Friday, July 01, 2016

Intersections

It you are a white trans woman you may have a rocky road when you transition. If you are a person of color or a Latino you will have a much hard transition.
Transgender Latinas faced a 'legion of stigmas'
Transgender Hispanic women face 'legion of stigmas'; studies show risk for suicide, harassment
The Houston Chronicle
By Olivia P. Tallet
June 25, 2016

She crossed the Rio Grande as an undocumented, transgender woman, fleeing after a serial sexual assault left her in shame and fearing for her life.

Now, 15 years later, Andrea Molina is director of the Organización Latina de Trans de Texas (Latin Organization of Texas Trans), which she founded after being expelled from the bathroom of a Latino organization in Houston. She and her co-founders, all trans women, decided that if they didn't take control of their destiny, no one was going to do it for them, she said.

The organization is the only one in Texas dedicated to empower, educate and develop leadership for transgender Hispanics, among the most stigmatized individuals in the LGBT community.
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"The interception of being a Latina, a trans and an undocumented person is a combination that could be triple times more grave in terms of stigmatization," said Janet Quezada, spokesperson for a national gay and lesbian advocacy group that goes by the acronym GLAAD.
When you look at the factors that create positive outcomes for transitioning you will see things like having family support, a support network of friends, and being able to integrate into society. If you come from a culture where Machismo is dominate the culture, transitioning to a woman is looked down upon as a disgrace to the family and friends.
Several cases of slaying and dismembering of transgender women have been reported in Mexico, and the murder rate has increased since 2008. High-profile cases include the murder of a trans woman who headed the Special Unit for Attention to Members of the LGBT Community of the Attorney General Office in Mexico City.

That's what drove Jessica Trolinger to Houston. She described the terror she felt after four of her transgender friends, who were roommates, suddenly disappeared without a trace after being threatened by men in their neighborhood in Reynosa, Tamaulipas.

"Nobody knows still today what happened to them, not even their families," Trolinger said. "And families in Mexico are afraid to report cases because we are also abused by officers; I was once beaten down to the floor and mocked by an officer while others watched and laughed."
Just look at the list of names that is read on The Transgender Day of Remembrance and see how many of them come from Latin American countries and the Caribbean.
"Do you really think that being a transgender person is something that we chose? No, nobody chose to be the most discriminated and misunderstood people that exist."

Thursday, June 30, 2016

The Scarlet Letter #2

The Republican controlled legislature is doubling down, instead of backing off from HB2 they are adding even more outrageous legislation.
North Carolina’s Anti-Transgender Bathroom Law Just Got Worse
As if North Carolina’s legislation wasn’t idiotic enough, lawmakers are toying with a provision that would give only a few more trans people access to public restrooms.
The Daily Beast
By Samantha Allen
June 29, 2016

North Carolina lawmakers may try to create a new type of government documentation called a “certificate of sex reassignment” to allow a tiny minority of otherwise-banned transgender people to pee in public restrooms. What could possibly go wrong?
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But a leak of the draft reveals that they are still dreaming up horrific new ways to restrict public bathroom access.

“An individual who was born in another state or territory of the United States that does not provide a mechanism for amending a current certificate of birth or issuing a new certificate of birth to change the sex of an individual following sex reassignment surgery … may request a certificate of sex reassignment from the State Registrar,” the draft reads.
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If the proposed draft becomes final and goes into effect, North Carolina would also further reinforce the bizarre double standards it already imposes on its transgender residents depending on their state of birth.

Under HB 2, for example, a transgender woman born in Tennessee who has undergone SRS cannot legally use a public women’s restroom in North Carolina because the law measures her gender by her birth certificate. But a transgender woman born in California who has not undergone SRS can legally use the ladies’ room provided she has changed her birth certificate back home.
In addition to California, Connecticut and five other states allow a trans person to change their birth certificate without surgery.

This is not the first time that we saw a Republican legislator require us to register, it happened right here in Connecticut. At that time I wrote…
The Scarlet Letter

Do you remember the book “The Scarlet Letter”? Where Hester Prynne had a daughter out of wedlock and the daughter carries the sin and guilt of the mother. This amendment that a Republican has introduced for the gender inclusive non-discrimination bill, HB6599 is our Scarlet Letter.
"Sec. 501. (NEW) (Effective October 1, 2011) Any person holding a motor vehicle operator's license whose gender-related identity is different from that traditionally associated with the person's physiology or assigned sex at birth shall notify the Commissioner of Motor Vehicles of such identity and the commissioner shall indicate such identity in the electronic record maintained by the commissioner pertaining to such person's operator's license. "
This amendment is hateful! It is punitive. It serves no purpose other than to cast stigma and to humiliate transgender people. It is meant to marginalize and oppress the trans-community. This label on our driver license will always stick with us where ever we go. Whenever we go for a job interview and they do a background check it will be there. Whenever we apply for a loan, it will be there. Whenever we rent an apartment, it will be there. This will be a Scarlet “T” branded on our foreheads.

