Monday, January 16, 2017

I Didn’t Know

And I go there for my hormones and endo care. So I was surprised when I was googling something and it came up in the search…
Transgender Services
Middlesex Hospital
It’s a fact that a high percentage of LBGTQ individuals do not have a primary care physician and do not seek to establish this very important medical relationship.  The reasons for this are varied, but at Middlesex Hospital, through its network of primary care physicians, we want to change this statistic.   Our providers welcome the opportunity to work with you on your well-being, if you become ill.  Our primary care offices provide a safe, welcoming environment and the physician’s relationship with you is individualized to meet your specific needs.

Prescribing gender-affirming hormones is well within the scope of practice of primary care physicians, endocrinologists, advanced practice nurses, and physician assistants. At Middlesex Hospital, we are pleased to have Kathryn Tierney, M.S.N, A.P.R.N.-B.C., lead our gender-affirming hormone therapy program, in collaboration her colleagues in endocrinology and within our network of primary care physicians.

Our surgical specialists in gynecology, urology, and plastic surgery bring expertise, experience and compassion to a host of feminizing and masculinizing surgical procedures for our transgender patients.

Our Infectious Disease specialists (part of the Middlesex Multispecialty Group) can provide special insight and expertise regarding the diagnosis, treatment, and prevention of infections of all types including: HIV and chronic Hepatitis B and C.

Gender non-conforming/transgender individuals can feel a strong conflict between their gender (inner sense of who they are) and their physical sex characteristics. This conflict can sometimes manifest itself in depression, isolation and destructive behaviors. Middlesex Hospital’s psychiatrists and behavioral health clinicians are available and trained to help individual, couples and families work through the issues, to lead emotionally healthy lives.
I knew Yale/New Haven hospital was forming a gender clinic including a surgeon who is doing Gender Confirming Surgery but I hadn’t heard a word about Middlesex Hospital.

I did take part in a panel discussion there but I didn’t know that it was to lay the ground work for the clinic.

I Got A Brain

You don’t know what privilege is until you gain or lose it.

A number of my trans men friends say once they transitioned it is almost like they got a brain. One friend said that it is amazing anything he said people listen to him, all of sudden he is an expert in everything.
Trans Men Open Up About Their Experiences With Male Privilege
“Walking down the street is so glorious — I can actually think!”
Huffington Post Queer Voices
By JamesMichael Nichols
August 19, 2016

Trans men occupy a unique space in their identity: many (thought not all) people who live as trans men have experienced the privileges of being read as both male and female at different points of their lives.

In this new video from MTV, a group of trans men open up about male privilege and the unique perspective they have on the topic, having experienced the world and in a multitude of different ways throughout the course of their lives.

“A man can just walk down the street and no one is going to bother him,” Tiq Milan says in the video. “No one is going to ask him to smile, no one is going to ask him where he’s going, no one’s going to ask him if he’s married, no one’s going to ask him if they can walk with him. But this is something that I know women experience every day.”
It becomes very obvious when you gain or lose privilege. When you’re a project manager and you are asked to get the coffee. When you are looking for an electrical part at Home Depot and you get a lecture on how to install. When you go to an auto parts store and the clerk asks if you are getting the part for your boyfriend. These all happened to trans women friends. The first person has a BSEE and a MBA, the next trans woman is a master electrician and the last trans woman has worked on cars all her life. It is like that we got lobotomies.

It is the change to makes it stand out; all of sudden there is the change in privilege that sticks out and it is not only our expertise but it is the things that we took for granted like walking back to the car at night. As a man we never thought about that but as a woman we should be aware of the dangers  but many times we are not.

I tell the story of one late night I had to walk back to my car and I had to go right by a sports bar, I had to walk right by the patio were the men were sitting. I hesitated in the door of the event I was leaving and four lesbians coming out of the event asked me what was wrong, one of them saw where I was looking. She took my arm and cradled it in hers and the five of us walked arm in arm by the men. I would never have even giving it a second thought about walking by a bunch of drunken men but as a woman..

Sunday, January 15, 2017

I Hate Lists

Lists are never right. You always get flack about those people who you did not included or about those that you did include, it is a lose, lose situation.

LGBTQ Nation has a list of 50 successful trans people.
When building a list of transgender people with great careers, there were five basic criterion:
  • They are American.
  • They are currently living.
  • They’ve had successful careers after transition.
  • Their careers should have little to nothing to do with being transgender (i.e, trans people can be something other than professional advocates).
  • They are publicly out as transgender.
This list is not comprehensive, and there are literally hundreds more we did not list. The careers represented are deliberately eclectic, as are their genders, ages, races, and are intended to show the diversity of the community. 
“This list is not comprehensive, and there are literally hundreds more we did not list” is a good start.

