Violence And The Threat Of Violence Shape Us.

Part of being trans is that worry in the back of our mind that nags us to be cautious, Laverne Cox speaks up about being attacked,

Laverne Cox speaks out on alleged transphobic attack: 'It was deeply traumatizing'
Good Morning America – Yahoo News
By Carson Blackwelder
December 23, 2020


Laverne Cox is continuing to speak out about the alleged transphobic attack she recently experienced in Los Angeles.

Recalling the incident, which occurred the Saturday after Thanksgiving while she was on a walk with her friend at Griffith Park, the "Orange Is the New Black" alum called the whole experience "deeply traumatizing" and "triggering" for her.

"Most of my life growing up in Alabama, I was bullied my whole life," Cox, 48, told "Good Morning America" on Wednesday. "Transitioning as a transgender woman in New York City I was harassed on the street practically every day, on the subway."
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Cox explained, "It was a reminder for me, even though I'm like 'Laverne Cox, the actress who's on TV,' that if you are a trans person in public your life can be in danger and your safety can be in danger and the safety of people around you can be in danger just being trans in public."

We are never free of the violence, no matter how good you can assimilate into society, there is always that change of violence.

It's her hope, she shared, that people use this opportunity to "question their relationship to gender and policing people's gender in public."

Being a target of hate brings about a change in you, sometimes it for good and reach out to help others, and sometimes it is for the bad and you withdraw from society.

"That is an opportunity to really engage with having a good relationship with myself, and it has been messy," she continued. "It's been painful, but it's been really incredible and it's really been a great opportunity for spiritual growth."

"It's been nine months since the first quarantine in March and you can birth a baby in nine months," Cox stated. "You can birth a new you in nine months and I do feel like I'm becoming a new version of myself that I'm really excited about."

Violence tends to be top down. What I mean by that you usually find that violence is done by people who think that they are superior to you, to teach you a lesson. Take your pick… they are protecting women, because you thought that you could fool them (them meaning the perpetrator), or that they think that you were flirting with them) or they are protecting their fragile male ego.