Wednesday, September 23, 2026

The Extended Family

[Essay]

Growing up, my mother’s mother lived with us. When we traveled, she traveled with us. She was part of the family.

She was always there, and the thing I remember most is her cooking: her potato pancakes, her beer crullers, and gołąbki.

After she passed away, my maiden aunt moved in, and she was the last of the three sisters.

So growing up, we were always an extended family. It wasn’t because they couldn’t afford to live on their own, but rather because that was family.

Now, once again, extended families are becoming the norm. Why? It is not to have the family under one roof, but rather because that is the only way they can live. Housing, food, and heat are all out of sight! 

And they are only going to get worse.

When my grandmother lived with us, she babysat us and helped around the house. My aunt also tried to help out, but… well, she wasn’t a cook. After my father passed away, she couldn’t stay on her own because she had short-term memory lapses; once she melted an aluminum pan and charred an eye.

So what am I leading to… extended families.

For many in the LGBTQ+ community, we have chosen families because we were disowned by our natural families, so we create our own families to look out for one another and be there in times of need, to celebrate the holidays.

And now it will get even worse this winter, with $5 and $6 home heating oil. More people will have to reach out to others and share apartments and condos.

What I am trying to say is: be aware this winter of those in need. If people are struggling to heat their homes this winter, reach out to them. Invite them over to your warm home for an afternoon, and maybe have them for lunch. We are family, and our family values are to help others.

At a time of skyrocketing housing, food, and heat costs, the Republicans cut housing assistance, cut food assistance, and cut heating assistance. We will need our chosen families more now than ever before.

It is going to be a cold winter with heating oil at $6/gal!

[/Essay]

Warrior Ethos

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Beginning around 2013, the Army researched and developed the Occupational Physical Assessment Test (OPAT). Those standards were based on years of research into the physical demands of combat occupations. The Army is now using new standards, including the Army Fitness Test (AFT) and Combat Field Test (CFT), but questions remain about how their development and validation compare with the extensive research behind OPAT.

Last year, the Secretary called all of his high-ranking military leaders to a meeting. This is what AP News had to say about it.
By  JULIE WATSON, LAURIE KELLMAN and DEEPTI HAJELA
September 30, 2025


 Armed with a 10-point plan and pacing a stage in Quantico, Virginia, on Tuesday, Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth enumerated for hundreds of assembled military leaders just how much of the force’s policy, philosophy and culture will change for more than 2 million Americans in uniform under President Donald Trump’s command.

“For too long, we’ve promoted too many uniformed leaders for the wrong reasons based on their race, based on gender quotas, based on historic so-called firsts,” Hegseth said. The approach, he said, made the Pentagon “less capable and less lethal.” Hegseth talked up his and Trump’s focus on “the warrior ethos” and “peace through strength.”

“No more identity months, DEI offices, dudes in dresses. No more climate change worship, no more division, distraction or gender delusions. No more debris,” he declared.
Secretary Hegseth is bringing more and more of his version of the perfect warrior into fruition. (Hint: It does not include women, gay people, and minorities.)
‘The highest male standard’
WHAT HE SAID: “Any place where tried and true physical standards were altered, especially since 2015, when combat arms standards were changed to ensure females could qualify, must be returned to their original standard.”

THE BACKSTORY: It’s not clear what Hegseth meant by returning physical expectations to their “original standard.” But military culture and the role of women have changed dramatically in recent decades, and Hegseth aims to change them back.
He has some image a Greek mythos of riding a white stallion carrying the banner in to battle... you know like a Walter Mitty fantasy. But it goes deeper then that.

Hegseth belongs to the Communion of Reformed Evangelical Churches (CREC), an extreme conservative networkthat has it roots in Christian nationalism. Hegseth has several tattoos tied to the Crusades—including the Jerusalem Cross and the phrase "Deus Vult" ("God Wills It") but it is also tied in the Christian nationalism. The church hold that men and women have strict, separate biblical roles, and that women should not occupy positions of physical authority or combat leadership.}

Many Christian nationalists believe a woman's place is in the home, bearing babies. They see LGBTQ+ people as abominations and Black people as inferior. The Christian Science Monitor reports;
In a grassy square dotted with Adirondack chairs that lies at the heart of the Pentagon, evangelist Franklin Graham delivered a special sermon in December at the request of Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth.

“We know that God loves,” Mr. Graham said. Then, he took a turn. “Did you know that God also hates?” he asked the dressed-up children and troops attending. “Do you know that God is also a god of war?”

