Saturday, July 22, 2017

Saturday 9: Don't Stop

Crazy Sam’s Saturday 9: Don't Stop (1977)... because Country Dew recommended Fleetwood Mac 

On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun…
Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) Since we're not supposed to stop thinking about tomorrow, let's talk about it: What are your plans for Sunday?
Well, now that we don’t have the cottage the weekends are boring. I don’t have any plans for Sunday.

2) Fleetwood Mac was formed 50 years ago in London. Fifty years is considered a "golden anniversary." Do you wear more silver or gold?
Um… does gold plating count? If so, I have more gold than silver.

3) This song is from Rumours, which has sold 40 million copies. Is it in your collection?
Of course.

4) It was written by keyboardist and vocalist Christine McVie. She was born Christine Perfect, a name that earned her a fair share of teasing when she was a school girl. Do you recall being teased in school? What about?
Of course, anyone who wore glasses was “four eyes” and I was a nerd before the word “nerd” even existed.

5) Before Fleetwood Mac, she was in a band called Chicken Shack. If you were to order out for a chicken dinner, which restaurant would you turn to?
That is a hard question to answer. Here in town we have a choice of Italian or Chinese, we are seriously lacking in take-out choices. So to answer your question it would be Chicken Parmigiana from the pizza joint just a block away.

6) Before she could pay all her bills with her music, she supported herself as a window dresser for a London department store. Do you enjoy walking along, just window shopping? Or do you consider "looking with no intention to buy" a waste of time?
Yes, and yes. I like a walking buddy and I don’t like window shopping.

7) When she found herself making big money, one of the first things Christine bought was a pair of matching Mercedes for herself and then-husband, John McVie. If you were handed a check for $1 million, what's the first thing you would do with the money?
Call my broker.
Then rent a big yacht and throw a big party.

8) The other girl in Fleetwood Mac, Stevie Nicks, founded the Soldier's Angel Foundation. She believes in the healing power of music, and so she's proud to provide wounded soldiers with iPods already loaded with music. When you listen to music from your phone, MP3 player or iPod, do you use ear buds or headphones?
It depends upon where. Inside the house I wouldn’t wear them but outside on the deck I wear noise cancelling headphones.

9) Random question: Let's pretend your high school reunion is coming up. Which classmate are you more curious about: the one who was your first date, or the one who was too cool to give you the time of day?
The one who I had my first date with. I always wondered how she is doing, the last I heard she was married and working at a small pharmaceutical out San Francisco.

Friday, July 21, 2017

When You Are A Public Figure, The Haters Come Out Of The Woodwork

Anyone who is a public figure, an activist, or just speaks up came become a lightning rod for the haters and that is one reason that my blog comments are moderated to block the haters.
Young Trans Artist Targeted by Neo-Nazis
The Advocate
By Jacob Anederson-Minshall
July 20, 2017

Earlier this year, cartoonist Sophie Labelle’s Assigned Male comic, about a young trans girl, suddenly disappeared from Facebook. It was replaced by a page of vile, racist, neo-Nazi propaganda.

Earlier this year, cartoonist Sophie Labelle’s Assigned Male comic, about a young trans girl, suddenly disappeared from Facebook. It was replaced by a page of vile, racist, neo-Nazi propaganda.

Labelle posted in May that her web comic was down “because it got hacked.”

“After receiving several thousands of death threats in the past few days for making my art, my address was also posted on several forums,” she added.

The 28-year-old Canadian comic creator tells The Advocate there was a coordinated attack on her Facebook page, which made it crash. That forced her to remove it, and someone used the opportunity to create a fake page posting neo-Nazi hate speech, including suggesting Labelle should be sent to a concentration camp or gas chamber.

“This is what you get for being trans on the internet and for reframing transness into something positive and empowering,” Labelle posted at the time.
I have to seconded that, the anonymity of the web have embolden the haters on the web where you can use a pen name or just be anonymous has opened up the web to hate.
The attacks Sophie Labelle experienced are becoming all too common. Emily Waters of the New York City Anti-Violence Project explains, “LGBTQ communities have always used the Internet as a way to create and share community,” which makes us all particularly sensitive to such attacks. “As our lives and communities continue to move online, we must realize that online harassment has a real impact on [LGBTQ] lives.”
I haven’t received threats but I have received hate comments, here are some of the more tame comments,
“When will ‘Diane’ stop looking, talking, and smelling like a man?”

“So one more comment that will never see the light of day simply because the tyrant that runs this blog, just like the vast majority of trans forums and blogs, has no interest in the rights of others or their views, who simply do not agree with their trans-dogma that MEN with penises who throw on a wig and an ugly dress are actually women because they, the MEN, say so.”

“I disagree. Milo is calling attention to the fact that this student is in fact a man claiming to be a woman whose only justification is that he feelz like one. Just how would he know what a woman feelz like? Does he menstruate? Nevertheless he feels empowered enough to invade the women’s locker room and expose his penis. All you delusional cupcakes should read his 8 page profanity filled rant”
These are some of the more mild comments that I get, most of the time there is an overabundance of four letter and derogatory words.

