Sunday, January 24, 2021

More Bad Legislation & Politicians

The Republicans are trying to get between us and our doctors. The conservatives over in Britain did it and they have given ideas to the Republicans.
Transgender restriction bills advance
Lawmakers on the House Judiciary Committee have passed HB 112 and HB 113, largely along party lines.
Montana Free Press
By Mara Silvers
January 22, 2021

HELENA — Lawmakers on the House Judiciary Committee this week passed two bills that would restrict transgender youth and athletes in Montana by barring them from receiving gender-affirming medical care and prohibiting trans women and girls from participating on women’s sports teams.

House Bill 112, pertaining to athletics, and House Bill 113, which prohibits medical professionals from treating gender dysphoria, were the subject of intense debates before the committee Monday. Lawmakers voted Thursday to pass HB 112 and took action on HB 113 Friday morning, after accepting a substantial amendment to the bill that includes more detail on prohibited treatments and penalties for providers. The bills will now advance to a full vote on the House floor.
You remember that the Republican mantra was “Get Government Out of Our Lives!” well that seems to be true only if you are a white evangelical Christian cisgender straight person.

However, one Republican stood up for their old pre-Trump values.
In both instances, Rep. Mallerie Stromswold, R-Billings, was the only member of her caucus to vote against the measures. In an interview Friday after the vote on HB 113, she said she does not believe the Legislature should interfere with personal decisions in these instances.

“My whole political ideology lays with the fact that I don’t think we should control people’s lives,” she said. “I really just don’t understand why people are so threatened by other people’s decisions that they feel the need to control them. This decision isn’t hurting us in any way.”
Amen sister.

One of the first things that President Biden did was to block Trump’s last ditch attempt to further marginalize us.
Biden DOJ nixes last-minute Trump administration memo on LGBTQ rights
A Supreme Court ruling last June concluded that a half-century-old prohibition on sex discrimination in employment applies equally to discrimination against gay and lesbian workers as well as those who are transgender.
By Josh Gerstein
January 23, 2021

The Justice Department has taken its first major step under President Joe Biden to reverse the Trump administration’s resistance to expansion of rights accorded to LGBTQ Americans.

Greg Friel, the lawyer just named to oversee the Justice Department’s civil rights division on a temporary basis, issued a directive Friday revoking a 22-page memorandum a Trump appointee released earlier this week taking a cramped view of a major Supreme Court decision last year that longstanding federal law protects LGBTQ individuals from discrimination at work.

“I have determined that this memorandum is inconsistent in many respects with the E.O.,” Friel wrote to civil rights division colleagues. “I plan to confer with Department leadership about issuing revised guidance that comports with the policy set forth in the E.O. As part of that process, we will seek the input of Division subject matter experts.”

The Executive Order that he is referring to is…
Executive Order on Preventing and Combating Discrimination on the Basis of Gender Identity or Sexual Orientation
JANUARY 20, 2021

By the authority vested in me as President by the Constitution and the laws of the United States of America, it is hereby ordered as follows:

Section 1. Policy. Every person should be treated with respect and dignity and should be able to live without fear, no matter who they are or whom they love. Children should be able to learn without worrying about whether they will be denied access to the restroom, the locker room, or school sports. Adults should be able to earn a living and pursue a vocation knowing that they will not be fired, demoted, or mistreated because of whom they go home to or because how they dress does not conform to sex-based stereotypes. People should be able to access healthcare and secure a roof over their heads without being subjected to sex discrimination. All persons should receive equal treatment under the law, no matter their gender identity or sexual orientation.
But what really stood out in the EO was,
Discrimination on the basis of gender identity or sexual orientation manifests differently for different individuals, and it often overlaps with other forms of prohibited discrimination, including discrimination on the basis of race or disability. For example, transgender Black Americans face unconscionably high levels of workplace discrimination, homelessness, and violence, including fatal violence.
As far as I know this is the first time intersectionality has been mentioned when talking about discrimination.

