Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed.

Morality cannot be legislated, but behavior can be regulated. Judicial decrees may not change the heart, but they can restrain the heartless.

Martin Luther King Jr.

Friday, February 29, 2008

Well, I Sent In My Application Today

I stopped by the Admissions Office today to leave off my application for the Master’s program at the School of Social Work. Now I just have to sit back and wait for the infamous letter, they say that if it is thick envelope – it’s good news and a thin envelope – its bad news.
Today was the last day to apply, I was waiting for my last Letter of Recommendation, so once the mail came I drove up to the campus to leave of the application. Nothing like just making it under the wire.

On another topic, Wednesday night I went to a local Catholic Women’s College to do an Outreach with three other friends. Most of the students are Psychology majors so we were asked some good questions, normally we get all fluff questions like, what bathrooms do you use? This time we were asked some questions like what was our childhood like and were our parents strict, but there were some fluff questions also. When we were asked about our sexual orientation and I said that I was attracted to women; I heard a woman up in back say to another woman, “I wasn’t expecting that.” That is a common reaction, it seems that everyone thinks that we must be attracted to men because we feel like a woman, but (and it is a big BUT) sexual orientation and gender identity are located in two separate regions of the brain. We talked for about ninety minutes and then went out to dinner afterwards.

Friday Fill-Ins #61

Janet’s Friday Fill-Ins #61

1. I'm looking forward to _testifying _ next week.
2. I don't handle _stress_ very well.
3. _Lobster_ is something I could eat every day. (Of course my doctor might not want me to eat lobster every day.)
4. Warmth and sunlight _feels great after a cold winter_.
5. _The Capital_ here I come!
6. I _hate_ tattoo(s).7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to _watching the snow come down_, tomorrow my plans include _finding a new book to read_ and Sunday, I want to _go hiking_!

A Well Deserved Award.

Pride nominates HRC for Pink Brick

Bay Area Reporter
by Seth Hemmelgarn

For the first time, an LGBT organization has been nominated for San Francisco Pride's Pink Brick award – an award meant to recognize groups and individuals who've run afoul of the community or pushed for antigay measures.

The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) and its president, Joe Solmonese, are nominated this year for continuing to support a proposed federal Employment Non-Discrimination Act that does not include protections for transgender individuals.

I think the runner up should be, Congressman Barney Frank (D-Massachusetts)

Thursday, February 28, 2008

Bad Questions to Ask

I found this on My Husband's Betty Message Board...

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

I Am On A Roll This Morning

I came across this on Pam’s Houseblend… Always Steamin. and I am steaming over this article
In Canada, Some Doctors Refuse to Do Paps
RH Reality Check
By Pamela Pizarro

… she responded by saying that in one case it is actually the doctor's receptionist who won't allow her young unmarried friend to make an appointment for a pap smear saying that she is too young and doesn't need one (she was 19 at the time of the incident)…
...She reminded me that doctors have a "conscience clause," allowing them to refuse prescriptions for birth control, abortion, and now pap smears. The conscious clause is put in place by the Canadian Medical Association so that physicians are not forced to act in any way that goes against their personal beliefs....

I always felt that a doctor never could turn a patient away, that they were morally bound to treat everyone. Where is this nonsense going to end? Would a doctor be able to refuse a patient who is Jewish? Would a doctor be able to refuse a patient because they are black? Or because they are lesbian, gay, transgender or bisexual?
They are licensed to practice medicine. It seem that in Canada it gives them a license to discriminate, I bet that if a business refused service because the woman was unmarried that would be discrimination.

Grrr… !

I know I shouldn’t let it get to me, but it does.
I had a Jehovah Witness come to my door and insult me in my house. I answered the door and there was a woman standing there with a Watchtown booklet in her hand.

She said;”Good morning sir,
Its miss!
Have you heard ….. sir
IT IS MISS! And I have my own religious beliefs.
Yes sir…
What? You come to my house to insult me? Please leave now!
Yes sir.

They have no respect, I have asked them repeatedly to not to come to my door but they ignore my wishes and now they insult me. They are worst than telemarketers! Maybe I have scared them away this time and marked my down as gay, but then on the other hand they might see it as a challenge.

Slow down Diana, count to ten, take a slow breath and I say I will not let this bother me…

Monday, February 25, 2008

Stop The HATE!

Less than ten days since I wrote about the girl in Oxford California being murdered because she was gender variant, another child was murdered this time in Fort Lauderdale.