Mr. Graham then told a story about God taking revenge on ancient Israel’s enemies. “Kill them, both man, woman, infant, nursing child, ox, sheep, camel, and donkey,” Mr. Graham said, quoting the Bible. For those who don’t believe in a vengeful God, “Well,” he warned, “you’d better believe in him.”

Secretary Hegseth thanked Mr. Graham for his “bold” message. And in the following weeks, as the United States launched major military attacks against Venezuela and Iran, he echoed it.
He seems to believe that he is on a crusade to bring god back to a country that has lost its way. The article goes on to write:
It is not just about prayer. Mr. Hegseth has railed against America’s “internal enemies” in religious terms. And, last week, he compared U.S. journalists with the Pharisees – “the so-called and self-appointed elites of their time,” he said – who opposed Jesus.
Hegseth wrote a book, The War on Warriors and various public speeches, Hegseth openly embraces a "theology of Christian warfighting" and a "warrior ethos" inspired by medieval campaigns like the Crusades, which he views as a model for defending Western civilization against Islamism. 

Hmm... sound familiar?

High-ranking nominations for women dropped to a 25-year low under his tenure. Internal Pentagon whistleblowers reported that Hegseth stalled or actively blocked promotion tracks for senior female officers. The Daily Beast reports that;
Pete Hegseth’s block on promotions for senior female and Black officers is just the tip of the iceberg of Pentagon discrimination, sources have told the Daily Beast.

The secretary of defense has embarked on a demotion rampage targeting women and Black men while touting his “warrior ethos” makeover of the military.

The demotions result from the purge of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion from the DOD, in compliance with an executive order signed by President Donald Trump in March last year.
The British Guardian also reported...
The US defense secretary, Pete Hegseth, stripped nine navy officers including women and Black service members from a promotion list last month, according to a person familiar with the matter, resulting in an all-male, overwhelmingly white slate of 22 advancing as nominees to become one-star admirals.
But remember, there is a war on! Don't we want the best leaders? These people had years and years at their job... and they get axed! And replaced with "Yes men"


As 71-year-old retired four star Gen. Stanley McChrystal approaches the podium, the room applauds.

"I can't believe he's here," someone whispers.

Almost as if he heard them, McChrystal says this into the microphone.

"First off, we shouldn't be here."

"Here" is a retirement ceremony for five transgender service members who have been forcibly separated from the military under the Trump administration's second ban. The ceremony, which normally would be given by the Pentagon, has been hosted by the Human Rights Campaign in Washington, D.C.

[...]

"We gather today to recognize Col. Bree Fram, United States Air Force; Cmdr. Blake Dremann, United States Navy; Lt. Col. Erin Krizek, United States Air Force; Chief Petty Officer Jaida McGuire, United States Coast Guard; and Sgt. 1st Class Cathrine Schmid, United States Army."
Between them, they had decades of experience... and now there is a war,
In a memo filed February 2025, Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth gave the following rationale for the reversal:

"The department must ensure it is building 'one force' without subgroups defined by anything other than ability or mission adherence. Efforts to split our troops along lines of identity weaken our force and make us vulnerable. Such efforts must not be tolerated or accommodated."

"It's systematic oppression," says Corcoran. "You're creating unnecessary paperwork for commanders and service members to navigate when it should be the same standard of care in the same process as anybody you would have with a shoulder surgery or a knee surgery."
Early in the interview, Hegseth reads aloud the dramatic tagline on the back cover of his new book, The War on Warriors: “I joined the Army to fight extremists in 2001. Twenty years later, that same Army labeled me one.” Later, Hegseth flashes his right pectoral muscle, and the tattoo that, he says, led to the label: a large, inky Jerusalem cross associated with the Christian right.
The question that needs to be asked is: What are these purges doing to the military? These people are experts in their fields but are being let go because of their sex, the color of their skin, because they're gay, or because they're trans—not because of their job performance.

In another PBS News article they write...


 Since becoming defense secretary, Pete Hegseth has found no shortage of ways to bring his strand of conservative evangelicalism into the Pentagon.

[...]

Now the defense secretary's Christian rhetoric has taken on new meaning after the U.S. and Israel went to war with Iran, an Islamic theocracy.

"The mullahs are desperate and scrambling," he said at a recent Pentagon press briefing, referring to Iran's Shiite Muslim clerics. He later recited Psalm 144, a passage of Scripture that Jews and Christians share: "Blessed be the Lord, my rock, who trains my hands for war and my fingers for battle."

