Tuesday, December 24, 2024

I'm All Stressed Out!

How many time have we heard that over the holidays that we are all stressed out?

From the shopping...
From setting up for the holidays...
From the office parties...
From being with the family...

 
And for many LGBTQ+ people it is from rejection...
From uncle _______ who keeps telling me all I need is a good man/women to make me straight!
From aunt _______ who keeps telling me I'm going to hell!
From grandma ______ who hasn't spoken to me since I came out!

We say we have our chosen family but that doesn't completely fill the void. But it helps. Open your hearts this season. I wish I had magic to make all the hurt go away, all the hate from the politics, all the damnation from Holier than Thou crowd.




 
I asked Perplexity AI: "Holiday stress on elder LGBTQ+ people?"

Answer:
The holiday season can be particularly challenging for elder LGBTQ+ individuals, often exacerbating feelings of isolation and stress. Several factors contribute to this increased difficulty:
 
Social Isolation
Elder LGBTQ+ adults are more likely to experience social isolation during the holidays1
. This can be due to:
  •     Changes in family structure, resulting in more older adults living alone
  •     Distant family members unable to visit
  •     Lack of family with whom to share the holidays
Social isolation can trigger depression and negatively impact mental, physical, and emotional health1
.
Family Dynamics
For some elder LGBTQ+ individuals, family interactions can be a source of stress:
  •     Varying levels of acceptance regarding their gender identity or sexuality
  •     Potential misgendering or use of incorrect names/pronouns
  •     Having to "go back into the closet" when visiting family
These experiences can be particularly challenging for those who have been out for many years and are suddenly faced with family members who don't affirm their identity.
 
Loss and Grief
The holiday season can bring feelings of loss to the forefront for LGBTQ+ elders.
 
This may be intensified by:
  •     Memories of past holidays with loved ones who have passed away
  •     Reflection on relationships strained or lost due to coming out
  •     The current sociopolitical climate, which may evoke feelings of vulnerability
Coping Strategies
To manage holiday stress, elder LGBTQ+ individuals can:
  •     Seek out supportive communities, such as SAGE, which can decrease loneliness and increase overall well-being
  •     Create chosen families and new traditions with accepting friends and community members
  •     Set boundaries with family members to protect their mental health
  •     Practice self-care through activities like journaling, exercising, or meditating3
Support from Allies
Allies can play a crucial role in supporting elder LGBTQ+ individuals during the holidays by:
  •     Offering invitations to inclusive celebrations
  •     Checking in on seniors throughout the holiday season
  •     Providing emotional support and a listening ear
By acknowledging these unique challenges and implementing supportive strategies, we can help make the holiday season more enjoyable and less stressful for elder LGBTQ+ individuals.



Monday, December 23, 2024

To Boldly Go Where No Man Has Gone Before!

Or in this case where the courts have never gone before… and it is scary!
CBS News
December 13, 2024


Texas has sued a New York doctor for prescribing abortion pills to a woman near Dallas, launching one of the first challenges in the U.S. to shield laws that Democrat-controlled states passed to protect physicians after Roe v. Wade was overturned.

Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton filed the lawsuit on Thursday in Collin County, and it was announced Friday.

Such prescriptions, made online and over the phone, are a key reason that the number of abortions has increased across the U.S. even since state bans started taking effect. Most abortions in the U.S. involve pills rather than procedures.

Mary Ruth Ziegler, a law professor at the University of California, Davis, School of Law, said a challenge to shield laws, which blue states started adopting in 2023, has been anticipated.

And it could have a chilling effect on prescriptions.

"Will doctors be more afraid to mail pills into Texas, even if they might be protected by shield laws because they don't know if they're protected by shield laws?" she said in an interview Friday.
Fear, that is what Texas is dealing out… they want to make doctors afraid of treating patients.
New York Attorney General Letitia James said in a statement that the state will "protect our providers from unjust attempts to punish them for doing their job."