Gay teen shot dead while dressed as woman in Fort Lauderdale
By Brian Haas and Sofia Santana | South Florida Sun-Sentinel
February 23, 2008

FORT LAUDERDALE - The shooting death of a gay teenage boy who was dressed in women's clothing is being investigated as a possible hate crime, while detectives try to determine whether he was targeted because of his sexual orientation.

Simmie Williams Jr., 17, was attacked on the 1000 block of Sistrunk Boulevard by two young men who wore dark clothing and might live in the neighborhood, police said. Williams, who was wearing a dress and was known in the area by his first name or as "Chris" or "Beyonce," was shot about 12:45 a.m. Friday and soon afterward died at Broward General Medical Center, police said.It's unclear what Williams was doing in the area, about four miles from his house, but police are investigating whether he was working as a prostitute, officials said.


And in Detriot…

Details slow to emerge in apparent murder of trans woman
By Jason A. Michael
Pride Source

DETROIT -

The body of a young transgender woman was discovered Monday near the intersection of Canfield and Ellery Streets on Detroit's East Side. At press time, few details are known.

"We are trying to find out the identity of the victim," said Melissa Pope, director of victim services for Triangle Foundation. "My understanding is that the victim is African-American and in their late teens to early 20s. We're getting little pieces of information."

In addition this month a ten year old girl committed suicide in England when she told her mother that she felt that she was a girl and the mother wouldn’t let her wear make-up.

Over in England a ten-year-old girl committed suicide…

Gender torment of 10-year-old Cameron
Sheffield Star

A BOY of 10 has been found hanged at his South Yorkshire home after telling his mum he wanted to be a girl.
Tragic Cameron McWilliams had already asked for permission to wear make-up, and been teased after he was found wearing his half-sister's knickers.

His desperate mum Kelly McWilliams told a Doncaster inquest she had bought him girls' underwear to wear in private, but had refused his requests to be allowed to wear make-up.

She said: "It was apparent he was unhappy and said he wanted to be a girl. He did like girls' things."


It is time we stop persecuting people who are different, it time to stop preaching hate. We all have to take a stand against violence; we have to speak-up. We can no longer sit by while people are murdering people who are different whether because of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, physical or mental disabilities or for what ever else a person is different. I think the Reverend Jesse Jackson said it best in his poem “I am Somebody”-- we are all somebody and we can never forget that.

We have to Stop the Hate!

Manic Monday

Manic Monday for February 25, 2008

How did you celebrate your last birthday?
I went up to my brother and sister-in-law’s condo.

What's the last thing you bought yourself, just for fun?
An MP3 player

What would the child you once were think of the adult you have become?
I think I would have been very surprised to see myself today, not only when I was a child but also just ten years ago.
Not only would, as a child I be surprised at myself, but society would also surprise me to see that the general population is much more accepting. The only role models we had back there was Christine Jorgensen and Renee Richards, and I knew I wasn’t like they were portrayed in the news. They were the butt of many jokes.

Sunday, February 24, 2008

A Busy Week Ahead

It is going to be a busy week ahead, I will be doing something every day until Friday.
Today – Hiking around Hartford’s Reservoir #6 in West Hartford
Monday – Anti-Discrimination Coalition meeting in the afternoon and Connecticut TransAdvocacy Coalition (CTAC) Board meeting in the evening.
Tuesday – Lunch with some friends from where I use to work and class in the evening.
Wednesday – Outreach at a college in Hartford and then the Connecticut Outreach Society’s (COS) meeting after the outreach.
Thursday – CTAC community meeting
Friday – Whew! Relax.

Girly Meme

I copied this from Kwizgiver who got it from Tenseteacher

What color is your bra? White

Do you straighten your hair everyday? No

Do you worry about the size of your boobs? Yes, I wish that they were a little bit larger

What’s your favorite girly magazine? I do not read girly magazines

Would you kill for chocolate? No, I like chocolate, but not that much.

Jeans or Skirts? Jeans, in winter but I wear skirts more in summer.

Do you wear clothes/shoes/jewelry that’s uncomfortable? Only when I have an important meeting and I wear high heels.

Did you ever spend all day/night getting pretty for a guy? No

Did you ever cry during a romantic movie? Oh yes, like a waterfall.

Would you leave the house without makeup on? Yes, but I have to have my lipstick on.