So who some on the list that I agree with…

  • Lynn Conway
  • Amanda Simpson
  • Wendy Carlos
  • Martine Rothblatt
  • Judge Phyllis Frye (I met her at Fantasia Fair once)
  • Jennifer Finney Boylan (Our paths have crossed many times)
  • Lana and Lilly Wachowski
  • Allyson Robinson (I met her when I was an intern and it was my job to escort her around town while she was here and make sure she got to the hearing for the gender inclusive nondiscrimination bill on time.)
  • Dylan Orr (He attended my workshop on trans history at the True Colors conference once. He came up to me, said he said his name and that he like my workshop. It was only latter when I found out who he was.)
  • Namoli Brennet (I am a big fan of her)

And who are those that I never heard of that are on the list…

  • Dr. Ben Barres
  • Rachel See
  • Robyn McCutcheon
  • Angelica Ross
  • Sergeant Ken Ochoa
  • Nicole Shounder

The list goes on and on but one thing that I noticed about the list was most those who are on the list is that they all have passing privilege.

I Have To Comment On This

One of those rare times that a Republican legislature have block a anti-trans bill, maybe they realized that the bill went too far or maybe it was that Pence wasn’t there to egg them on.
Republican lawmaker blocks anti-transgender bill in Indiana
LGBTQ Nation
By Erin Rook
January 14, 2017

Late Friday, a Republican lawmaker blocked an anti-transgender bill from advancing in Indiana.

The proposed legislation, HB 1361, was introduced just one day prior and would have prohibited transgender Hoosiers from updating their birth certificates.

“The intent of this bill is to strip transgender people of the most basic and fundamental dignity,” Freedom Indiana said in a statement following the bill’s introduction on Thursday. “HB 1361 seeks to deny the very existence of transgender people—with the cruel mandate that a transgender person’s birth certificate can never match the identity they live as and the person they have always known themselves to be.”

Rep. Cindy Kirchhofer, the Republican chair of the Indiana’s Public Health Committee, confirmed in a statement that she is declining to hear the bill in committee, effectively halting its progress for 2017. She said she will instead focus on the pressing public health issue of opioid and heroin addiction.
So why was the bill introduced?
The bill’s author, Republican and Elvis impersonator Rep. Bruce Borders, said the proposal wasn’t meant as a political statement.

“This was not a philosophically driven thing,” he told the Indy Star. “I just respect accuracy in all legal records.”
I am surprise about this, I wonder why the chair of the committee did squash the legislation, I hope it was because she realized that the bill went too far and was punitive.

Back in the early sixties there were ten states that passed laws allowing trans people to change the gender on their birth certificates and many of those states realized that by being able to change our birth certificates it made it easier for us to get jobs or for us to get married so that our husbands could support us.

A birth certificate is not a historic document; it is a proof of U.S. citizenship the only times you need to show it is when you go for a job or for a passport. Having a birth certificate with a name and gender that is different  from your true gender creates hardships for the person who is just trying to become a productive citizen.

Saturday, January 14, 2017

Saturday 9: Wake Me Up Before You Go Go

Crazy Sam’s Saturday 9: Wake Me Up Before You Go Go (1984)

On Saturdays I take a break from the heavy stuff and have some fun…
Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) This song was inspired by a note WHAM! partner Andrew Ridgeley left for his parents. He accidentally wrote "go" twice. What was the last handwritten note you left for someone?
I think it was at the health collective where I volunteer two days a week/

2) Born Georgios Panayiotou, George Michael was the son of the Greek restauranteur in East London. When you think of Greek cuisine, what comes to mind?
Stuffed grape leaves.
Hey! You asked and that was the first thing that popped up in my mind.

3) He was a terrible driver and admitted his license was suspended a number of times. Have you ever lost your license?
If you mean from speeding or DUI, nope.
But I did lose my purse and I had to cancel all my credit cards and get a new driver license, what a hassle! I originally thought someone stole it out of my pocketbook but then a number of months later I found my purse under my car seat. It must have slid out of my pocketbook and down between the sat and the console.

4) WHAM! partner Andrew Ridgeley, on the other hand, is a talented driver who got to live his fantasy by racing Formula Three in Monaco. There are companies that sell racetrack driving experiences that allow you to spin around the track at dizzying speeds. Is this something you like to try? 
Yup. At the track at Limerock Park they have that and also have race car diving training.

5) In 1990, Frank Sinatra famously gave George Michael advice. Ol' Blue Eyes told the younger man to enjoy his fame, to remember all those lean nights traveling from gig to gig by bus and, now that he's successful, "loosen up and swing, man." Who last gave you advice? Did you take it?
The waitress, she suggested that I try the pot roast and it was good.

6) Mr.  Michael's neighbors have reported since his passing that he seemed to live rather quietly, and that they usually saw him when he was out walking his three dogs. Tell us about the last time you spoke to one of your neighbors.
I have to really think back on that one. Do you mean a conversation or just a simple “Hi?”
I said “Hi” to my neighbor the other day when we both went to our mailbox.

7) Fansites tell us that George Michael's favorite cereal was cornflakes. What breakfast cereals are currently in your kitchen?
Generic Cheerios

8) In 1984, when "Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go" was popular, Murder, She Wrote premiered on CBS. Today it's still seen in reruns all over the world. Are you a fan?
Oh yes, I watch most afternoons

9) RANDOM QUESTION: What's your secret to a good night's sleep?
Sh… don’t tell anyone! I smoke a bowl of pot before bed.