"Abortion is, and will continue to be, legal and protected in New York. As other states move to attack those who provide or obtain abortion care, New York is proud to be a safe haven for abortion access," she said in the statement.
This can have far reaching implication… is a doctor sitting in an office and talking to patient in another state considered a business transaction in the doctor’s state or is it where the patient lives? That is the question. Now other states are think about it…
"I began to think about how we might be able to both provide an additional deterrent to companies violating the criminal law and provide a remedy for the family of the unborn children," said Tennessee state Rep. Gino Bulso, who is sponsoring the legislation there that includes a provision barring use of the medications for abortion.
MSNBC reports,
A fragile truce between the states on abortion just collapsed: Last week, Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton filed a lawsuit against a doctor in New York for mailing pills into the state. The physician, Margaret Daly Carpenter, is part of a group called the Abortion Coalition for Telemedicine, which represents doctors who mail abortion medications — in this case, mifepristone and misoprostol — to states where the procedure is banned. ACT refers to these clients as “shield providers” because they rely on the protections afforded by so-called shield laws, which are on the books in 23 states and the District of Columbia to protect providers and other possible defendants from out-of-state legal consequences. Texas’ suit is the first to challenge these shield laws, and it’s likely to raise unprecedented legal questions in the new year.
I think this is different from the trans case in Washington state where Texas sued for a hospital records on patients from Texas because this involves medicines. MSNBC writes,
With this lawsuit, we enter uncharted territory. Texas has accused Carpenter of practicing medicine without a license and violating a state law limiting the availability of abortion pills, with civil penalties for the latter starting at $100,000. If Texas’ lawsuit goes forward, it seems likely, Texas will win in its own state courts. A Texas court will have to decide which state’s law applies, given that the physician was based in one state and the patient and the abortion in another. Standard telehealth law tends to focus on the location of the patient. And Texas will argue that it has the right to apply its laws because of where the abortion — the injury in Texas’ view — took place. That means Texas could win a civil judgment against Carpenter even if she never travels to the state.
I can see the difference between physically driving to a state verses a Zoom meeting.

This opens up a whole Pandora's Box for telemedicine!
The state of Texas has sued a New Paltz, New York doctor for prescribing a medicated abortion to a Texas resident online, setting up the first test of a New York law meant to protect abortion providers.
WAMC Northeast Public Radio
By Jesse King
December 17, 2024


Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton filed a federal, civil lawsuit against Dr. Maggie Carpenter for practicing in Texas without a license and prescribing two abortion medications — mifepristone and misoprostal — to a Texas woman via telemedicine. Texas banned nearly all abortions after the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade in 2022.

According to the filing, it was the father in the pregnancy who discovered the abortion, after the woman experienced complications that resulted in her going to the hospital.

The lawsuit is one of the first trying to prevent telemedicine providers from mailing abortion pills to states that ban it. It’s also the first test of New York’s “shield law” — one of several shield laws in states across the country — designed to protect providers and abortion advocates from retaliation.

“It’s definitely something we’ve expected to see, this kind of inter-state conflict around abortion," says Mary Ziegler, a law professor at the University of California, Davis. "This is a question about states’ rights, right? And when states have to listen to one another.”
This case is going to the Supreme Court! No ifs, ands, or buts! And it is a biggie!

Suppose a doctor at a famous teaching hospital is consulting with a doctor in another state on a patient in that state… what would the legal ramifications?

Suppose a doctor in Californian is treating a patient way out in the boonies in a town in Alaska without a doctor?
“It’s going to be one of many lawsuits we see, and potentially prosecutions like this, in the New Year — in addition to lobbying of the Trump Administration to take steps at the federal level," she explains. "For example, to disallow telehealth access to abortion medication, or to use the Comstock Act, which is a 19th Century obscenity law, to essentially block the mailing of not just abortion pills, but any abortion-related paraphenalia.”
Suppose a doctor tells a trans patient this is dosage and the drug you need to block puberty and the patient buys the drug from New Zealand… what is the doctor’s liability since he didn’t write a prescription for the drug?

Dr. Carpenter was not a licensed Texas physician and was not authorized to practice telehealth in the state, the release said. It is illegal to treat patients or prescribe medicine through telehealth services without a valid Texas medical license. And Texas law prohibits any physicians from providing abortion-induced drugs by courier, delivery and mail service.