Do you consider making out “unladylike”? In private, no.

On a scale of 1-10, how fun is shopping? 7.5

Are you spoiled? No.

Do you think lip gloss is the best? No, I like lipstick

Do you freak out if you miss your favorite show? No.

Do you yell a lot? Only if the music is too loud to talk.

How long does it take you to get ready in the morning? About 30 – 40 minutes

Do you wear sweatpants/pajama pants to school/work? Never!

Accessories make the outfit, true or false? True.

Is pink truly the best color in the entire universe? Its OK, but nothing special.

Lip gloss a must? Lipstick is, not lip gloss

Status? Single, looking for an open-minded woman.

Have you ever dressed unlike yourself to impress a guy? No.

Do you often wish there was something you could change about yourself? Yes [three guesses]

Gold or silver? Gold.

The guy girl that you like/love/whatever, what does his her name begin with? D

Do you dress up too much for holidays? No, but I wish that the family did. I think it makes the holiday special.

Do you like wearing dresses? Yes, for something special but unfortunately getting dressed up is getting out of style.

Do you write a lot of mushy love poems? No

What makeup could you not live without? Lipstick

By the Way Sunday

~Eat Your Veggies~

By the way...
What's your preference...

green beans or green peas?

Peas

carrots or cucumbers?
Carrots

corn or black-eyed peas?
Corn, especially fresh picked corn on the cob.

broccoli or brussel sprouts?
I’ll pass on this one.

potatoes or asparagus?
Potatoes – baked, boiled or fried. I love potatoes pancakes.

cabbage or spinach?
Spinach

zucchini or cauliflower?

Pass

radishes or sweet peppers?

Both, but I like sweet peepers slightly more.

Saturday Six - Episode 201

Patrick's Place: Saturday Six - Episode 201

1. When you’re going to have a regular glazed doughnut, do you prefer it hot, cold or room temperature?
Hot and sticky is nice, but I will settle for it at any temperature.

2. If you see a box of a dozen doughnuts, and there are no objections from the others in the room, can you stop at just one doughnut?
Well… I… um… only eat one… Ah… most of the time. Um, if no one is around, I might have another one.

3. Which spelling do you prefer for the treat: doughnut or donut? Which do you see most often?
Donut, I think that is the most common spelling here in the Northeast.

4. Take the quiz:
What Donut are You?




You Are a Boston Creme Donut



You have a tough exterior. No one wants to mess with you.

But on the inside, you're a total pushover and completely soft.

You're a traditionalist, and you don't change easily.

You're likely to eat the same doughnut every morning, and pout if it's sold out.



5. When was the last time you had this specific kind of donut?
Nine months ago at the last project meeting that certain engineer use to bring to the meeting.

6. If you worked in a donut store, and had to make them as part of your job, how long do you think it would take you — if at all — to become sick of even looking at a donut?
A couple of hours, I like donuts but they are way to sweet and oily to eat a lot of them.

Friday, February 22, 2008

Creative Cocktail Hour

Last night was Real Art Ways' Creative Cocktail Hour. I got there a little late and had to park in the back. They had a buffet from a new restaurant and later they had the band “The Yohimbe Brothers”. Once the band started the music was too loud for me, so I left early and when I went to leave I found my car and the whole back row blocked in. I went and complained; twenty minutes later I complained again, thirty minutes later two others people that were trapped when up and complained. By now there were five cars trying to get out.
About five minutes later, Real Art Ways’ neighbor saw our plight and opened a gate to his property and let us out that way. He was very nice to do that, he was says that he shouldn’t do it, that RAW she take care of their problem. He blocked his driveway after we left, so I do not know what the others did to get out. RAW was making announcements about moving cars out of the way but only one came out to move their car, the other three cars was still there when I left. The spot where the car was that moved, we had to keep chasing cars out of there, because they saw the open spot and pulled in.
I blame RAW somewhat because they should indicate a no parking zone for an exit, but I blame the idiots who parked there more. They could see that there was no exit but parked they there anyway and they ignored the announcements to move their car.