Many of the comments come from people who are trans whom the community calls HBSer for those who follow the old Harry Benjamin Syndrome standards which required you to be attracted to men and be able to fully integrate in your true gender into society.

Someone once told me that if you don’t get hate mail you must not be doing anything.

The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side

Our story comes from all places this morning, Playboy.

Not valid research but more anecdotal in to trans people who change sexual orientation when they transition.
Going Straight: Investigating the Sex Lives of Transgender Women
By Katelyn Burns
July 19, 2017

According to Debra W. Soh, a sexual neuroscientist and one of Playboy’s resident sexologists, sexuality flips like mine are common among trans women. “Research has shown that about one third of trans women will report a change in their sexual orientation throughout their lifetime, and flipping can happen for a number of reasons,” she says. Sexuality is fluid and there are myriad reasons and situations in which trans women may feel their attractions shifting. Soh continues, “For some people, a change can represent sexual interests that were there all along but only became fully realized upon transitioning. For others it may be the result of romantic opportunities becoming available that weren’t before, like someone whom you wouldn’t have previously considered asking you out.”

Given that it’s fairly common, fears of a sexuality flip are a frequent concern for trans people starting hormone replacement therapy, especially for those already married or in a committed relationship with a straight partner. When I began transitioning last year, my marriage disintegrated quickly. Not only was my wife straight, but she worried I’d be attracted to men after transitioning. In retrospect, she was right to worry.
For many trans people, their transitions have hardened their original sexual attractions; for others, their transitions have allowed them to more fully explore their inner attractions. Trans people who experience a flip in their sexualities seem to be in the minority and trans people in general are more likely to be in the LGB spectrum than cis people are. It’s a common misconception that trans people transition in order to sleep with straight people of their sex assigned at birth. The combination of gender and sexuality is especially complex for transgender people, and we should be allowed to explore our true feelings without stigma or social pressure.
As I said this is not research but a collection of anecdotal stories but it raises so valid question about sexual orientation; is it fixed? Or can it change.

When I do cultural training I bring this up, how I have observed that some trans people’s sexual orientation change and I mention how this might be an interesting research topic.

Some of my thoughts are that their sexual orientation might have been repressed and before they transitioned it subconsciously buried and once they transitioned it might have boiled to the surface. Or maybe they just see that opposites attract.

What are your thoughts?

Thursday, July 20, 2017

A Second Look

On Tuesday I wrote about a trans woman being denied the use of a bathroom at Cirque Du Soleil in Las Vegas, well there were comments on the WPATH (World Professional Association on Transgender Health) Facebook page that I want to comment about this afternoon.

First there were these comments by the same person…
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN; this is las vegas, these casino properties are PRIVATE PROPERTY, they each have their own police force. they can and will do anything they want, laws are not neccessarally in effect here. these places have their own rules of conduct, and they enforce them as they please. spouting off laws or anything else will get you escorted to a private security area where you will be assaulted and confined OFF CAMERA. THEN YOU WILL BE ARRESTED FOR YOUR OPINIONS. do not ever take that forgranted in las vegas. these places are private property. they make their own laws.

what the casinos do or dont do is NOT UP TO ME. what laws they follow or dont follow ARE NOT UP TO ME. all im doing is relaying my own experience. PLEASE DO NOT ATTACK ME, TELL ME THE LAWS OR IN WAY SUGGEST MY EXPERIENCE OR THE TRANS PERSONS IN THE ARTICLES EXPERIENCE COULD BE CHANGED. IF YOU DONT BELEIVE WHAT I HAVE SAID OR WHAT HAPPENED IN THE VIDEO, please come here to vegas and prove it wrong i dare you.
One person replied,
I'm a former Vegas resident, and, no--- even though I still have my El Cortez gaming card, these are no longer the days of Bugsy and his mob. All businesses open to the public are subject to local, state, and federal laws, including sanitation, food safety, gaming regs, handicap access, and human rights. The "private property" meme, even spelled in all caps, does not make anyone exempt from the rule of law. For example, southern racists can no longer engage in the atrocity of slavery on their private property. In my experience, most Vegas casino/hotel owners want to avoid a reputation for bigotry. In fact, Nevada S.B. 331, prohibiting public accommodation discrimination on the basis of gender identity or expression, would not have passed in 2011 if major casino owners had opposed it. MGM's apology and clarification of their own diversity policies is the rule, rather than the exception. Though there are still incidents in Vegas (the Cosmo was problematic when I was there), I feel safer from discrimination in that city than many in the U.S.
Trans people come in all shapes and sizes, some pass easily while others does pass at all. Some trans people can afford to have electrolysis while other cannot, so are we going to prohibit those who can’t afford to remove their breads to transition?

I am reminded of a homeless shelter where residents complained to the staff about two trans women,
Two women who stay at Florence House, a homeless shelter for women in Portland, have complained that two men who dress as women have also been staying there for the past few months -- using the same common bathrooms, showers and sleeping facilities.

