Friday, July 12, 2013

Dating? Yeah Right!

In Dear Abby the other day she answered a question about trans-dating…
Transgender journey makes dating a challenge
Kansas City Star
July 11
Dear Abby

DEAR ABBY: I am a 30-year-old transgender woman who has just started her journey. Feeling more comfortable in my skin, I have been going to some local hangouts with friends from work and meeting straight men. My question is, when is it appropriate to disclose that I am a preoperative trans woman?

I have tried online dating on trans-friendly websites, as well as visited the local transgender bar, but those men tend only to be looking for sex, and I am looking for more than that. I would love your advice on the matter. — Starting My Journey
She never really answers the question; instead she talks about safe sex. Which is important but it is not what she asked.

For trans-people dating is a problem as “Starting My Journey” said, you have to find someone who is OK with you being trans and you have to find a person who is attracted to you, and they are few and far between. I would estimate that the chances of you find someone is about the same as getting hit by lighting… but people get hit by lighting every day.

My answer to “Starting My Journey” is to get out of the bars; of course you are finding people there who just want sex with a trans-person. We have a name for them, “Tranny chasers.” Get out there and interact with other people.

I got hit by lighting last August when right out of the blue… WHAM!

When I posted about the speech that I was giving on Facebook a woman that I had known for a number of years sent me an email asking if anyone could attend the workshop. Before the workshop we talked and then than afterward I asked her if she want to go to dinner. We dated for a little over 3 months and then we kind of realized that the spark wasn’t there.

Earlier this month I went to a lesbian dance and I had a good time there and I think I’ll go to the next dance, because you never know what tomorrow will bring. Tonight I’m going to a fundraiser for the non-profit that I’m on the Board of Directors; I doubt I’ll meet any women there because it is a gay bar but you never know. There was I woman I meet there at the last fundraiser, her son was one of the performers and we talked until the show started.

1 comment:

  1. Well you know, some people never even come close to being struck by lightning, and others can't seem to avoid it. I guess I'm one of the latter.

    I've been with the same guy for seven years now, and married for the last two.