Friday Fill-Ins #60

Janet's Friday Fill-Ins #60

1. _Arriving_ is the best thing about traveling.
2. I love a good _cup of hot chocolate milk _ when I'm cold.
3. I often use _jar opener_.
4. I'm reading _textbooks_ right now; I _wouldn’t recommend_ it.
5. _Sex_ is something I dislike talking about.
6. When I visited _Wadsworth Atheneum _ I most looked forward to seeing _the Surrealist Paintings _.
7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to _curling up in front of the woodstove, watching the snow come down_, tomorrow my plans include _digging out_ and Sunday, I want to _go hiking, but it is going to hard to find a place to hike because of the foot of snow they forecasted for today (Friday)_!

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

It was a Great Day Today

I went to the state Capital today for Lobbying Day and it was standing room only in the Hearing room at the Legislative Office Building where the educational forum was held. There were a number of legislators and in addition a large number of allies who showed up to listen to the panel discussion. The Question and Answer period was short but the questions asked were positive, indicating that they were egger to go out and lobby.

After the forum finished, I went over to the Capital to talk to my representative but the House was in session so I had a long wait until he came out and talked to me. He told me that he fully supported and would help it to get it on the floor for a vote this year. In the area roped off for the lobbyist, we had the most lobbyist, we probably had about twenty people there to lobby for gender equality.

There were a number of students there from area colleges, who were there as allies and they wanted to know what they could do to help. Also, there were a number of trans-people who showed up; I know a lot trans-people in the community but there were a number of trans-people there that I never met before. So that was a good sign that we got the word out.

The only drawback was that I was wearing high heels and had to stand on the hard marble floor for two hours until my representative was free to talk to me. My feet were killing me, when I got home I soaked my feet in hot water… Ahh!

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

I Hate Asking for Favors

I know in my last post I asked a favor, but this is about college. I need “Letters of Recommendation” and I asked two professors to write them and they both agreed, however after over two weeks I have not heard from them so I have to call them back. I hate nagging someone who I asked for a favor, but time is running out, I have to have my application in by March 1st. As I posted in “By the Way Sunday” -- you dread doing…
Asking a favor and calling someone that I do not know on the phone. If it is someone I don’t know and I have to also ask them a favor then I really dread doing that, it is a double whammy.
This is that situation, the dreaded double whammy.

I Have A Favor To Ask

I would like to pass along to you this email and if you live in Connecticut to ask you to please help us. If you have been following my blog you know how strongly I feel about this and how important this is to everyone in Connecticut.

PLEASE Take One Hour in your day on Wednesday to Visibly Stand With Us and Say:
Discrimination is Unacceptable

DATE: Wednesday February 20th, 2008
Forum: 11:00 AM - Noon
Legislator Lobbying: Following Forum

LOCATION: Room 2A at the Legislative Office Building in Hartford [300 Capital Ave, Hartford] Directions

MORE: On Wednesday, February 20, 2008 from 11 AM till Noon, the Anti-Discrimination Coalition will be holding an educational forum on the Gender Identity and Expression Anti-Discrimination Bill in room 2A at the Legislative Office Building in Hartford, to be followed by a lobby day event.

View Flyer
View Anti-Discrimination Bill Q&A
View Anti-Discrimination Bill Info Sheet

This is your chance to learn about the Gender Identity and Expression Anti-discrimination bill to be raised in the upcoming CT Legislative session and its impact on our state's residents. Following the forum you will have the opportunity to talk to your representatives about the bill and why it is important, with materials provided by the Anti-Discrimination Coalition. See TransEqualityCT.org website for background information and bill updates to be released during the 2008 CT Legislative session.

The panel will feature Rachel Goldberg, Jennifer Levi, Virginia Levasseur and Jerimarie Liesegang. Panelists will discuss proposed legislation that would add the phrase "gender identity or expression" to Connecticut's non-discrimination law, thereby prohibiting discrimination on the basis of gender identity or expression in education, employment, housing, public accommodations and lending. Should this bill pass, Connecticut will be joining 13 other states and Washington, DC in protecting its residents from this kind of discrimination.

If you have any questions, please contact Sally, Coordinator, Anti-Discrimination Coalition, (860) 247-6090 ext. 23, stamarkin @ cwealf.org

Sincerely,
The CT Anti-Discrimination Coalition

Are You a Redneck




You Are 5% Redneck



I'll slap you so hard, your clothes will be outta style.

You ain't no redneck - you're all Yankee!



I didn't think I would score that high, it must have been the time I went hunting when I was 16.

Monday, February 18, 2008

Manic Monday

Manic Monday for February 18, 2008

What do you order when you eat Chinese food?
This is a very easy question for me; I hate Chinese food so I do not eat it.