I am going to write something that I have never written before and I have avoided using it as a comparison because of the horrors that are associated with it, it is beyond comparison. However, this amendment comes so close to how the Holocaust began when the Gays and Transgender people were forced to wear Pint Triangles. What is next Senator Witkos, what is next?
And now we see this idea resurfacing in North Carolina. The Republicans say their goal is to get government off of our backs but in reality they are doing the opposite they want government to check what is between our legs, they want women to have a virginals ultrasounds before having an abortion, and now for trans person to register for a government database.

Need Help? Who Are You Going To Call?

Like many of us we call triple A and we expect to be treated like everyone else, but sometimes that doesn’t happen.
Tow Truck Driver Allegedly Spit On Transgender Customer In Worcester
CBS Boston
By Julie Loncich
June 23, 2016

WORCESTER (CBS) – Three years ago Jameson Fernandez was Jocelyn Fernandez. He’ll be the first to tell you the decision was agonizing.

“It’s probably the hardest thing I’ve ever been through in my life, by far,” said Fernandez.

Six months ago, the 30-year-old man legally changed his name, and carries the legal documents daily.

“I’m more shocked because I didn’t think it would happen to me,” Fernandez said.

Jameson’s car broke down on a Worcester side street on Memorial Day.

“My mom always said, ‘keep your AAA card!’” Fernandez said.

The card was in his wallet, but it read Jocelyn Fernandez. Jameson says he notified AAA of the discrepancy.

“I had let them know they hadn’t sent me my card yet. My name is not Jameson on the card,” Fernandez said.
And that is when the trouble started, the tow truck driver saw another name on the card and when James explained why there was a woman’s name on the card, that was when things got bad.
“From there, he put an array of just discriminatory words,” Fernandez said.

And then, he says, the situation escalated.

“Before I could even get my stuff that I had placed on the side of the truck, he cleared his throat and spit in my eyes, in my nose and in my mouth,” Fernandez said.
When we call for help we never know what is going to happen. Will the police officer treat me right or will things get ugly? Or in this case the tow truck driver.

A lot also depends upon how well you can blend into society, the tow truck driver could see a woman or trans woman depending upon how well you pass.



Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Nine Years!

That is how long it has been since I transitioned, it has been so long ago that it is all a haze now. The worrying, the crying, the roller coaster, it is all just a faded memory now.

What I do remember is thinking “Is that all there is?” my transition went so smoothly that I felt guilty when in the support groups I heard all the horror stories that made me fear for the worst, losing my family and friends, losing my job, being a social pariah, none of that happened. But for me things went smoothly, my family accepted me, and maybe because I had already been living as Diana except for work it was easy to slip into being "Diana" full time.

So what does the future look like?

I wish I knew, but one thing that I do know whatever happens will happen and I will do it as Diana.





So why did I wait almost until I sixty year to transition?

I was afraid is the simple answer.

I was afraid of being disowned by my parents and family. I was afraid of losing my job and I was afraid that I would be all alone.

It wasn’t until I saw other trans people were living a “normal” life, they had family, they had friends, and most important they had jobs. So I planned on transitioning when I retired at 59 ½ when I could live off of my retirement accounts and become a hermit if I had to (Ha... was I wrong. My life has expanded in unbelievable directions, I would never have guessed I would be where I am today.).

But it was also the fact that I didn’t think I was transsexual; I thought that I was a crossdresser and it was all about the clothes but after a couple of years in the support group I realized it was more than just the clothes. That it was more of an internal feeling of contentment when I was Diana.

It was also because I was going out in public with the support group and the world didn’t end, most people didn’t care about me being trans.

And it was a medical problem that kicked me in the ass to motivate me to transition. I thought I was having a heart attack and it was then I realized life was too short and that we only get one chance in life.

Some people celebrate the day as their birthday, the day of their rebirth but for me it is just a day that my life changed from the way I knew it. And it was for the better.