Monday, December 06, 2021

What Is With People Now A Days?

It seems like all civility has disappeared, on planes, trains, and automobiles, in stores and in public people are going berserk and turning to violence. Hate crimes are increasing across the country.
A veteran Taco Bell worker of 20 years says he quit because customers have gotten so 'unreasonable' and hard to deal with
Business Inside
By Mary Meisenzahl
December 3, 2021

After 20 years of working at Taco Bell, a worker told Insider that he's leaving because customers have gotten too difficult in the past year.

The worker, whose employment was confirmed by Insider and who asked to remain anonymous for fears of impacting his future employment, has been in the fast-food industry for years, putting in six years at McDonald's before his two-decade career at Taco Bell.
The employee says that things have gotten especially bad since the COVID-19 pandemic began in early 2020. Customers have become more critical and angry towards workers in the service industry, and suddenly "people think it's perfectly okay to be intolerant, demand things, and just be unreasonable," he said, to the point where his work is "almost untenable."
In the air...
Fed up with being cursed out and attacked, flight attendants speak out about unruly passengers
By Andrea Day and Chris DiLella
July 15 2021

They’ve been cursed out, grabbed and even punched in the head.

Flight attendants are now speaking out publicly about the stress of managing increasingly unruly passengers at 35,000 feet, a job that’s gotten more difficult in recent months as passengers return to the skies after months of lockdowns.

The Covid-19 pandemic has forced flight attendants to enforce federal rules requiring masks on planes, a mandate that’s touched a political nerve for many Americans and led to a rise in bad behavior onboard.

“It’s definitely out of control,” said flight attendant Matthew Cook, one of two flight attendants who agreed to speak to CNBC on the record as long as their employer wasn’t identified. “I have apprehensions [about] going to work every day. I have a lot of anxiety.”
Is it because of COVID or the state of politics in the country have we lost all civility to one another in America? Is it just in America or is it world wide?
Guest Column: May civility reign
The Bulletin
By Joe Craig
November 29, 2021

It is the holiday season, a season of thankfulness and hope. It can also be a season of stress; stress from shopping, stress from COVID concerns and stress from managing relationships with friends and family with differing opinions. For many this is the time of year to give to those that are less fortunate. I propose that we also give each other the gift of civility this holiday season. It is important that we fully understand what it means to be civil, because in recent years being uncivil has become a social norm.

On Nov. 18, Joe Sluka, the president and CEO at St. Charles Health System, wrote an email about civility and I thank him for his well-stated message. In his email he said that according to Thomas Spath and Cassandra Dahnke, the founders of the Institute for Civility in Government: “Civility is claiming and caring for one’s identity, needs and beliefs without degrading someone else’s in the process.” The Institute for Civility website,, goes on to say: Civility is about more than just politeness, although politeness is a necessary first step.

It is about disagreeing without disrespect, seeking common ground as a starting point for dialogue about differences, listening past one’s preconceptions, and teaching others to do the same. Civility is the hard work of staying present even with those with whom we have deep-rooted and fierce disagreements. It is political in the sense that it is a necessary prerequisite for civic action. But it is political, too, in the sense that it is about negotiating interpersonal power such that everyone’s voice is heard, and nobody’s is ignored.
Civility is have respect for others, it is about empathy, and caring for others. It is about “us” and not “me.” It is not just about holding doors open for others, it is about accepting others for who they are. It is about not denying other people right to exist.

It is as James Baldwin said,
We can disagree and still love each other, unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.
It is about recognizing that slavery existed, it is about recognizing that systematic racism exists. It is about stopping the policies that deny rights to other individuals and communities.

Politics in this country is being used as a wedge to divide communities, it is being used to stir up hate to divide us into them and us and to tell the truth I don’t know how to stop it. I think the feeling of helplessness is fueling the lack of civility… the “Fuck you” attitude.

I think that many see the world is changing and they want to stop it, they don’t like the change, change bring stress, stress brings fear, fear bring self-defense the circling the wagons response.

I know that in me what triggers a lack of civility is tell LGBTQ+ that we do not have the right to exist, passing laws forcing us back into the closet. I think that lack of civility is justified and what I don’t understand is why they hate us? All we want is for us to live our lives in peace. What is so wrong with that?

What are your thoughts on how to bring civility and empathy back?


  1. It's the Trump Syndrome. The average American saw how their former leader acted and assume it is ok to act like he did.

  2. I agree with Stana. Also, one problem with bad behavior, like bad news,is that it multiplies so fast in a corrupt national environment. We are seeing it in a no limit presidency, where Trump did and said what he liked, his children did the same, and all the sycophants he surrounded himself held the nightly news in thrall.