How much have you controlled the course your life has taken?

I believe we have no control in what was handed to us but we control on how we handle it.

Whose opinion do you value when deciding how to vote?

I do not listen to anyone person; instead, I try forming my own opinion from all sources.

Sunday, February 17, 2008

Desktop

I saw this at Fleur de Lisa

Capture a picture of your computer’s desktop.*
Post it on your blog along with a link to who tagged you.
Tag some people.

*Here’s how you can do a screen capture:

1- View desktop and press the Print Scrn key (located in the upper right corner of your keyboard on the same row as the F12 key). It’s Command-Control-Shift-3 for Mac.
2- Open a graphics program (like Picture Manager, Paint, or Photoshop) and do a Paste (CTRL + V).
3 - If you wish, you can “edit” the image, before saving it, but it is best that no icons be deleted before the screen capture so as to add to the element of fun.

So here is mine…

It is a photography of the Race Point Light House in Provincetown MA that I took last October.

By the Way Sunday


By the way...
What are 2 things that...

make you happy?
Getting an “A” on a test and dinning out with friends

you can't wait for?
Spring and going up to the cottage

drive you crazy?

Slow drivers pulling out on to the highway and people who chew gum

encourage you?
My friends and family

make you sleepy?
Reading a textbook and a full meal

make you sad?
Someone who lies to me and a “Chick Flick” (I hate that term, but it is the easiest way to describe the movie.)

you dread doing?
Asking a favor and calling someone that I do not know on the phone. If it is someone I don’t know and I have to also ask them a favor then I really dread doing that, it is a double whammy.

you wish you had?
Well I’ll pick the obvious ones, health and wealth.

you'd like to give to others?
Love and caring

you plan to do today?

Finish writing my weekly class journal and relaxing

Saturday, February 16, 2008

Saturday Six - Episode 200

Patrick’s Place: Saturday Six - Episode 200

1. Other than a period, which punctuation mark do you think you use the most?
The comma, I think I over use it.

2. If a question mark indicated that you are inquisitive and an explanation point indicated that you are excitable, which mark best represents your personality?
The question mark, I am very inquisitive.

3. Which punctuation mark gave you the most trouble in school?
The comma, I never when to use it or not to use it.

4. Take the quiz: What’s Punctuation Mark Are You?




You Are a Question Mark



You seek knowledge and insight in every form possible. You love learning.

And while you know a lot, you don't act like a know it all. You're open to learning you're wrong.



You ask a lot of questions, collect a lot of data, and always dig deep to find out more.

You're naturally curious and inquisitive. You jump to ask a question when the opportunity arises.



Your friends see you as interesting, insightful, and thought provoking.

(But they're not always up for the intense inquisitions that you love!)



You excel in: Higher education



You get along best with: The Comma



5. Which do you tend to be better at: punctuation or spelling?
Neither. I am horrible at both. Thank goodness for Microsoft spelling and grammar checker.

6. If you could banish one punctuation mark forever, which would you choose and why?
The semicolon because then I wouldn’t have to guess which to use; a comma or a semicolon.

There Are a Lot of Sickos Out There.

I am not talking about what happened at Northern Illinois University, that was horrible but what I am talking about is the press release from the Westboro Baptist Church. Their press release is sick, hateful and a perversion. They blamed the mass murders on the fact that there was a LGBT conference that was headed by a transsexual minister at the university.

Stop the Hate


P.S. I debated with myself on whether or not I should include the link because I didn't want to give the web-site a link and I decided not to. Those who want to verify what I wrote email me and I will send you the link.



Friday, February 15, 2008

Friday Fill-Ins: #59

Janet’s Friday Fill-Ins: #59

1. Snowdrops are _like crocuses_.
2. I'm going to _the dogs_.
3. _"Turn the Page"_ is a song whose lyrics have meaning to me.
4. Just one sip and _love will get you_.
5. _When I am home_ is where I'm happiest.
6. I believe that _love_ is a necessary part of life.
7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to _seeing Varla Jean Merman Loves A Foreign Tongue at Trinity College (if there are tickets still available)_, tomorrow my plans include _The 2007 Academy Award Nominated Short Animation at Real Art Ways_ and Sunday, I want to _have lunch with my brother and sister-in-law_!

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Here Is What Can Be Done To Make School Safer For Gender Variant Children

Here is good example of what can be done to make schools safer for gender variant students...