One thing that is hard for people to get their head around is non-binary gender, we have always thought of gender in a male/female binary but as usual it is the kids that are leading the way.
7 Young People on Their Views of GenderThe article also has the stories of five other non-binary young adults.
New York Times
By Annie Tritt
About two years ago, I began photographing transgender and “gender-expansive” children and young adults in the United States and Europe. I wanted to ask this question: “Who are we beyond ideas tied to our gender?” The answer is critical not only to the transgender community, I believe, but to everyone.
In the younger participants, I have found self-assuredness and confidence; they are clear about who they are. In the older youths — especially the nonbinary ones who identify as both genders, or neither — I see a willingness to break free from boxes society puts us into. In all of them, there is creativity and compassion for peers and strangers alike.
Bay Area, California. Nonbinary.
“I asked my mom if I could text her something. I texted her that I am attracted to boys and that I feel more girl than boy. Later that year, I found the term nonbinary. It just felt right. I still am often scared of the reactions of people when I tell them.
“As a trans person who has experienced hate, I want people to understand that nobody deserves to be hated. Everyone deserves love, regardless of race, gender, sexuality.”
Kyla and Mya (twins), 18
Los Angeles. Nonbinary.
“I feel most comfortable in the space between the gender binary, a space where I’m allowed to construct my own ideas of gender and gender expression. That means I feel more masculine than feminine. For many, this is a hard concept to understand.
I have my own theory of non-binary individuals. As the research comes in about trans people showing that in a certain area of our brain develops more towards the gender that we identify with than with our external gender, I wonder what happens when that area of the brain just doesn’t develop any differential of gender? Would the person not have a binary view of their gender?
But whatever the reason it once again boils down to “asking the person their gender.”