The lawsuit requested the courts impose civil penalties of $100,000 for each violation of the law.

Dr. Carpenter is the fourth physician that the Texas attorney general has sued since October. The first three, all Texas physicians, were sued for allegedly providing gender-related transition care to minors. In November, Mr. Paxton sued Brett Cooper, MD, claiming the physician illegally prescribed hormone therapy drugs to 15 minors, most recently as of Sept. 25. On Oct. 17, his office filed a similar lawsuit against May Lau, MD, a Dallas-based UT Southwestern Medical Center physician; and on Oct. 31, Mr. Paxton sued Hector Granados, MD, over allegedly providing gender-affirming care to 21 patients between the ages of 12 and 17. 
If Texas prevails with this case, it could set a horrible precedent for stricter regulation of interstate telemedicine services, potentially affecting access to transgender healthcare via telemedicine.

Oh what a tangled web we weave when we twist the Constitution to our religious beliefs!

Are Your Feet Getting Restless?

Are you thinking that maybe it might become downright unfriendly for us here? Well you are not alone, Forbes even wrote an article about it,
Thinking about leaving America in light of the 2024 election results? Here are some of the best countries for Americans to move to, plus ideas for how to move out of the U.S.
By Laura Begley Bloom
Nov 6, 2024


Interest in how to move out of the U.S. has been growing in recent years—but following the results of the 2024 U.S. presidential election, it has reached a fever pitch. With news that Donald Trump is returning to the White House, searches for popular moving abroad terms—“the best countries for Americans to move to,” “best country to move to from USA,” “leaving America,” “where to move out of the US,” “where to move abroad”—have spiked dramatically. According to Google Trends, queries for “how to move to Canada” increased by 400% by 8 p.m. on election night.

Marco Permunian, a founder of the Italy-based Italian Real Estate Lawyers—an agency with offices in New York, Houston, Memphis and Los Angeles that specializes in Italian citizenship law and immigration matters—says he has been inundated with requests. “As of today—the day following the election—since Trump’s victory was announced we have been receiving an inquiry every three minutes,” Permunian told me in an interview.
You know it is not easy to move out of the country. Are you going to drive in the other country? What about work?
But moving abroad isn’t always simple. Alex Ingrim, a Florence, Italy-based financial advisor with Chase Buchanan USA, advises Americans on the financial and logistical complexities of relocating. “Moving for political reasons rarely leads to a sustainable move,” Ingrim told me in an interview. “It’s important to consider all the small things that can add up to significant complications in a move—are you legally allowed to live in the foreign country? Are you planning on becoming tax resident? Is the cost of living affordable? Could you qualify for a mortgage? All the things we take for granted in the U.S. can be harder to re-create in a foreign country. This can sometimes take several months of pre-planning.”
I knew someone who moved to Mexico, she moved to the East Coast of the Gulf of California and she was living quit well on Social Security.

They report on a number of countries but some of them I don't know how safe they are for LGBTQ+ people. That is the problem with these articles, they assume you are White, Cis-gendered, and Heterosexual.

Why Do They Hate Us So Much?

Why is Texas so anti-trans? We have been around since the dawn of time and it has never been a problem until the Republicans politicized us and made us their bogyman, their scapegoat.
Ken Paxton sues NCAA over transgender athletes’ participation in women’s sports
The attorney general is accusing the organization of misleading fans by allowing transgender college athletes in women’s sports.
Texas Tribune
By Berenice Garcia
December 22, 2024


Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton said Sunday he sued the National Collegiate Athletic Association, accusing the organization of misleading college sports fans by allowing transgender women to participate in events marketed as women's competitions.

Paxton said the NCAA violated the Texas Deceptive Trade Practices Act by deceiving fans who want to support sporting events that only include athletes whose female sex was assigned at birth.

Paxton also accused the NCAA of misleading consumers by not identifying which athletes are transgender, and of “jeopardizing the safety and wellbeing of women” by allowing transgender athletes to participate in its sporting events.

