Despite our varied experience in our families--both of origin and of choice, it is the presenter's opinion family ties are precious to us; maintaining families across a gender transition is often an incredible challenge and journey for all involved, particularly for children. This workshop will focus on the methods the presenter has successfully used in his private practice over the past ten years to transition families (and the relationships within the family) along with the transperson.
What I got out the lecture was about how to tell small kids (five – ten) about someone who is transitioning. Play an imagine game; imagine if you were a squirrel, what would it feel like and then go on to other animals like birds, frog, etc. then have them imagine that they are the other gender. Then tell well your uncle/aunt feels hat way and they are going to become your aunt/uncle. For older kids don’t sit down with them and talk to them, let them come to you when they have questions.
The other seminar that was interesting was given by Helen Boyd called “Trans Sexuality” which was about cooping with ours and our partner’s sexuality and identity. One of thing that Helen had to deal with as her husband, Betty dealt with his gender identity was how they were perceived by others. Helen identified as heterosexual, but as they went out more and more in public with her husband as Betty they were being perceived as a lesbian couple. They found it harder to show public affection. Helen and Betty related stories about riding on a train and Betty not being able to curl up on Helen’s shoulder and sleep or when they were walking down a street holding and having kids chant “Lesbos” at them. They are trying to work this out together and they say the most important thing is to communicate and listen to what your partner is saying.
All dolled up for the Banquet on Saturday's night banquet
This sounds like a very interesting conference. I suppose that communication with your partner would be of the utmost importance, especially during the transition.
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