Monday, July 23, 2018

Aww…

We are “Out” 24/7

Whenever we walk out the door we are exposed, for many of us there is no hiding. There is an article in Pink News about lesbians and gays being afraid of holding hands in public…
By Nick Duffy  
3rd July 2018,

LGBT people in the UK still have a significantly worse life satisfaction than the general public, a landmark government survey has found.

More than 100,000 people responded to the survey, which makes it the largest national survey of LGBT people conducted in the world to date.

The survey found a number of shocking disparities between the LGBT community and the general public, underlining the level of work still required on LGBT rights.
Respondents were significantly “less satisfied with their life” in general than the UK population, scoring it 6.5 out of 10 on average – compared with 7.7 for the general UK population.
Here is another article from Britain about trans people and the British press,
The constant attack on transgender people is costing us our lives
Like many trans people in the UK today, we’re growing tired of debating our existence. Despite support from various institutions such as the NHS and more recently the Church of England, many of the biggest media platforms in the UK seem willing to fuel misconceptions and hatred
The Independent
By Fox Fisher and Owl Fisher
Thursday 16 November 2017

Like many trans people in the UK today, we’re growing tired of debating our existence. Despite support from various institutions such as the NHS and more recently the Church of England, many of the biggest media platforms in the UK seem willing to fuel misconceptions and hatred towards the trans community.

Trans people pose absolutely no greater threat to society or people within it than cisgender people, yet the media refuses to accept this fact. A recent Times article argued that more rights for transgender people would endanger children, both by forcing them to share a space with trans people and by making transitioning easier.

What articles such as these fail to realise is that all trans people were children too once. The sudden rise in young trans people seeking access to healthcare isn’t because it’s a trend or because of pressure from the “powerful trans lobby”– it’s because trans people are becoming less likely to suppress our true selves due to social shame, stigma and discrimination.

Specific trans people are targets of articles, in which they are constantly misgendered and called “girls who want to be boys” or “trans-women-born-males”. These articles suggest that it’s just something that we want to be as opposed to something that we actually are.
Also the Guardian ran an article about the attacks on us by the media,
Trans people already face a hostile world. Now the media is making it worse
Trans children are at high risk of self-harm and bullying. What they need is understanding and support; what they receive is vilification and ridicule
By Paris Lees
17 November 2017


Some children are transgender. You can accept them and love them for who they say they are or make their lives hell – those are the options.

I’ve been telling people I’m a girl, and would be happier if they would treat me like one, since I was four. My parents tried to force me – like many trans people – to be t’he gender they thought I should be, causing us years of unnecessary misery. You cannot “turn” a child trans any more than you can turn a child gay. Nor can you stop a child from being trans any more than you can force a child who is gay to grow up heterosexual. It doesn’t work like that. You can’t bully someone into being someone else, and why would you even want to? That’s why all professional psychological organisations, the Royal College of General Practitioners and the NHS condemn conversion therapy as dangerous and ineffective.
[…]
Yet religious extremists are invited on to morning television to argue that trans kids should be “helped” by forcing conversion therapy on them. The presenters Holly Willoughby and Phillip Schofield did a superb job of holding them to account, but why are we hearing from people with such extreme views in the first place? Nor do I understand how these bigots can claim to care about gender-diverse kids, yet fail to mention how vulnerable they are without proper family and medical support.
You might also remember what happened at the Pride march in London this year when TREF snuck into the front of the parade…
Activists from Get the L Out held anti-transgender signs and blocked the parade route until they were allowed to participate
MetroWeekly
By Bailey Vogt
July 10, 2018

The organizers of London’s Pride march have apologized after allowing a group of anti-transgender lesbian activists to lead Saturday’s parade.

Eight members of activist group Get the L Out, which believes that transgender women are “coercing lesbians to have sex with men,” stormed the start of the parade route, blocking progress for ten minutes.

The women held banners saying “lesbian = female homosexual” and “Transactivism erases lesbians.” One of the activists reportedly shouted out: “A man who says he’s a lesbian is a rapist.”