“Radical ‘gender theory’ has no place in college sports,” Paxton said in a news release Sunday.

Paxton wants the court to limit the participation of trans athletes in NCAA competitions taking place in Texas or involving Texas teams, or to stop the organization from labeling events as women's sports if they include transgender women.
Why do they hate us so much?
120 anti-trans bills have already been filed across the United States before 2025 has even started
The number surpasses the number of bills filed in advance of 2024, a historically hostile year towards trans individuals.
The Advocate
By Erin Reed
December 21, 2024


After a record-breaking year for anti-trans legislation, 2025 is shaping up to be even more challenging for transgender and queer people across the United States. A legislative tracker maintained by Erin In The Morning and other volunteers has found that nearly 120 anti-trans and anti-LGBTQ+ bills have already been filed in states nationwide ahead of the 2025 legislative season. This far surpasses the 80 bills filed by this time in 2023, signaling another historic wave of legal attacks on the ability of transgender people to move, live, and exist freely as themselves in public.

The bulk of the bills so far come from Texas and Missouri, two of the earlier states that release prefilled legislation ahead of the 2025 session. However, states like South Carolina, New Hampshire, Georgia, Wyoming, and Montana all feature multiple anti-LGBTQ+ bills, with more being added every day. Thirteen states in all have seen anti-trans bills filed: Alabama, Arizona, Georgia, Indiana, Missouri, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Ohio, South Carolina, Texas, Washington, and Wyoming.

This year, several state bills aim to strip legal recognition from transgender people entirely. Between 2022 and 2024, ten states passed such legislation or enacted similar policies, with devastating consequences for affected communities. In Kansas, Florida, and Texas, transgender individuals are now unable to update their driver’s licenses, and in some cases, states have begun reverting gender marker changes that were made years or even decades ago. Transgender people who have lived as their legal gender for years may face forced reversion of their identification documents if these new bills are enacted. Similar legislation has already been introduced in Texas, Missouri, South Carolina, and Wyoming.
Why do they hate us so much?
Not Everyone Can Leave: Survival Advice From Trans Teens in Texas
Media often focus on trans teens fleeing the anti-trans states they’re living in. But what about those who can’t leave?
Truthout
By Marisol Cortez ,
November 13, 2024


“The hostility has always been there,” Paul told me. “But I feel like it truly began to ramp up like 2020.”

A 16-year-old student at a large public high school in a large Texas city, Paul (a pseudonym to protect his safety) is a varsity athlete with aspirations to join the FBI. But in 2020 he was still in middle school. Texas wouldn’t pass its first anti-trans bill — a sports ban on trans youth playing on the team aligning with their gender — for another year. But Paul remembers watching sports bans passing in other states and feeling unsettled, “hearing [rumored] horror stories of kids having to take their pants off and have teachers check them. I wasn’t out yet. But [another family member] was. So it was really scary. I couldn’t at the time tell why it scared me so much. But thinking about it [being] like an invasion of my privacy, even though it wasn’t directly happening to me.”

For Mike — another 16-year-old trans guy who likes cooking, playing bass and hanging out with his friends — his first awareness of something shifting in Texas happened around the same time, also from hearing about political developments in other states. Ron DeSantis’s 2019 inauguration as governor of Florida, which launched anti-trans restrictions on sports and health care, and Florida’s infamous “Don’t Say Gay” bill, was a key memory for him, making a big impression on him as a youth living in Texas, another red state: “That’s when I decided, if I’m going to college” — the son of immigrants, he would be the first in his family to go to college — “I need to get out of here. I don’t think it’s safe for me to stay here.”
Why do they hate us so much?
By Stella M. Chávez
September 23, 2024
 
 
Last month, Texas became the largest state to block transgender people from updating the sex listed on their driver’s licenses and birth certificates.

The policy change, which was not announced in public, took many people by surprise. State officials released some basic information about the decision. But many questions remain unanswered.

The Texas Newsroom filed records requests and interviewed state officials, LGBTQ advocates and legal experts to better understand the potential effects of the new policy.

