Diana’s Little Corner in the Nutmeg State: Maine Weekend

Friday, September 15, 2006

Maine Weekend

I am going up to my cousin’s cottage in Maine on the Columbus weekend in October with my brother and sister-in-law. My cousin has a cottage just south of Arcadia National Park; it is about a six hour drive from my house. My cousin will be there with their three kids and their families making it a full house. Also my other cousin might be there with his girlfriend.
I am rather dreading going up there not because everyone will be there but because I have to come out to them about me being trans. It is something I have to do if I am going to transition, I have to tell them. It is not something that they may not notice me walking-in in a dress; I think that when I transition they just might notice a little difference in me.
Oh, how I hate doing this, I dread this more than any thing else, standing up in front of family and telling them. I imagine it feels like an alcoholic standing up in front of an AA meeting and saying you’re an alcoholic or telling your family that you have a fatal disease.
Also my cousin is a devote Catholic..

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Cat.9/16/06, 7:53 AM
I got all excited for you going to Maine--I love Maine!!--until I read the rest of your post. My thoughts and prayers are with you, for soothing and understanding on both sides. I can imagine what effect this discussion would have in my own slightly freaky family, so...
...just know there are people in your corner.
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Anonymous9/16/06, 1:12 PM
This is a huge move. I wish you the best and am very proud of the step that you are taking. If you have any books or articles, I might suggest that you bring them with you -- only so that they can take the time needed to absorb this and see that you (and they) are not unique to this.

I'll be thinking of you!
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Anonymous9/17/06, 9:03 AM
This is a big step. I hope it goes well for you and you are able to enjoy your weekend. Sending positive thoughts your way...
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