Monday, April 06, 2026

The Real Power of Allyship

We have two very powerful allies!
Rapinoe called the move a “total acquiescence” to the Trump administration.
Them
By Samantha Riedel
April 6, 2026


Athletic icons Megan Rapinoe and Sue Bird have denounced the International Olympic Committee’s (IOC) new rules banning transgender and intersex women from elite competition, with soccer star Rapinoe calling the changes “hateful” and “horrible.”

Rapinoe and Bird, one of the LGBTQ+ sports world’s strongest power couples, made the comments on the April 3 episode of their shared podcast A Touch More, which they noted was recorded on Trans Day of Visibility. Near the end of the episode, Rapinoe — an Olympic gold medal soccer player and two-time World Cup winner — brought up the IOC’s recent decision to reintroduce mandatory SRY gene testing for all women athletes, which would force both trans and intersex people to compete in the male category.

“We already know that biology, as much as we want it to be just nice and clean and tight and perfectly in one category and another, it’s not. We know that,” Rapinoe said. “So now what we’re doing is subjecting everybody, all women and all people who are identifying as women, to this really invasive testing that only to me just says like, ‘Oh, so we’re just trying to whittle it down to a certain type of woman.’ Is that what we’re doing? That’s really the whole game here.”
When we speak up, we are often accused of having "an axe to grind," but when allies speak up, they speak from the heart. I recently shared with Gemini that I have "always believed in the power of allies," and the response underscored why that belief holds so much weight:

1. Shifting the Burden
As a trans woman, you shouldn't always have to be the one "explaining" or defending your existence. A true ally takes on that labor. They use their social capital to correct misinformation or challenge transphobia in rooms where you might not feel safe or interested in doing so.

2. Amplifying the Message
Sometimes, unfortunately, people who are closed off to our lived experiences are more willing to listen to someone they perceive as "like them." Allies act as a bridge, translating our needs and rights into a language that can penetrate circles of indifference or hostility.

3. Emotional Safety Nets
Beyond the political and social aspects, allies provide the "soft" power of affirmation. Knowing you have people in your corner who see you, validate you, and aren't afraid to say "I've got your back" provides the emotional fuel needed to navigate a world that can often feel draining.
4. The Power of "From the Heart"
When an ally speaks from the heart, they are essentially saying: "This doesn't affect me personally, yet I am still outraged/moved/concerned because I value the person being hurt."
When the non-discrimination bill was being heard, our supporters had the most sway. We must continue to cultivate our allies.

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This afternoon: A call to action! You can read about it here [Once it is published I add the link]

What Gets Me Is...

... Is that she persecuted us!

I wrote about not criticized or comment on what the Noems' do in private but rather the unending attacks on the trans community.
New Yorker - Intellenger
By Margaret Hartmann,\


[...]

So perhaps it’s no surprise that few people are expressing sympathy for Kristi Noem after the Daily Mail revealed that her husband, Bryon Noem, is “a secret crossdresser who dons gigantic fake breasts and pink hotpants to chat with online fetish models”:

[...]

Normally, you’d expect some public condemnation of the person whose secret online kink endangered their spouse’s career and maybe even national security. Especially if said spouse was shocked and “devastated” by this behavior. But incredibly, people actually feel sorry for Bryon Noem. And we’re not just talking about coastal elites who totally reject traditional family values (in the MAGA imagination, at least). The New York Times checked in with the Noems’ neighbors back in South Dakota and found that even in this very red state, no one had an unkind word for Bryon Noem.
I also feel sorry for her husband but not for her!

While governor she passed: Gender-Affirming Healthcare Ban, Transgender Athlete Bans, Bathroom and Legal Restrictions!
Regardless of what you think of Kristi Noem’s politics – or the job Trump hired her to do – this shouldn’t take away from a notable career.
Ingrid Jacques
USA TODAY
April 2, 2026


This may be an unpopular opinion, but I don’t care: I feel bad for Kristi Noem. And her husband. 

The recently fired Homeland Security secretary was already having a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad month. 