Apology not accepted.

An apology after you got caught being a bigot is not an apology rather it is a hope to CYA.
PA state rep mocks transgender Biden nominee on Facebook, apologizes
WTVD ABC Ch 11 News
January 23, 2021

HARRISBURG, Pa. -- A Pennsylvania legislator shared on Facebook an image mocking the appearance of the state's recently departed health secretary, Dr. Rachel Levine, a transgender woman who has been nominated to serve in the Biden administration, and then offered a general apology Saturday.

State Rep. Jeff Pyle, a Republican from Armstrong and Indiana counties in western Pennsylvania, said on Facebook that he "had no idea" the post mocking Levine "would be ... received as poorly as it was" but that "tens of thousands of heated emails assured me it was."
Pyle, who was first elected in 2004, cited a conversation with the Democratic leader in the state House "who explained the error of my post." He stressed that he did not come up with the meme but merely shared it, though he said he should not have done so.
He is still a bigot but a bigot who got called out for his bigotry. It was the public outcry that caused him to apologize, not because he realized that it was wrong to belittle another person.

Saturday, January 23, 2021

Sam's Saturday 9: Why Did I Choose You?

Saturday 9: Why Did I Choose You? (1965)

On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun…

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) In this song, Barbra Streisand reassures her lover that, if she had it all to do again, she would still choose him. Tell us about a decision you've made that you never, ever regretted.
Going for my Master’s in Social Work.
I got my electrical engineer for my career, but I got my MSW out of love.

2) The music was composed by Michael Leonard, who studied classical music at Julliard and the Handel Conservatory of Music in Munich. Do you often listen to classical music?
Only one Ferde Grofe’s Grand Canyon Suite.

3) The lyrics were written by Herbert Martin. He taught music in the NYC public school system and during the summer worked in summer stock. That's how he met and began collaborating with Michael Leonard. Tell us how you met someone important in your life.
They were my parents.

4) Ms. Streisand was a very good student, graduating fourth in her class at Erasmus Hall High School when she was only 16. One of Barbra's classmates was Neil Diamond. Do you have a favorite Neil Diamond song?
Here in New England it has to be Sweet Caroline, I think that they play this at every Red Socks hone games.


5) While she didn't go on to college, she continued her education by attending two different acting schools simultaneously. Did you enjoy being a student?
Not from Kindergarten through college but I loved graduate school, I guess that I grew up.

6) Barbra and her first husband, Elliott Gould, shared a New York apartment over a 5th Avenue restaurant called Oscar's Salt of the Sea. Elliott originated the role of Trapper John in the movie M*A*S*H. On TV, the role of Trapper was played by Wayne Rogers. Can you think of another role that's been played by more than one actor?
Bewitched. Darren was played by Dick York and Dick Sargent

7) Oscar's Salt of the Sea has ties to Sesame Street. Jim Henson loved their food and was amused by how inhospitable the owner, Oscar, could be. That's how Oscar the Grouch got his name. Which is your favorite Muppet?
I never watched Sesame Street, I was too old when it came out.
Well on second thought... Kermit. Everyone loves a green frog.

8) Back to Barbra... She is a successful recording artist (nominated for 45 Grammy awards, winning 8) and an Oscar-winning actress, but she's suffered career disappointments, too. In 2010, she read the book Hidden Figures and tried to buy the rights so she could direct the film version. She lost out to fellow Brooklynite, director Theodore Melfi. In 2016, his movie of Hidden Figures was released. Did you see the movie or read the book?
No, but it is on my “To Do List” it is just a question of remembering.

9) Random question: Your best friend takes up painting and proudly presents her first framed work to you. You think it's atrocious. Would you hang it in your home anyway?
Yes, I recognize that art is personal but it means something to a friend and I thing that I could find a place to show it.

Update: As I have been reading the other blogs I remembered that I bought a painting that I wasn't particularly fond of because it was a silent auction to raise money for a surgery he needed.