Pride organizers eventually allowed the group to lead the parade, despite not being officially registered, due to safety concerns over the heatwave affecting the city, according to a spokesperson from Pride in London.
Where is all this hate coming from?

Where else… us as in the U.S.

They  are exporting their hate around the world… “missionaries” are going around the world to preach their hate for anything LGBT and they are finding support. Many of the global news companies are sending out their message of hate, from the Russia Times [kind of ironic that this is from RT]
The Times is at the center of a transphobic bullying storm after the respected national newspaper carried a whole series of articles about a teenager – in the space of just two weeks. Transgender Lily Madigan took to social media to beg journalists to end reports about her, insisting her mental health is being impacted under the relentless attention of the media spotlight.

The student, 19, was first noticed by the Rupert Murdoch-owned paper when she was elected as the woman’s officer for Rochester and Strood, in Kent, after being involved in a campaign to oust the lesbian woman previously in the role.

A fellow Labour member in Kent revealed to RT UK that Lily contacted the Times herself, after being proud of her election to the voluntary position.

However, since then, the paper has appeared to follow her every move, sparking outrage from journalist and commentator Owen Jones, trans rights activists, and scores of angered social media users.
I started out writing about lesbians and gays fearing to hold hands but the thing is many of us are always out and are being constantly harassed and discriminated against. They fear holding hands, we fear going to the bathroom. I don't mean to belittle their fears, they are real but we face those dangers every day we walk out the door..

Beware we are facing dangers ahead as people start looking for scapegoats for the failing economy and we are the ones being tagged as the cause of all the world's problems.

Sunday, July 22, 2018

I Have Always Said…

That we are in a unique position to see the way men and women are treated differently. To paraphrase Joni Mitchell; I've looked at life from both sides now. From male and female...
Crossing the divide
Do men really have it easier? These transgender guys found the truth was more complex.
The Washington Post
By Tara Bahrampour
July 20, 2018

In the 1990s, the late Stanford neuroscientist Ben Barres transitioned from female to male. He was in his 40s, mid-career, and afterward he marveled at the stark changes in his professional life. Now that society saw him as male, his ideas were taken more seriously. He was able to complete a whole sentence without being interrupted by a man. A colleague who didn’t know he was transgender even praised his work as “much better than his sister’s.”
[…]
But it is not always evident when someone has undergone a transition — especially if they have gone from female to male.

“The transgender guys have a relatively straightforward process — we just simply add testosterone and watch their bodies shift,” said Joshua Safer, executive director at the Center for Transgender Medicine and Surgery at Mount Sinai Health System and Icahn School of Medicine in New York. “Within six months to a year they start to virilize — getting facial hair, a ruddier complexion, a change in body odor and a deepening of the voice.”
Here are some of their stories…
‘I’ll never call the police again’
Trystan Cotten, 50, Berkeley, Calif.

Life doesn’t get easier as an African American male. The way that police officers deal with me, the way that racism undermines my ability to feel safe in the world, affects my mobility, affects where I go. Other African American and Latino Americans grew up as boys and were taught to deal with that at an earlier age. I had to learn from my black and brown brothers about how to stay alive in my new body and retain some dignity while being demeaned by the cops

One night somebody crashed a car into my neighbor’s house, and I called 911. I walk out to talk to the police officer, and he pulls a gun on me and says, “Stop! Stop! Get on the ground!” I turn around to see if there’s someone behind me, and he goes, “You! You! Get on the ground!” I’m in pajamas and barefoot. I get on the ground and he checks me, and afterward I said, “What was that all about?” He said, “You were moving kind of funny.” Later, people told me, “Man, you’re crazy. You never call the police.”
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Race influences how people choose to transition. I did an ethnographic study of trans men and found that 96 percent of African American and Latino men want to have surgery, while only 45 percent of white respondents do. That’s because a trans history can exacerbate racial profiling. When they pat you down, if you don’t have a penis it’s going to be obvious (or if you’re a trans woman and you have a penis, that becomes obvious). If they picked you up for popping a wheelie or smoking weed, if they find out you’re trans it can be worse for you.
I know a successful black trans man who lives in a middle class neighborhood (translated a white neighborhood) and when “she” used to walk down the street she never got stopped by the police, now when “he” walks down the street he is stopped and asked what “he” is doing in the neighborhood.
‘It now feels as though I am on my own’
Zander Keig, 52, San Diego
Coast Guard veteran. Works at Naval Medical Center San Diego as a clinical social work case manager. Editor of anthologies about transgender men. Started transition in 2005.