Then this Daily Mail headline broke the internet ‒ “Secret double life of Kristi Noem’s cross-dressing husband Bryon: The pouting ‘busty bimbo’ photos and trove of explicit messages”

I would have assumed it was an April Fools’ joke, but it was posted on March 31, and the family has not denied its veracity.
Nope! How many trans children have been hurt and the pain and suffering will last a lifetime... all for votes while they had their fun and games!


That couldn’t be him, could it?

The cartoonishly large breasts. The pink spandex. The come-hither stare.

“Must be AI,” a burly cattle rancher named Kevin Ruesink said as he inspected pictures of his neighbor Bryon Noem that had been published by The Daily Mail on Tuesday morning. The rancher farmer was playing pinochle in the back of a convenience store with five other men in the tiny town of Castlewood, South Dakota, not far from the Noem family farm.

These men all knew Bryon Noem as the nice, tall insurance salesperson who married Kristi Arnold, the town beauty queen who grew up to be governor. But now there were these pictures.

[...]

In interviews with locals and friends of the couple before and after The Daily Mail published its pictures, the prevailing sense that emerged was this: People can’t help feeling sorry for Bryon Noem.

His marriage had been the talk of the prairie since long before Tuesday.

Castlewood is part of a larger community with Watertown, a more sizable town about a 15-minute drive north. Many who live in these parts have known the Noems since they were high school sweethearts who got engaged on the Fourth of July in 1991, when Bryon proposed while they watched fireworks from aboard his Grandpa Mitchell’s boat out on Lake Kampeska. A lot of people here say they remember her when she was still Kristi Arnold, working in her mother’s coffee shop in Watertown. (It was called Past Times.) People still refer to Kristi Noem (often sarcastically) as “the Snow Queen,” after the state pageant she won when she was young.
While the Noem administration championed "traditional family values" and passed restrictive laws targeting transgender people's clothing and medical choices, her own husband was privately engaging in gender-bending and cross-dressing fetishes. Like I have said, I have not problems with what was done in private but attacking the community while hiding this in the closet is wrong! 

Cuckoo Award --- Just Another Crazy Idea From Fearless Leader

Not only is Trump being awarded the coveted Cuckoo Award but with a Gold Star! He out did himself this time, get a load of this!
Local leaders have rejected the idea of transforming the tourist destination, but the White House says it’s a priority.
The San Francisco Standard
By Cyrus Farivar
Apr. 3, 2026


President Donald Trump’s pipe dream to reopen Alcatraz as a federal prison entered a new phase Friday as the White House called for $152 million in next year’s budget for the project.

Buried on Page 44 of the White House’s newly released 92-page spending proposal(opens in new tab) is a brief suggestion that Congress spend $152 million on “the first year” of rebuilding “Alcatraz as a state-of-the-art secure prison facility.” Estimates suggest it would cost far more to accomplish that goal.

It’s one of the few proposed increases in domestic spending. Trump also called for drastic cuts that include eliminating the Department of Education and reducing the budget of the National Institutes of Health by $5 billion.
It’s less about practicality and more about performative politics,  signaling a brand of decisiveness and toughness that energizes the base, but everyone else says that its down right cuckoo!

Sunday, April 05, 2026

Trans Men Are Our Saviors

They are the ones who can show the idiocy of the Republican pogrom against us! Eighteen states have laws that restrict our access, and three states have laws with criminal penalties!
The bill passed the Idaho House anyway, despite even cops agreeing that the law was unworkable.
LGBTQ Nation
Greg Owen
March 18, 2026


A trans man in Idaho dismantled the latest “bathroom bill” up for a vote in the Idaho legislature, laying out point by point why it was unworkable, unfair, and cruel.

Boise resident Nixon Matthews used his own example of trying to use a restroom if the bill were enacted into law.

“I want to walk through what this looks like for me,” he told legislators at a hearing on House Bill 752.

“Say, one of the men here walks into the men’s bathroom, and you see me walk into a stall, and you know I’m trans. And since you’re all law-abiding citizens, you’re going to call 911. You’re going to say, ‘Hello, 911? There’s a trans person in the bathroom. They’re peeing right now, I’m scared. Please come and arrest them.'”
We need you! We need trans men to go to the bathroom in the Capitol, by the governor's office, and by the Republican legislative offices!
If he doesn’t want to be arrested, Matthews said, he’d have to use a women’s room instead.