The change should not hamper the ability of transgender Texans to vote, according to local and state election officials. But it’s still unclear whether they will encounter new problems opening a bank account, updating their health insurance or dealing with other everyday tasks that require an ID. The legality of the policy has also been thrown into question. As of now, however, the change remains in effect unless and until a lawsuit is filed.

Meanwhile, many transgender Texans are caught in legal limbo. In interviews, they said it feels as though the state is creating a list to keep track of them — but to what end?
The answer is simple… POWER! CONTROL!

They crave for power and they do it by demonizing us.

What do Brazil’s Vargas, Poland’s Jaruzelski, Panama’s Noriega, Hungary's Orbán, and Russia’s Putin have in common? The all demonizing of us! And now we can add the Republicans to the list.

Sunday, December 22, 2024

You Knew That We Weren't Going To Win

There is a name for it (A poison pill), it was in a must pass bill and the Republicans knew that there were not the votes there to block it.
Reuters
By Patricia Zengerle
December 19, 2024


The U.S. Senate voted overwhelmingly for an $895 billion bill setting policy for the Pentagon on Wednesday, despite the inclusion of a controversial provision on transgender medical care for minors.

The 100-member Senate backed the National Defense Authorization Act, or NDAA, by 85 to 14. Since it passed the House of Representatives last week, approval sends it to the White House, where the bill's congressional supporters say President Joe Biden is expected to sign it into law.

This year's NDAA authorizes a record $895 billion in annual military spending, covering purchases of ships, aircraft and weapons, and including provisions intended to boost competitiveness with geopolitical rivals like China and Russia.

[...]
 
It authorizes a 14.5% pay increase for the lowest-ranking troops, and 4.5% for the rest of the force, higher than usual. It also authorizes billions of dollars for military housing, schools and childcare centers.

The bill bans the military health program, TRICARE, from covering some gender-affirming care for the transgender children of service members if it could risk sterilization, a provision that caused some Democrats to vote no in the Senate and in the House.
A lot more than us depended upon this bill passing and the Democrats were between a rock and a hard place so what were the options?
  • Option 1: Let the bill die. But that wasn't a doable option because the bill had to pass, it includes the salaries for the military servicemembers, pensions for the retired servicemembers, housing for them, new badly needed school funding, It would also have resulted in millions of workers getting laid off as the funding for their defense jobs stops.
  • Option 2: Block the amendment, however the votes are not there.
  • Option 3: Sallow the "poison pill"
What would you do?



The Lies

What do you expect from the right-wing... lies, lies, lies, and more lies!
Every time a mass shooting happens, right-wing influencers falsely claim that the shooter is trans; rarely is that true.
The Advocate
By Christopher Wiggins
December 17 2024


In the aftermath of yet another devastating school shooting in America, misinformation spread rapidly across social media, falsely claiming the alleged 15-year-old school shooter in Wisconsin — identified as Natalie Rupnow, who went by Samantha — was transgender. Law enforcement officials in Madison are pushing back, emphasizing that these baseless claims only distract from the lives lost and the urgent need to address gun violence.

[...]

Barnes was responding to a reporter’s question that specifically pointed to Moms for Liberty as a source of false claims that the alleged shooter was trans. The Southern Poverty Law Center has designated Moms for Liberty as an anti-government extremist group. “I don’t know whether Natalie was transgender or not, and quite frankly, I don’t think that’s even important,” Barnes said. “What happened today has nothing to do with how she or he or they may have wanted to identify, and I wish people would leave their own personal biases out of this.”
It figures that it is an organization who started the rumors
Yet, almost immediately, a now-familiar pattern emerged. A prominent user on X (formerly Twitter), with 1.4 million followers, falsely claimed, “The Wisconsin school shooter has been identified as a 17-year-old trans identified male. Another mentally ill girl on testosterone.” The account referenced a locked Google Doc “manifesto” allegedly linked to the shooter. Another widely followed account wrote, “They cannot tell if the shooter is male or female. So my guess, it’s a mentally unstable transgender, because, let’s be real, it’s always them.” These inflammatory claims spread like wildfire despite the absence of evidence.
In 2022 the Uvalde, Texas school shooting, we got blamed for that. The politicizing of us in the aftermath of tragic events, often leading to the spread of lies and animosity against us.
 