The women say it's unsettling to share a space with people they consider men, although shelter officials say the two people identify as transgender and are therefore allowed to stay.
And the staff reply was right on…
Officials with the Preble Street nonprofit organization, which owns the Florence House, said transgender people may appear to be male but identify themselves as women when checking in at the shelter. They have rights and are allowed to use the facilities, said Mark Swann, executive director of Preble Street.

“We don’t discriminate against anybody,” Swann said. “We accept people at the shelter as they present themselves.”
We cannot police those who are trans, gender dysphoria does not discriminate it can strike anyone and we have no business telling someone not to transition because if their looks, or socioeconomic status that they cannot transition.

Here in Connecticut it is a little different in that the casinos are on tribal land and subject to tribal law. However, other businesses in the state that come under the public accommodation laws do have to obey the law and not discriminate. It doesn’t matter if they own the building and land, if they are “open” the public they come under the law (private clubs are exempt from the law, places like golf courses, VFW, and the American Legion or private organizations like the Boy Scouts are also exempt).

It should be interesting to see what happens to the new casino that they are building off of tribal lands in East Windsor and if it will be subject to state laws. But I have to say that when I have gone to the casinos on tribal lands I have had absolutely no problems… other than losing money on the slots (I have only been there about four times in the seventeen years).

Another comment be another person said is more disturbing,
I saw the video. I could not tell that was a trans woman. She looks like a guy. Now I know things change. And I know, people start somewhere. But if you wanted to be treated like a woman you should present as a woman. You wanna be treated as a man you should be presenting is a man. Going Postal on the guy for doing his job does not help our community whatsoever. 31 years as a transgender woman and I would've asked for his ID. I would've asked why he was in there. This looks more like a person who wanted attention.
Okay… once again how is a woman supposed to look? Or how is a trans woman to look? Especially since she only transitioned seven months ago and from the picture it looks like she is letting her hair grow out from the military hair cut.

Someone reply to her and said,
I know a lot of women who have short hair and look butch? How does a woman present according to your standards?
And the original person who commented said,
It's not about a standard. It's about expecting somebody to know something without any possible clue. And then going ballistic on them. We have a lot of problems in this country right now against Trans people. This does not help us. Actually, this hurts us in looks like a cry for attention.
Are we going to have to go before a board of trans people to get a thumbs up or down on whether we can transition? Or are we going to have to take lessons and get a certificate and what to say in public when you are discriminated against?

We are who we are; there are going to be some who know what to say and what not to say before a camera and others who haven’t a clue what to say.

I got my baptism under fire back in 2007 when I went down in Washington DC for lobby days. Nobody told me what to say but I learned fast… think in sound bites. In 2007 they interviewed me for about five minutes and all they used was “I don’t think it will pass this year, we are in for the long haul” and all of sudden they labeled a “season professional.”

Hmm… $3 million vs. LGBT Groups

That is the choice that a Baptist college had, accept a donation of 3 million dollars and get rid the campus LGBT organization or keep the LGBT organization and forgo the $3,000,000.

Guess what the  Baptist college did?
This university would rather give up $3 million than destroy its LGBT students group
Pink News
By Josh Jackman
20th July 2017

A Christian university has turned down $3 million in funding from a religious group which came on condition of shutting down an LGBT students group.

Samford University, which was founded by Alabama Baptists, rejected the hefty annual donation from the Alabama Baptist State Convention.

The university has seemingly chosen to support Samford Together, a group in which students can discuss topics relating to sexual orientation and gender identity, over the Christian group.
Instead of waiting to see if this threat would be fulfilled, Samford has preemptively rejected the donation.

Samford’s president, Andrew Westmoreland, said in a statement announcing the decision that all students must be respected.
Maybe people are starting to realize that discrimination against anyone is wrong. Just maybe we are starting to see a backlash against the bigots.

Then down in Texas companies are standing up against the Republican legislators who are trying to force us back in the closet.
IBM takes out full-page ads, sends top execs to lobby against bathroom bill
Dallas News
Written by Lauren McGaughy
July 14, 2017

IBM is upping the ante in its fight against Texas' so-called "bathroom bill," dispatching top executives to Austin and waging an ad war against what it calls the "discriminatory legislation."

Before state lawmakers reconvene Tuesday for a special legislative session, the technology giant is taking out full-page advertisements in The Dallas Morning News, San Antonio Express-News and Austin American-Statesman opposing the legislation they say discriminates against transgender Texans.

IBM will also send 20 employees, including top executives like Senior Vice President for Human Resources Diane Gherson and Chief Diversity Officer Lindsay-Rae McIntyre, to the Capitol on Tuesday to express their opposition to the bills in person.
And they are not alone.
IBM has been at the forefront of the business community's push against the bathroom bill. In May, it was one of several corporations, including Apple and Facebook, that sent Abbott a letter saying that "any such legislation would deeply tarnish Texas' reputation as open and friendly to businesses and families."

On Thursday, the Dallas Regional Chamber also sent Abbott and Lt. Gov. Dan Patrick a letter expressing opposition to the legislation. Business leaders from North Texas plan to rally against the bathroom bill at the Capitol when the special session convenes.
Stay tune for the continuing saga of Texas Republicans try to demonizing us.