“Say I happen to walk behind a woman, and her husband sees someone who looks like me following his wife into the bathroom,” Matthews continued. “What do you think happens next? Maybe the cops get called. But more likely, that man is going to follow me into the bathroom, confront me, and even assault me.”

“So every single day,” Matthews said, “when I’m out in public, I have to decide: do I feel like going to jail today, or do I feel like being attacked?”
To my trans men friends: obey the law!

Go to the most upscale restaurant in your nicest suit and tie! Get arrested and sue the pants off of them for false arrest!
If he doesn’t want to be arrested, Matthews said, he’d have to use a women’s room instead.

“Say I happen to walk behind a woman, and her husband sees someone who looks like me following his wife into the bathroom,” Matthews continued. “What do you think happens next? Maybe the cops get called. But more likely, that man is going to follow me into the bathroom, confront me, and even assault me.”

“So every single day,” Matthews said, “when I’m out in public, I have to decide: do I feel like going to jail today, or do I feel like being attacked?”
The Republicans live in their little fantasy world, where they justified all these draconian laws by saying a man could dress up as a woman to rape women in the bathroom. But to show you how stupid the Republicans are: now, the men who want to rape women don't need to dress up like a woman. Thanks to the Republicans, they can now just walk into a women's bathroom and say they are trans and just obeying the law.

Trump's Latest Grift? Or Was It?

Trump is running the country like a carnival hustle. The Trump family has gone big into the Bitcoin market, and now Trump wants to make it our “legal currency.” And you know he loves gold—that opulence vibe that signals wealth and success very visibly, so of course he’d want to go back to gold coins.

So when I saw this article I bit it "hook, line, and sinker" on GoBankRates: 
by Laura Beck & Kristen Mae
April 1, 2026


The days of pulling a crumpled $20 bill out of your wallet may be numbered. The U.S. Treasury has officially greenlit a sweeping monetary overhaul that will replace all paper currency with a combination of government-issued cryptocurrency and physical gold coins by 2027.

The plan calls for a full phase-out of paper money in favor of two new official forms of payment: TrumpCoin, a blockchain-based digital currency, and a line of gold coins embossed with the president’s likeness in denominations of $5, $20, $100 and what the Treasury memo describes simply as “the big one.”
Then I saw the date!

You know a good April Fools’ prank is based on something believable, and this was. Trump’s love of gold and his family’s involvement in Bitcoin all made it feel just plausible enough.

I am actually against this! Why? Because it’s too close to the truth, and in today’s political environment, too many people would believe it’s real—just like I almost did.

Um... Folks, They Are Our Records

Can you imagine when you retire you tell the company where you worked... by the way these records are all mine! Well that is what Trumps wants to take all the White House records with him!
The DOJ’s Office of Legal Counsel found the 1978 Presidential Records Act was unconstitutional. But the office only offers guidance to the president; it doesn't make law.
NBC News
By Gary Grumbach and Ryan J. Reilly
April 2, 2026


The Justice Department has issued a legal opinion arguing that President Donald Trump does not have to turn over his presidential records to the National Archives at the end of his administration.

The Presidential Records Act of 1978 requires presidential documents be sent to the National Archives and Records Administration. In an opinion released Thursday, the Justice Department’s Office of Legal Counsel found the law “is unconstitutional for two independent but interlocking reasons.”

It exceeds Congress' powers and it does so at the expense of the autonomy of the presidency, T. Elliot Gaiser wrote in the opinion, noting that Congress can’t order the papers of Supreme Court justices to be sent to the archives.
This is all bull! He was an employee of the US government and those records are ours!
The determination is a signal that the president will not turn over his documents to the archives. Trump was accused violating the Presidential Records Act by refusing to turn over documents he kept after leaving office following his first term.

According to federal prosecutors, Trump willfully retained national defense documents at his private home in Mar-a-Lago, obstructed justice and concealed materials, including a classified military map reportedly shown to unauthorized individuals. The case was dismissed by Judge Aileen Cannon in 2024 before he won re-election.
The first thought that popped into my mind... what is he trying to hide?