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Friday, January 22, 2021

Tell Me About It

Something seldom mentioned is trans dating. Let’s face it, the pool of people who want to date trans people isn’t too deep or wide.
Study: Transgender Teens Face Unique Challenges while Dating
Transgender and gender non-conforming adolescents face transphobia, experience abusive relationships and may struggle with the decision to divulge their gender identity throughout their transition.
University of Michigan Health
By Beata Mostafavi
January 20, 2021

For many youth, adolescence is a time for developing self-identity and possibly exploring romantic relationships for the first time.

But young people who are transgender and gender nonconforming face a different set of challenges than peers during these developmental milestones, a new study suggests.

Researchers found that transgender and gender nonconforming teens engage in romantic relationships with youth of many gender identities. They also face transphobia, experience abusive relationships, and struggle with the decision to divulge their gender identity to a potential romantic partner throughout their transition, according to the study in journal Pediatrics.

“Adolescence is a time of physical, emotional and social growth. This includes identity formation, questioning belonging and exploring interpersonal and romantic relationships as young people become more independent,” says lead author and pediatric endocrinologist Adrian Araya, M.D., who conducted the study while at Michigan Medicine C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital and is currently at Akron Children’s Hospital.

“We wanted to better understand these experiences for transgender, gender diverse, and gender nonconforming individuals who navigate developmental milestones in the context of their transgender identity.”
And I think that it is even harder the older you become.
Transphobia and abuse from cis-gender and LGBTQ peers, however, sometimes hampered romantic pursuits.

Participants described transphobic experiences both online and in person, including derisive comments on transgender identity, as well as having accounts blocked and sometimes banned due to their preferred name not matching their legal name.

“The risk of transphobia in romantic relationships impacts the approach that transgender adolescents take toward romance and influences decisions of identity disclosure,” Araya says. “The fear of rejection can dissuade them from sharing their gender identity with peers.”
I once had to do training for a Domestic Violence shelter, they were taking in a trans woman who was beaten who was running from an abusive relationship. In Massachusetts they couldn’t find a DV shelter to take her in, so they sent her to a DV shelter here in Connecticut.
Navigating Romance When You’re Transgender
American Academy of Pediatrics
By Rachel Y. Moon, MD
January 19, 2021

I was thus excited to read a study (10.1542/peds.2020-007906) by Dr. Adrian Araya and colleagues at Michigan Medicine (which is early released by Pediatrics this week), in which they conducted qualitative interviews with 30 adolescents who were transgender, gender diverse, and gender nonconforming (15-20 years of age) to learn about how these youth experience romantic relationships.

Important themes that emerged from these interviews include:

Most had experienced romantic relationships – these occurred before, during, and after medical/social transitioning. These relationships could be with partners who were cisgender, transgender, or gender nonconforming.
They find romantic partners through school, work, mutual friends, organizations, and through social networking and dating apps, but describe the dating pool as limited.
They often are confronted with transphobia within the LGBT community, and this makes disclosure of gender identity challenging.
Some describe emotional or sexual abuse within relationships.
Gender affirming hormone treatment is viewed as having a positive effect on romantic health; they gain increased self-confidence and comfort with their own body.
The article notes that the subjects were…
...recruited from a pediatric and adolescent gender services clinic that requires parental support for enrollment. The romantic experiences of these adolescents may be very different from the experiences of those who do not have parental support or who are not receiving gender health services.
I have always thought that love was like lightning, you never when or where it will strike.

I have only dated once since I transitioned. I had known her for awhile, she came to hear me talk at panel discussion at the Legislative Office Building and we dated for a couple months but it didn’t work out.

When a trans women date a person there are server factors that come into play. The first is how well the trans person can integrate in to society, if you are like me and can be identified as trans it is going to be a lot harder on them. We are used to the stares, the giggling, and the disrespect, they are not.

The other thing are the “Tranny Chasers” who want to date trans women who haven’t had Gender Confirming Surgery but then drop us when we have GCS.

The deck is stacked against us.