Miss Major On Rioting At Stonewall: ‘That Was 3 Nights Of Absolute Terror’
“If Stonewall would have made a difference, things would be better today,” the transgender activist said.
Huffington Post Queer Voices
By James Michael Nichols
June 4, 2018

“I’m not really anything special,” Miss Major Griffin-Gracy says with a slight chuckle. “I’m just one of the girls.”

But despite her modesty, Griffin-Gracy is anything but ordinary. An older trans person and a mother figure to countless LGBTQ young people, Griffin-Gracy is an elder of the queer rights movement ― and someone whose legacy almost demands your respect.

Present the night of the 1969 Stonewall riots, an event heralded as the beginning of the mainstream LGBTQ rights movement, Griffin-Gracy in many ways is an embodiment of LGBTQ history. In the decades since Stonewall, she has worn the hats of organizer, activist, prison abolitionist, sex worker and transgender elder, providing a crucial voice for those members of the LGBTQ community most disproportionately affected by violence and systems of power and oppression.
When you watch television shows about Stonewall all most only have interview with white gay men, oh they might have one or two black or trans people they interview but the vast majority of them are white. An example is the PBS American Experience show “Stonewall”

The Daily Beast had a series on Stonewall at 50.
Stonewall 50: Don’t Forget the Black & Brown LGBTQ Struggle
Black queer and transgender people have always had to remind the rest of the community of our prominence—despite the fact that the movement was co-led by us since the beginning.
By Ernest Owens
June 6, 2019

On June 28th, 1969, the Stonewall riots in Greenwich Village became a major catalyst in the movement for LGBTQ rights. Transgender activists Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera were among the boldest and most outspoken leaders who stood up against the ongoing police brutality and harassment that plagued the now landmark gay bar for months.

The actions that occurred that night at Stonewall weren’t a protest, but a riot—violent, disruptive, and purposely resistant. The LGBTQ community had enough of the state-sanctioned discrimination and abuse. Blood was shed, fighting ensued, arrests were made—the police were not there to protect and serve, but to persecute and torture.
In another article…
Wilson Cruz on Stonewall 50: ‘I Am Inspired by All the LGBTQ People of Color Who Ignited the Revolution’
‘Star Trek: Discovery’ star Wilson Cruz is motivated ‘to continue the fight’ of Sylvia Rivera, Marsha P. Johnson, and others. ‘We are everywhere, and we will not be ignored.’
By Tim Teeman
June 7, 2019

I learned of the Stonewall Riots in high school. As tough as high school was for me in the late ’80s and early ’90s, the one saving grace, I should say, the four saving graces for me, were the four brilliant and politically aware gay boys of color I called friends.

It was a politically charged time for the LGBTQ movement, at the height of AIDS crisis, and we were becoming aware of our own place and responsibility in this new era because of organizations like ACT UP and GLAAD.
We saw ourselves in them and felt, and still feel, a great responsibility to their legacy. We came to understand that we, now, had been passed a baton and that we needed to take on the struggle of our time and continue their fight and we did, and still do. The revolution continues.
Making Stonewall white what does it do to all the black and brown LGBTQ+ youth, it strips them of their heritage and role models.

Trans people and lesbians are also minimized in the history of Stonewall.
Stonewall 50: How the Long Lesbian Fight for Space and Identity Took an Anti-Transgender Turn
Queers are still battling with state-sponsored homophobia, but in the lesbian community we are also battling with ourselves and each other over the boundaries of gender identity.
By Mary Emily O’Hara
June 17, 2019

So the story or popular mythology goes, a butch lesbian may have thrown the first brick at Stonewall by urging patrons to resist arrest. But lesbians weren’t just present that famous night—they were absolutely instrumental in the 50-year period of LGBTQ activism that followed.

Joan Nestle, the 79-year-old co-founder of the Lesbian Herstory Archives, remembers standing outside the Stonewall Inn the night after the raid, struck by the grittiness of the West Village crowd in contrast to the more buttoned-up, polite “homophile” pickets that had been taking place throughout the 1960s.

“[Stonewall] was a sexualized site. It was in the streets that we acted out our erotic lives,” said Nestle. “Queer sex is a political motivator, and it was clearly evident in the streets of the Village that night.”
When asked if Stormé was transgender, as some now believe, Nestle said it wasn’t so simple as that. “The word we used at that time was ‘passing woman.’ She passed as a man,” said Nestle. “Stormé was biracial and always fought against being put into boxes. Race and gender were fluid things for her; she didn’t want to commit to either.”
You know it doesn’t really matter who threw the first brick, or bottle, or pennies, what matters is that they did it and that we include all those that were there that night fifty years ago today.

We can let anyone one or any group to be excluded.

They say history is written by the victor but we cannot forget all the victors.