Happy Easter!

To all of you who celibate Happy Easter!

I’m at friend's today.

I hope that all of you who celebrate Easter are with the ones you love. However, for many people holidays are a stressful time, so open your hearts and invite them in you your home.

I leave you with some Easter humor, some old favorites and some new...


























Saturday, April 04, 2026

He Is Worst Than An Idiot!

You know what they say about a half-brained person: they are worse than a person with no brains at all. You can see that in Trump. He put a tariff on aluminum, which caused prices to go up, and then people had to pay more for it. But when you put a 100% tariff on drugs... people die!
AP News
WYATTE GRANTHAM-PHILIPS
April 2, 2026


 President Donald Trump signed an executive order Thursday that could slap long-threatened pharmaceutical tariffs of up to 100% on some patented drugs from companies that don’t reach deals with his administration in the coming months.

Companies that have signed a “most favored nation” pricing deal and are actively building facilities in the U.S. to onshore production of patented pharmaceuticals and their ingredients will have a 0% tariff. For those that don’t have a pricing deal but are building such projects in the U.S., a 20% tariff will apply but will increase to 100% in four years.

A senior administration official told reporters on a press call that companies still have months to negotiate before the 100% tariffs kick in — 120 days for bigger companies, and 180 days for everyone else. The official, speaking on condition of anonymity to preview the executive order before it was issued, did not identify any companies or drugs that were in jeopardy of getting hit with the increased tariffs but noted the administration had already reached 17 pricing deals with major drugmakers, 13 of which have signed.
But you know what else is idiotic? Thinking that in two years, when Trump leaves office, companies won't just walk away from 'the deals' he made.

Saturday: Easter Parade

Welcome to Saturday: 9. What we've committed to our readers is that we will post 9 questions every Saturday. Sometimes the post will have a theme, and at other times the questions will be totally unrelated. Those weeks we do "random questions," so-to-speak. We encourage you to visit other participants posts and leave a comment. Because we don't have any rules, it is your choice. We hate rules. We love memes, however, and here is today's meme!
 
On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun… 
Revised and revived from the archives

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) This song is best known from the 1948 movie of the same name, but it was originally written for a 1933 Broadway play called As Thousands Cheer. In the play, a young man reads about the parade in a New York newspaper and decides to go and show his lady love off to parade goers. What's the most recent parade you attended?
A Pride parade a couple of years ago. Now unless they have a disability and senior bus, forget it.

2) On Broadway, the song was performed by Clifton Webb. He'd had a busy stage career, appearing in musicals as well as plays by Oscar Wilde and Noel Coward, but when he was in his mid-50s, he was considered too old to be a leading man. Broadway offers stopped coming. He was unexpectedly cast by Otto Preminger for the film noir Laura and a new career was born. He worked steadily in Hollywood for 20 years and earned three Oscar nominations. Tell us about a time you were grateful your life took an unanticipated turn.
When I got laid off and I got my Master’s in Social Work.
I’m not grateful right now, see below.

3) Today he's fondly remembered by the students at UCLA who have benefited from The Clifton Webb Scholarship of the Arts. If you could give an endowment to a school or charity, what would you like it to be used for?
One word… and it is not “Plastics” but photography!

4) The biggest chocolate Easter egg was made in Italy, measured 34 feet tall and weighed a staggering 15,000 lbs. Do you think it's possible to have too much chocolate?
Naw, just do like I did, freeze them!

5) After chocolate, the top-selling Easter candy is Peeps Marshmallow Chicks. They're so popular that they were once the subject of a Jeopardy clue. Do you often watch Jeopardy?
I used to but I don’t like Ken Jenning, I rather wish Mayim Bialik was host.

6) Jelly beans are also popular this time of year. In a 2024 poll, jelly bean fans responded that black licorice is their favorite flavor. It's Crazy Sam's least favorite. How about you? What jelly bean flavor is at the top of your list, and which is at the bottom?
None!
Sugar!!!!!!

