Wednesday, January 06, 2021

Being A Parent Of A Trans Child

It must hard being a parent of a trans child, no matter what their age is, young or old.
Cher opens up about son Chaz Bono's transition: 'It wasn't easy'
The legendary singer spoke about her initial struggles when her transgender son, Chaz, began his transition in the late 2000s.
By Scott Stump
December 8, 2020

Cher has been a longtime supporter of the LGBTQ community, but she said her transgender son's transition more than 10 years ago was difficult for her at first.

The legendary singer, 74, spoke with Christiane Amanpour on CNN about the transition period in the late 2000s for her son, Chaz Bono, 51, which included legally changing his name and gender. Amanpour indicated that Cher didn't struggle at all with her son's transition, which she corrected.

"No, that's not exactly true," she said. "I did. It was very unlike me to — in the beginning — have a problem with Chaz being gay, and it disappeared like that. And then we talked about transgender for many years, and she would say, 'No I don't want to do it,' and then he went and said, 'OK I want to do this.'

"It wasn't easy. Like I remember calling, and the old message — the old Chaz message was on the phone — and that was very difficult. But then you have one child, but you don't really lose them — they just are in a different shape."

Many of us want instant change but it is very hard on our families even if they are very support they known you by one name all of their lives and change is hard.

I say be patient, it took my brother a long time to stop using my old name occasionally, I used to joke that it happened after a Gin and Tonic but now he rarely makes a mistake.

We have to be forgiving, we knew all our lives but for them it hit them like a ton of bricks as long as they are making an honest effort to change, give them a chance.

1 comment:

  1. I think we often over look just how hard this can be for families, although both my brothers were supportive, and rarely slip up I do know that as I was struggling with working out my gender identity, and then through my transition my wife and daughter in particular have had a very tough time of it. I often hear people refer to me as brave, I will always correct them, I am not brave I just bowed to the inevitable, it is my family who are brave for choosing to stand by me.