Prior to my transition, I was an outspoken radical feminist. I spoke up often, loudly and with confidence. I was encouraged to speak up. I was given awards for my efforts, literally — it was like, “Oh, yeah, speak up, speak out.” When I speak up now, I am often given the direct or indirect message that I am “mansplaining,” “taking up too much space” or “asserting my white male heterosexual privilege.” Never mind that I am a first-generation Mexican American, a transsexual man, and married to the same woman I was with prior to my transition.

I find the assertion that I am now unable to speak out on issues I find important offensive and I refuse to allow anyone to silence me. My ability to empathize has grown exponentially, because I now factor men into my thinking and feeling about situations. Prior to my transition, I rarely considered how men experienced life or what they thought, wanted or liked about their lives. I have learned so much about the lives of men through my friendships with men, reading books and articles by and for men and through the men I serve as a licensed clinical social worker.
In another story,
‘People assume I know the answer’
Alex Poon, 26, Boston
Project manager for Wayfair, an online home goods company. Alex is in the process of his physical transition; he did the chest surgery after college and started taking testosterone this spring.
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People now assume I have logic, advice and seniority. They look at me and assume I know the answer, even when I don’t. I’ve been in meetings where everyone else in the room was a woman and more senior, yet I still got asked, “Alex, what do you think? We thought you would know.” I was at an all-team meeting with 40 people, and I was recognized by name for my team’s accomplishments. Whereas next to me, there was another successful team led by a woman, but she was never mentioned by name. I went up to her afterward and said, “Wow, that was not cool; your team actually did more than my team.” The stark difference made me feel uncomfortable and brought back feelings of when I had been in the same boat and not been given credit for my work.
A trans woman friend who can integrate into society at ease and is an enginnering project manager at an international company says now she is ignored in meetings and once she was asked to get the coffee! While a trans man I know says that all of sudden he was an “expert” in cars.

Yes, there are many things that we notices some of them are striking and some of them are subtle. I remember the first time I walked into a women’s and my first thoughts were OMG they talk in here!

There is a definite difference between the way man and women are treated and there is a definite “male privilege.” 

The Damage Is Done

It’s too late, she has suffered a tremendous blow and it will probably take a long time to heal.

Last week I wrote about a trans woman who had a prescription for hormones refused to be filled by the druggist and to add salt to her wounds he kept her prescription.
CVS Apologizes After Pharmacist Harasses Trans Customer
The woman said she “just froze and worked on holding back the tears” as he allegedly harassed her.
Huffington Post
By Sara Bobolt
July 20, 2018

On Friday, one day after Hall shared her story publicly, CVS announced that the pharmacist who allegedly harassed her is no longer employed with the company. CVS would not clarify whether the pharmacist was fired, telling HuffPost that it does not comment on employment decisions.

In an apology statement, CVS said the man’s conduct “violated company policies and does not reflect our values or our commitment to inclusion, nondiscrimination and the delivery of outstanding patient care.”

A CVS spokesman said it requires pharmacists to notify the company in advance about any religious convictions they have that would interfere with their ability to perform their job, so management “can ensure there are other arrangements in place to ensure the patient’s medication needs are promptly satisfied.”
We don’t know the reason why the pharmacists didn’t want to fill the prescription but one we know it wasn’t on medical grounds because the doctor called the pharmacists and he still refused to fill the prescription.
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An American Civil Liberties Union spokesman told HuffPost that she appreciates the company’s response. She got a call from a CVS representative who “offered a sincere apology on behalf of the company and said that the pharmacist who mistreated [her] acted outside of the company’s guidelines.”
Terrific!