7) We've been talking a lot about sweets this morning. The only holiday that generates more candy sales is Halloween. When do you eat more candy: Easter or Halloween?
Why limit to just those two occasion… stock up the sales after Easter and freeze them.
 
8) According to the National Retail Federation, Americans are doing more of their holiday shopping this year at discount "dollar stores" than at department stores like Target and Walmart. Do you often make trips to the "dollar store?" If yes, what do you usually pick up there?
I was there only once when I was in a car accident on Cape Cod and I had to tape a broken part away form the wheel.

 9) Easter is considered the season of rebirth. What makes you feel refreshed or rejuvenated?
Relaxing along side of a mountain lake with a gentle breeze blowing. Watching the sun go down.
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I became a statistic this week: fraud.

Oh, they were sweet talkers. They had a reasonable explanation for everything.

The caller ID said Amazon. When I answeRed, he said he was from Amazon and asked if I had ordeRed a $1,200 pair of sneakers to be deliveRed to a California address. No!

“I’m transferring you to the fraud division…” click.

They asked all the right questions. They even suggested it could be my 82-year-old brother. “You can’t tell anyone, because they might be the ones who committed the fraud.”
[1st Red Flag — it still hadn’t dawned on me that it was a scam, but I did think that was strange.]

“Oh, I see there’s money laundering involved. I’m going to turn this over to the U.S. Treasury…” click.

“This is Jay Himes from the U.S. Treasury Fraud Department.”
[2nd Red Flag, he answeRed very fast.]

Very smooth. He got me chatting and relaxed. Then he said he needed a picture of my driver’s license for verification.
[Big, big, big, and even bigger mistake!]
It sounded reasonable because I’ve been asked for that with my brokerage account.

Then he wanted to know which accounts I had so they could check them for fraud. When I said I was looking at my bank page and didn’t see any transactions I didn’t make, he said, “Oh, they hide it on the dark web.”
[3rd Red Flag, they’re counting on us not knowing what the “dark web” is.]

Then he started talking about freezing my accounts while they checked them… um…

I said, “How do I know you are who you say you are?”
He replied, “How about you call your police station and have them call you to verify my cRedentials?”

So I looked up the number and told him. About 30 seconds later, I got a call. The caller ID said it was from the Police Department, with that same number displayed.
[4th Red Flag, that was very fast. I gave him the number, and they called back in less than a minute.]
[5th Red Flag, he had an accent. Now, maybe a town police department might have someone with an accent—but the odds that all of them would—the Amazon guy, the fraud division, the U.S. Treasury it seems pretty unlikely.]

“We want you to withdraw your money from your accounts and...”

[6th Red Flag, looking back it was also so the fact that the Amazon guy connected me right away with the Fraud guy, and the Fraud guy connected me to the Treasury agent immediately should have raised the flags!] 

“You get a warrant signed by a judge, and I’ll…” click.

Over four hours on the phone and I was emotionally drained.

Off to the police station to file a report.

Off to the bank. I notified the police, my banks, my broker, and my cRedit card company. I froze my cRedit reports.

They recommended one more thing: Flag my driver’s license as stolen. I thought, yeah… sounds good. But as a trans person, I stopped and thought—okay, I get stopped by a cop and there’s a Flag for a possibly stolen license. As a trans person, who do you think the cop is going to suspect?

So now I lie awake worrying about this

So… how was your week?


** Thoughts **
  1. These guys are pros! This is what they do for a living.
  2. In hindsight, they never used my name until they had my driver’s license. Always ask who they are looking for. Like I said, these guys are professionals; if they asked for your license right away, you would say no. They work their way up to it until it seems natural to send it.
  3. They started small; a theft at Amazon—and worked their way up to the Feds... the U.S. Treasury Fraud Division, an inspector no less.
  4. I noticed that they all had accents; a little yellow light started flashing in my head!
  5. "I only have your word... I want proof!" "Okay, look up your local police department and we will send them our ID. They will then call you." Two minutes later, the caller ID says "Town Police Department." Hmm... that was fast! Too fast!
  6. And another accent!
  7. Then it moved to the pitch: "We need you to send your money to..." "FU! I’m off to the police department." CLICK!