Hegseth has a history of defending the Crusades, the brutal medieval wars that pitted Christians against Muslims. In his 2020 book "American Crusade," he wrote that those who enjoy Western civilization should "thank a crusader." Two of his tattoos draw from crusader imagery: the Jerusalem Cross and the phrase "Deus Vult," or "God wills it," which Hegseth has called "the rallying cry of Christian knights as they marched to Jerusalem."
Now we are in the sixth month of an eight-week war... "Trump's War!" From the opening salvoes, it has been a disaster! And now we have a two-front war with the Strait of Bab al-Mandab , with the possibility of the straits being blocked...
Matthew D. Taylor, a visiting scholar at Georgetown who studies religious extremism and has been a frequent Hegseth critic, said, "The U.S. voluntarily going to war against a Muslim country with the military under the leadership of Pete Hegseth is exactly the kind of scenario that people like me were warning about before the election and throughout his appointment process."

Taylor said Hegseth's rhetoric and leadership "can only inflame and reinforce the fears and deep animosity that the regime in Iran has towards the U.S."
Has Hegseth's policies prolonged the war because he fired the best and the brightest? Is it that he hired "yes men" to replace them?

Tuesday, September 22, 2026

Oh, What A Tangled Web We Weave, When First We Practice To Deceive!

This administration has tried every which way to deny media access. Only media that toes the party line is allowed access to the administration. Let us list the times they went after the press:

Here’s a list of the major media-access restrictions and clashes in this administration (from Duck.ai):
  •     AP barred from Oval Office, Air Force One, and some events over the “Gulf of America” naming dispute.
  •    CNN, MS NOW, and Politico banned from White House coverage/grounds, with badges disabled or confiscated.
  •    Pentagon access rules that led to reporters being denied badges or pushed out unless they accepted new restrictions.
  •   Twice they threated or attempted bans aimed at individual reporters/outlets earlier in the term that were later reversed or ended up in court. 
Then we had the Defense Department starting a witch hunt for whoever leaked the story on the U.S.S. Abraham Lincoln, along with Secretary Hegseth firing editors and some staff at Stars and Stripes, which he had no authority to do since Congress passed a law against it. But alas, the Trump administration decided not to investigate itself, and Congress just shakes in fear of Trump, bowing to every wish.

This morning I wrote that the administration is fudging the war casualties. Couple that with the attacks on the First Amendment, and you have to wonder what they want to keep from voters.

Where do you see government attacking the press? Russia, China, North Korea, Turkmenistan, Belarus, and Myanmar. What do they have in common? They are all authoritarian governments.

There was a reason the First Amendment was made first. The founders felt it was the most important.

24/7 Political Ad For Trump... TRUMP - TV

Breaking News!!!!!!

Trump starts White House TV news show... Trump-TV
The Hill
by Ryan Mancini - 09/21/26


The White House on Monday launched Trump TV, a 24/7 stream on YouTube, days after President Trump banned reporters from CNN, Politico and MS NOW over their coverage of him and his administration.

The inaugural video was a stream of Trump speaking at Mount Rushmore on July 3 as part of a livestream titled “Trump TV: The Essentials Station.” The stream started at 7 p.m.

“Watch the Trump Administration’s biggest moments all in one place,” read the stream’s description on YouTube. “Top videos, major remarks, and must-see highlights streaming 24/7 and updated in real time. Stay informed and stay up to date!”
What a narcissist dream!
California Gov. Gavin Newsom (D) slammed Trump TV’s rollout in the wake of his ban on White House reporters from CNN, Politico and MS NOW.

“First, Trump banned independent news from the White House,” Newsom wrote on X. “Now, he’s launching what is quite literally state-run TV to try drowning out the fact that he and his corrupt administration are failing the American people. This is truly autocratic behavior from a failed President.”

Trump banned reporters from the three outlets on Friday as a result of what he claimed was “their constant ‘reporting’ FAKE NEWS!” He told reporters in the Oval Office that there was no particular reason for the timing of the ban, rather that it was “really just cumulative stories over the last two years.”

“You get sick of it,” he added.
24/7 propaganda!

How many of you read "1984"?
Do you remember the constant presence and voice of Big Brother—while simultaneously watching and listening to everything the citizens do? This is also where the famous two-minute hate sessions take place. Everywhere you looked there was the image of Trump... oops, I meant "Big Brother."

The Hill article ends with...
“An America cannot have state TV,” Jiang said. “That’s what makes America America … because you need independent actors to be able to be the observers. And if the government is only showing you what it wants, then you have to question: What are we missing?”