Gay Liberation Front and Gay Activist Alliance had a policy of excluding members who could not assimilate into the white general population. If you look at the protest in front of Independence Hall in Philadelphia what you see is a white middle class lesbians and gays, what you don’t see any black, brown, butch lesbians, or any trans people. They were told that they were not welcome in the revolution.
AP Photo/John F. Urwiller
Stonewall was not the first uprising some of the earlier know rebellions were…
  • Cooper’s Do-Nuts, Los Angeles, 1959
  • Dewey's Restaurant Sit-in, Philadelphia, 1965
  • Compton's Cafeteria Riot, San Francisco, 1966
  • Black Cat Tavern, Los Angeles, 1967
In many, if not all of them, the police were checking the “drag queens” for three items of male clothing and they were after hour’s hangout for those who had to make their living off of the streets.

Do you have any material from trans conferences, rallies, marches, TDORs?
I urge you to donate them to libraries that have LGBTQ+ collections or to Sexual Minorities Archives.

Thursday, June 27, 2019

Looking Through My Lens

Some people say that what I write is just as bad as the opposition’s rhetoric but I say you have to look though my lens. For most of my life I was a white liberal male but when I transition all that changed and not just in the obvious way.

When I first came out it was at a support group meeting which its members were mostly white middle income trans women. But then I went to the Transgender Day of Remembrance and I heard the names…

And when I read the name that I was handed I cried, and cried and could hardly read the name though my tears.

I started to ask “How can I help?”

Then in another support group a trans women came to the meeting all black and blue. She worked in construction and she was cornered by two who beat her. She ended up getting arrested for disturbing the peace when the officers wouldn’t arrest them she raised her voice.

Then there were the cutters, I never knew a cutter before but I have lost count of the number of trans people. Then there are those who succumbed to the hate against them.

Reading the news with all the state and national laws that were passed against us… The laws that want to make us criminals for just existing… The hate directed against us by those who want to force us out of existence.

Then there is the hate now coming out of Washington DC… Did you know that they actually banned flying the Rainbow flag at the Rainbow Inn for the fiftieth anniversary?

That is the lens that I look through, that is what shapes me.

Wednesday, June 26, 2019

A Part Of A Wall Came Down

The Republicans have been known to oppose us at every turn but surprisingly Kansas blinked.
Kansas to allow transgender people to change their gender on birth certificates
The Wichita Eagle
By Dion Lefler and Jonathan Shorman
June 24, 2019

Kansas has become the 48th state in America to allow transgender people to change the sex designations on their birth certificates.

The Kansas Department of Health and Environment has entered a consent judgment in a federal lawsuit to allow people to legally change the gender in their birth records by submitting a personal sworn statement of gender identity.

In addition, they would have to provide a drivers license or passport with their new identity, or an affidavit from a physician or mental health professional attesting to the person’s gender identity.

The doctor would have to certify that “based on his or her professional opinion the true gender identity of the applicant and that it is expected that this will continue to be the gender with which the applicant will identify in the future,” the consent judgment said.
“It was time for Kansas to move past its outdated and discriminatory anti-transgender policy,” Gov. Laura Kelly said in a statement Monday. “This decision acknowledges that transgender people have the same rights as anyone else, including the right to easily obtain a birth certificate that reflects who they are.”
The two states that do not allow trans people to change their birth certificates are Ohio and Tennessee.

Even though the article says that 48 state allow the birth certificate to be changed only about 24 states do not require surgery.

Many time we heard that birth certificate is a “historical document” I say Bull Sh*t! All a birth certificate does is to prove that you’re a natural born U.S. citizen and you need it for a passport, driver license, and employment. The birth certificate should reflect you true identity.

Tuesday, June 25, 2019

We Have Always Been Here And We Will Not Go Away

This photo, taken on the Minnesota frontier, depicts
Regina Sorenson and three others “dressed in men’s suits.”
Wherever you look in history there are trans people and unlike lesbians and gays we are very “out.”
The Forgotten Trans History of the Wild West
It was a frontier in more ways than one.
Atlas Obscura
By Sabrina Imbler
June 21, 2019

FROM 1900 TO 1922, HARRY Allen was one of the most notorious men in the Pacific Northwest. The West was still wide and wild then, a place where people went to find their fortunes, escape the law, or start a new life. Allen did all three. Starting in the 1890s, he became known as a rabble-rouser, in and out of jail for theft, vagrancy, bootlegging, or worse. Whatever the crime, Allen always seemed to be a suspect because he refused to wear women’s clothes, and instead dressed as a cowboy, kept his hair trim, and spoke in a baritone. Allen, who was assigned female at birth, was actually far from the only trans* man who took refuge on the frontier.