The pharmacist just caused irreparable harm to her but it all could be perfectly legal in Arizona.
Arizona is one of six states with “conscience clauses” to protect pharmacists who do not wish to fill prescriptions on moral or religious grounds, according to the National Women’s Law Center.
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Much like CVS, Walgreens ― which was recently involved in a similar incident in Arizona ― requires pharmacists to refer the customer to a co-worker or manager “in a timely manner,” The Arizona Republic reported. The retailer announced plans to revamp employee training after an employee in June refused to fill a woman’s prescription to treat her miscarriage.
So what happens if the pharmacist says that notifying the company of his objections is also against their religious beliefs… it is a never ending cycle of madness hidden behind religion.

What I want to know is why if the person is so religious that he lies and breaks an oath is okay. They take an oath like doctors do. The American Pharmacists Association oath is…
"I promise to devote myself to a lifetime of service to others through the profession of pharmacy. In fulfilling this vow:
  • I will consider the welfare of humanity and relief of suffering my primary concerns.
  • I will apply my knowledge, experience, and skills to the best of my ability to assure optimal outcomes for my patients.
  • I will respect and protect all personal and health information entrusted to me.
  • I will accept the lifelong obligation to improve my professional knowledge and competence.
  • I will hold myself and my colleagues to the highest principles of our profession’s moral, ethical and legal conduct.
  • I will embrace and advocate changes that improve patient care.
  • I will utilize my knowledge, skills, experiences, and values to prepare the next generation of pharmacists.
  • I take these vows voluntarily with the full realization of the responsibility with which I am entrusted by the public.”
But is seems okay to let other people suffer because of their religious beliefs… somehow this seems to me to very wrong, to wreck a person’s life because of your religious beliefs.

Saturday, July 21, 2018

Saturday 9: Gidget

Crazy Sam’s Saturday 9: Gidget (1965)



On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun…
Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) Gidget was a sitcom that ran only one season. Have you ever seen it?
Yes, I did watch it along with all the other Gidget movies.



2) Gidget is a high school student who is more interested in surfing and boys than in the books. When you were Gidget's age, was your top priority getting good grades? Or were you more involved in the social side of student life?
Definitely not grades, definitely not social life… I was a member of the “Science Club” definitely geeky

3) Gidget's father was nearly always unflappable when it came to his daughter's high-spirited shenanigans. Who is the coolest, calmest person you know?
Over the ages I have learned that being cool is superficial while being calm in the face of adversity is a lot more important.
Yes, and I did avoid naming names

4) Gidget spends as much time as she can at the beach, hanging out with her best friend Larue. Fair-skinned Larue doesn't share Gidget's passion for surfing and prefers to stay on the beach blanket, wearing a floppy hat that protects her from the sun. Are you a sun worshipper? Or, like Larue, are you careful about your exposure to the sun?
I’m the floppy hat type… I just bought a new floppy hat.
When I go to the beach I use SPF 50 or higher, have a big umbrella.

5) Gidget, the quintessential California girl, was created by Freidrich Kohner, an Austrian-born screenwriter. Can you think of another Austrian import?
Paul Hogan
Crocodile Dundee, I liked to first movie but the second movie was very derogatory to trans people and makes a laugh out of a sexual assault.

Yikes! My dyslexia strikes again... I thought it was Australia

6) Howard Greenfield and Jack Keller wrote this week's Gidget theme. They also wrote the 1960 hit song, "Everybody's Somebody's Fool." When is the last time you felt foolish?
Oh just about every day… how many times are we harder on ourselves and want to bang our head against a wall.

7) This is the show that introduced Sally Field. She went on to win two Oscars and four Emmy Awards. When you think of Sally, what role comes to mind?
Norma Rae



8) Today Gidget is a grandmother. Sally reports that her grandchildren especially enjoy "sleepovers at Granny's." Where were you the last time you spent the night away from home?
Um… last night, tonight if the cottage counts
If not then in April when I stayed on the Cape overnight for the “Home” inspection on the cottage.

9) Random question -- Describe your perfect lazy afternoon.
Laying in the shade on a hammock read a sifi book sipping a cold drink.

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