We Are All Heading There… Hopefully

To become senior citizens and as we get older we will be facing a new problems, many of the problems are the same as senior gays and lesbians face.

I’m An Older Gay Man And I Know It Will Get Worse
If you are gay and not partnered at this age, you face much of the same criticisms that single straight people do.
Huffpost
By David Toussaint, Contributor
August 23, 2017

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It breaks my heart when I read about a gay man over 60 talk about his loneliness, his lack of family, his lack of friends because of AIDS, his “invisibility.” Many of them were deserted by their nuclear family decades ago, and there was no lifeline to grab onto. I realize that I could be headed in the same direction, though I take comfort in the fact that I have siblings and in-laws and an extended family. For now I am good. I’m not immune to the temporal thrill of “fabulous at 50,” labels, or any of the other saccharine titles publications use to make our lives appear forever glamorous. We’re all scared. We’re all doomed.
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Not a week goes by where one of my gay, single peers doesn’t tell me of aging fears — “it ain’t for sissies,” ironically, is a perfect expression for the process. Most of us have witnessed, or are witnessing, the natural progression of parents, and know our number will soon be called. “Invisibility” is the most common phrase I hear, as well as scenarios in which they’re living with cats or their one, other single friend.

As a single trans woman I face the same fears as he does and for us it is even worse because it is so much harder to find a mate.

As the three day weekend approaches I wonder what I am going to be doing for the weekend, will I sit around the house until Tuesday when I volunteer at the health collective? Will I connect up with some friends and find something to do together? I know that I am better off than some people who are isolated, for me I volunteer at the health collective, I go to the town’s senior center, and I have the training and meetings that I also go to which gets me out of the house, but others do not.

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I am going to be on another panel for the AARP showing of Gen Silent at the Heritage Village in Southbury.

AARP CT, Western CT Area Agency on Aging and

Gay Heritage of Heritage Village present

Aging with Pride in Western CT

Enjoy a free luncheon, view the “Gen Silent” film about the lives of six LGBT seniors & join a community conversation

         Hosted by Gay Heritage of Heritage Village and sponsored by WCAAA &  AARP CT

Wednesday, September 27, 2017 12:00 - 2:30p.m.

Heritage Village, Sarah Cooke Hall

Activities Building, 11 Heritage Way, Southbury

Free parking adjacent to building.

RSVP Required: https://aarp.cvent.com/GenSilent927 or 877-926-8300