Despite a seeming absence from the historical record, people who did not conform to traditional gender norms were a part of daily life in the Old West, according to Peter Boag, a historian at Washington State University and the author of Re-Dressing America’s Frontier Past. While researching a book about the gay history of Portland, Boag stumbled upon hundreds and hundreds of stories concerning people who dressed against their assigned gender, he says. He was shocked at the size of this population, which he’d never before encountered in his time as a queer historian of the American West. Trans people have always existed all over the world. So how had they escaped notice in the annals of the Old West?
Then around that time over in England there were Mollies and Tommies.
In the paper “Bitches, Mollies, and Tommies: Bryon, Masculinity and the History of Sexualities” in the Journal of the History of Sexuality, D. S. Neff writes,
As the eighteenth century progressed, men who were formally known as "sodomites" became categorized as effeminate "Mollie," a term that had first been applied to female prostitutes. Edward Ward, writing in 1709 about "The Mollies Club" in London, observes that "there is a curious band of fellows in the town who call themselves "Mollies" (effeminates, weaklings), who are so totally destitute of all masculine attributes that they prefer to behave as women. They adopt all the small vanities natural to the feminine sex to such an extent that they try to speak, walk, chatter, shriek and scold as women do, aping them as well in other respects.
Then moving farther back in time…
(Note: Some of these article are old and from European sources and use words that are our of style now here in the U.S,)
The 18th Century’s Transvestite Spy Rediscovered
By Marion Maneker
April 16, 2012

The earliest surviving formal portrait of a male transvestite has been discovered by Philip Mould in a New York saleroom.  On first glance the historic portrait featuring a rather masculine looking woman piqued the renowned art sleuth’s interest.   A gentle clean and further painstaking research uncovered a rich and colourful history.

“The 18th century portrait appeared to be of a somewhat manly middle-aged lady. Research before the sale suggested otherwise, and upon cleaning, the face revealed a distinctive 5 0’clock shadow. This fuelled further investigation that resulted in the astonishing discovery that the portrait is of the legendary spy, diplomat and transvestite, Chevalier D’Eon that has been lost since 1926.  The painting is now “under serious consideration” by the National Portrait Gallery, London.  Should it be purchased will represent the gallery’s first oil painting of a cross-dresser in guise.

“The story of D’Éon is one of the more remarkable biographies of the 18th century. The recent rediscovery of this lost and only oil portrait should dramatically reawaken his  historical significance,” adds Philip Mould.
Then let’s not forget our sixth president of the United States, John Quincy Adams and his connection with us.

It seems like Mr. Gray fancied himself in a dress and Mr. Pitts was smitten by her and when Mr. Pitts found out she was trans he rapped Mr. Gray on the head with a cane.
Mr. Molineux. I saw him dressed in Womens Cloaths. He had the outward Appearance of a Woman, a Gown and Womens Cloaths. I saw a Couple of young Gentlemen gallanting him. Pitts was one. I was very sensible they were taken in. Plaisted was the other. They appeared to be very loving—she rather Coy. I called out to Pitts at New Boston. He turnd a deaf Ear. He came back and said he had a very clever Girl, and went to her again.
It is a little hard to follow but witnesses testified that,
J. Whitworth. Pitt said in the forenoon, that Gray had used him very ill, and he would beat him whenever he met him. About 1 1/2 Hour before, he did [ . . . ] Very ill in Speaking Reports of him.
Mr. Hutchinson. Pitts told me he had sent a Lad to the Custom house to call Gray out to demand Satisfaction of him. And I saw em at it, and the Blood dropping from G's Head. Stick knotty, 1/2 Inch Diameter.
Tim. Odin. Pitts went into the Barbers shop, and asked Gray if he would ask his Pardon. No, you wooly headed Rascall, I wont. D—n you you shall, running his Fist up says Pitts. I could not hear the rest of the Conversation till Pitts struck him. The stick did not seem to be struck hard. But Gray said, Ile set this down to your everlasting Account.
Melvill. Gray had no stick nor Hatt. Gray and Pitts were coming from Dehones shop, to Carpenters. Pitts in a Passion. Pitts shoved him off first with his Hand, and then a stroke with a stick. Saw the Blood.
Isaac Pierce. Heard a Blow at the Town House steps. About 3. Rods.
Dr. Roberts. Wounds, one about 3/4 of an Inch, the other between 1/3 and 1/2 on the scalp, Top of the Head. Both done at one blow. About 12 or 14 days. Every other day. Bill a Guinea. No more than a flesh Wound.
J. Quincy. If he had a Mind to discover his Manhood as much as he had at other Times he would have taken another Weapon.
Knows Gentlemen who have a Talent of diminishing or exagerating just as they please.
Pain, of Body, Expences, Ignominy.
Of great Importance that Juries should be uniform and steady in their Decisions, and that Capriciousness and Humour should not prevail.
Atrocious, inhuman, Injury &c.
Mr. Molineux. I saw him dressed in Womens Cloaths. He had the outward Appearance of a Woman, a Gown and Womens Cloaths. I saw a Couple of young Gentlemen gallanting him. Pitts was one. I was very sensible they were taken in. Plaisted was the other. They appeared to be very loving—she rather Coy. I called out to Pitts at New Boston. He turnd a deaf Ear. He came back and said he had a very clever Girl, and went to her again.

And then there was WWII...

Besides Christine Jorgensen there was,

We are here… We are trans… We will not go away!