Family Values

An organization that says they are for “family values” had to release internal emails because of a court case. I don’t know about you, but this is not one of my family values.

Anti-Gay Marriage Group Recommends Creating Tension Between Gays and Blacks
New York Times
By Nicholas Confessore
March 27, 2012

An internal memo from one of the country’s leading anti-gay marriage organizations outlines a plan to defeat same-sex marriage and create division among Democrats by creating tension between gays and blacks over the issue.

The memo was contained in a trove of documents unsealed by a federal judge on Monday in a case in Maine, where the group, the National Organization for Marriage, spearheaded a successful ballot initiative in 2009 to outlaw gay marriage and has sued to overturn state ethics laws that would require the group to reveal the donors who financed that effort.

“The strategic goal of the project is to drive a wedge between gays and blacks — two key Democratic constituencies,” reads a portion of the memo, describing an initiative called the “Not a Civil Right Project.”

Meanwhile, in another article on family values…

Transgender Parent: When Mom Becomes Dad, Children Struggle
ABC News
By SUSAN DONALDSON JAMES
March 27, 2012

"I came home from a trip with to my Dad's house and mom sat me down on the couch and told me she was going to transition," she said. "It's hard to face the fact that someone who is close to you changes at all -- especially a change that big."
[…]
Just last week, New York City's Mel Wymore, a transgender man who is running for city council, discussed the difficulty his two children had during his transition from female to male in 2009.

"We have had very deep conversations and some negotiations around what makes them comfortable," he told the New York Times, adding the children are still allowed to call him, "Mom."
[…]
"It usually gets easier after a while and, despite the changes, your parent will always be the same person," said Sabine [daughter of a FtM]. "Only, maybe a bit happier."

It is never easy when there are children involved, whatever their ages. For some it is like a loss of the parent, while others are like Sabine, they see the person inside and not the shell. They all need time to grieve and adjust because they also have to transition. For support of children of LGBT parent visit the COLAGE web-site.