Monday, September 21, 2026

This Man Has His Finger On The Nuke Button

For a person who control the nuclear arsenal is very, very scary!
by Ryan Mancini 
09/20/26
 
 
 President Trump on Sunday speculated on the future of the Iran war, asking “if and when do I blow the entire nation up?”

Fox News’s Trey Yingst reported that Trump is in a “deciding mode” and “that very big things are going to be happening in the not-so-distant future.”
 
 “The president described the current choices on the table as ‘wiping Iran out, letting them rot economically or making a deal,'” Yingst said. “He added, ‘My question is if and when do I blow the entire nation up? They better behave.'”

Trump said Thursday that he’s weighing the decision to “go in and annihilate them [the Iranian regime] or do I not,” he told Axios, adding that anything “could happen with me.”
For that talk to be coming out of the President of the United States is wrong! It so very wrong!
 
What do you think? 

I Was Never In The Military.

But one thing I believe that who are or did serve deserve full benefits! They were will to put their lives on the line and we should take care of them!
By Reuters
September 18, 2026


More ​US troops have died during ‌the US-Israeli war with Iran than the Pentagon has publicly disclosed, the Washington Post reported ​on Friday.
Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth ​denied the report.

[…]

The Post, citing five unidentified ⁠officials, reported that there had been ​at least 22 military fatalities, four ​more than were listed in the data available on the Pentagon's public database.
The newspaper also reported, ​citing another unidentified official, that not ​all of the undisclosed deaths were directly tied ‌to ⁠the months-long conflict but involved US personnel who were in the Middle East amid ongoing hostilities.
Yeah, but it is only four not counted… big deal! Yeah it is a big deal! You see the families don’t get the same benefits as those who were killed in a combat zone.
CNN
By Davis Winkie & Aleena Fayaz
Aleena Fayaz
Jul 24, 2026


Democratic members of the Senate sent a letter to Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth late Thursday demanding answers as to why the website was having issues and asked for a full accounting of war casualties.

Four deaths and dozens of injuries disappeared from the totals on Thursday after the Defense Casualty Analysis System website had correctly listed the total number of US troops killed in the war at 18 earlier in the week. Four soldiers died – three in Jordan and one in Iraq – as part of operations over the weekend.

[…]

The Defense Department has been slow to disclose injuries during the war, with officials pointing to security needs. On Monday, Parnell had acknowledged that “nearly 100 service members” had been injured in the war since July 7, at a time when dozens of those injuries did not appear in the DCAS totals.
This is from a government whose leader call those who died on D-Day losers and suckers!

I hope that they are not denying benefit because of cost nor because of the politic because they fear making the public even more against the war.

They Forget It Is A Spectrum.

Age is a spectrum... it is not just the young who need help but also at the other end of the age spectrum that also need help, but a different type of help.
BBC News
Josh Parry
Sept. 19, 2026


As a 75-year-old lesbian, Mindy Meleyal has lived through every major milestone in the modern LGBT rights movement, from the start of decriminalisation in 1967 to the first same-sex marriages in 2014.

But now she says this important part of her identity is frequently overlooked due to her age.

She's part of England's older LGBTQ+ community, which a new report suggests often experiences poorer health, more limited finances and greater social isolation than the wider older population.

The report, from the Centre for Ageing Better, says without specialist support, this growing demographic could be forced "back into the closet" when accessing care, warning they may even delay getting the care they need because of concerns about homophobia.
What I have found is that my circle of friends is getting smaller and smaller. A friend passed away last week. She was a friend who I used to go out to lunch once a month with our senior trans group.
"It's very common for people to hide things if they have a carer visiting their home, for example hiding their wedding photos or taking down a trans flag," he says.
I used to call it "Sanitizing" when my parents came over, but in a Long Term Care facility we have to hide.
The Kindred House scheme is what's known as extra-care housing, which means residents live independently, but there is a 24/7 care team available for those who need extra help, and all staff will receive specialist training around LGBTQ+ inclusion.

Porter says he hopes the scheme will "trigger some conversations" about how to best support older LGBTQ+ people in the challenges they face.
It is not the staff! They were beautiful in helping us, but... It is the residents that is the problem. Shunning. I have heard from trans people that no one sits at their table or get up and leave when they sit down at a table,

I believe we need to start off simply... just a drop in centers at Pride centers during the daylight hours. Board games, movies, book groups, just stuff to get us out of our residencies and in and around others LGBTQ+ people. Even intergenerational drop-in centers should be tried. The goal is to get the Stonewall Generation out of their homes and with others.