Tell a lies often enough and it becomes the truth.
 
Only one of the shooters listed was trans the others are all lies spread by right-wing organizations! Newsweek ran a hatchet job on us where it listed
A tweet listing four mass shootings in the past five years that were perpetrated by transgender people has gone viral, attracting 5.4 million views as of 8 a.m. ET on Tuesday and the attention of Twitter's owner, Elon Musk.

Benny Johnson, a political columnist and Turning Point U.S.A. official, wrote in his viral tweet: "One thing is VERY clear: the modern trans movement is radicalizing activists into terrorists."

Musk—who has expressed varying views on transgender issues and is reported to have a transgender child—replied to the tweet with an exclamation mark, itself seen 2.2 million times.
USA Today wrote that,
Our rating: False
There's no evidence the shooter was transgender. No official sources or credible media outlets have reported this, and none of the images or videos included in the post prove the shooter identified as male.

Claim about transgender shooter is baseless
Police reported a 15-year-old-girl shot and killed two people and injured several others before taking her own life at Abundant Life Christian School in Madison, Wisconsin, on Dec. 16. Police later identified the shooter as 15-year-old Natalie Rupnow, who went by the name Samantha.

Like many past shootings, the incident has become the target of online speculation regarding the shooter's gender identity. But there's no evidence Rupnow was transgender.
However Reuters reports...


The mass shooting at a Georgia school on Wednesday sparked a narrative on social media that all mass shootings at schools in the U.S. in recent years have been carried out by transgender people, which is false.

Fourteen-year-old Colt Gray killed two students and two teachers and wounded nine others at Apalachee High School in Winder, Georgia, on Sept. 4 and is being charged as an adult.
A Facebook post, opens new tab that suggests Gray identifies as transgender reads in part, “Every single mass school shooting in the last 2 years has been carried out by a transgender individual.”

[...]

A search of the entire GVA database, opens new tab in September 2024 with “Incident Characteristic” filters for “mass shootings,” “school incident” and “trans: suspect” returns just one result, opens new tab referring to a 2023 Nashville school shooting that killed six people, in which the suspect reportedly identified as transgender.
Once again what Joseph Goebbels said about lies it true, the right-wing conservatives are demonizing us!



The House negotiated a spending bill that included funding for pediatric cancer research, bans on junk fees, and provisions to lower prescription drug costs. But then two billionaires blew up the deal because it didn't help them enough.

Still a month away from the White House, Trump and his billionaire backer threw Congress' plans to get home for the holidays into chaos over a government funding bill.
NBC News
By Matt Dixon
December 19, 2024


It was government shutdown season in Washington, and all through the House, many creatures were stirring — most notably Elon Musk.

Lawmakers in Congress were expecting a glide path to the holidays. They had a bipartisan deal that would keep the government funded and send them all on their merry way back to their districts.

But then they got a taste of what the next four years might be like with Donald Trump back in the White House and Musk, the world’s richest man, wielding enormous power over the political process.

[...]

Less than a day later, House Republicans released a 116-page plan to keep the government open through March 14. The plan had the support of both Trump and Musk, the billionaire who was Republicans’ biggest 2024 political donor and a frequent presence in Trump’s orbit. 

But even after a significant arm-twisting and primary threats from Trump and his allies, the new plan went down in flames on the House floor Thursday night with significant Republican opposition.
This is what $250 million dollars buys!
Musk has his money, but he also has his megaphone. He has the most followers on the social media platform X — more than 208 million — which is not entirely surprising since he owns the site. 

Musk, who spent more than $250 million getting Trump elected, posted about his opposition to the original spending deal well over 100 times over the past two days, with threats to fund primary challenges to anyone who voted for the plan, which was six weeks in the making.

“Any member of the House or Senate who votes for this outrageous spending bill deserves to be voted out in 2 years!” Musk posted Wednesday afternoon on X. 
We have the best government money can buy!